Solutions presents interactive workshops
on topics such as systemic coaching, happiness, resolving family chaos and
relationship bonds. Email us.
Some people wonderfully coach themselves
through horrendous life crises. These people use a strategy for choosing
strategies; a master strategy which was refined and integrated to become ...
Soulwork Systemic Coaching
Each systemic coaching step
fulfills the goal of the previous step, as preparation for the success of the next
step. The sequence of systemic coaching is as important as the goals
or the changework methods. An ineffective coaching sequence may result in endless
wasted time - perhaps resolving non-critical "issues" or making plans
that lack relevance to goals or to life!
Success coaching can be simple if you have no benefit for failing!
However, your success may be complicated by your circumstances, relationships, mental or
physical disease, conflicts, limiting beliefs, unpleasant emotions or toxic role models.
Do you wait
for success to come to you? Do you wait for "suffering" to
motivate you? Do you wait for "good advice", or for someone to tell you
what to do? Do you wait for permission to enjoy life?
Can you leave all that behind and move on?
Relationship Diagnosis We can coach
you to assess and predict their life situations by analyzing your
"relationship matrix". (A relationship matrix is a semi-conscious
"map" of the perceived spatial positions of your relationships.)
This provides much information required for your subsequent Relationship
Clarification, Guilt Management and Goal Coaching.
Relationship Clarification We
can coach you to untangle relationships. This makes space for accelerated Goal
Diagnosis and Goal Coaching. This includes recognizing and dissolving
"transference" and relationships with people who are
valued for what they represent rather than who they are.
Guilt Management Guilt refers to an
unpleasant body sensation - and to a depressed sense-of-life that often follows
harming somebody. Guilt most frequently follows perceived harm to a parent,
a partner or a child. We can coach you and your family or team to sort out guilt issues
to enhance your "sense-of-life" and re-access youthful motivation.
We can coach you to assess and predict appropriate steps to your chosen success.
We listen and respond to your verbal
and nonverbal (unconscious) communication associated with each step. This
clarifies the nature and extent
of your "blocks" to success, and your needed resources.
Goal Coaching We can coach you
to define and plan your congruent goals. We can coach you to clarify philosophy,
negative goals, conflicts and abstractions that you may have in place of goals.
Conflict Resolution We can coach you to find
your overall life direction by recognizing and resolving conflicts.
We coach individuals, couples and teams to make basic life decisions, or
to integrate any complex multiple-goal conflicts.
Identity Changework We can coach you to
resolve your existential identity issues (identity loss) - that we call Lost Identity,
Identifications and Identity Conflict. We can coach you through
this deep and delicate work that integrates relationship diagnosis, goal
diagnosis, goal coaching and conflict resolution.
Many toxic beliefs represent connections to important people. These
connections are often perceived as "unwanted influence" or
manipulation, and usually concern issues of power. Toxic beliefs may also
involve the control or influence of assets, actions, beliefs and/or
values. We can coach you to identify toxic
beliefs - and to carefully change the relationships that require such bonds.
Trauma Resolution We coach you
to identify and dissolve limiting emotions. Limiting emotions
usually represent unresolved past trauma, which you may have forgot. Following trauma resolution,
your motivation can flow,
together with recovered resources or qualities that had been
lost or forgotten since the trauma.
Expert Modeling We coach you to identify and
improve their expert strategies. This includes resolving
objections to success, identifying both conscious and unconscious
strategies and refining these strategies for your peak performance.
Then duplicate expert performance strategies in motivated individuals.
Expert modeling often includes improving decisions, creativity and motivation.
Mentorship We coach you to identify and
disconnect from toxic role models and to find inspirational mentors for
important goals. After dissolving relationship and emotional "blocks",
mentorship can provide ongoing inspiration.
Overview of Soulwork Systemic Coaching
Soulwork Systemic Coaching explores what
you want, where you are now and how you can succeed. Systemic Coaching
goals include your material success, desired emotions and relationship success.
What do you want? Does a life crisis prevent you, a friend, family member
or an employee from focusing
on goals? We can coach you to resolve crises SO THAT coaching
becomes possible. Many people "age-regress" in
a crisis, and act childishly. If you wait for others to resolve crises
FOR you, you may become immature and dependent! We coach you to resolve your own crises!
What do you want? Goals often indicate to
whom you are entangled. We coach you to resolve relationship entanglements
that interfere with your goals. Common relationship entanglements are with parents, partners,
ex-partners and children. Relationship confusion (e.g. reacting to your partner
as if to a parent, or responding to
your employee as if to a child) has predictable and unpleasant consequences.
Resolving entanglements accelerates your subsequent coaching ... and your life.
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What do you want? Conflicting goals may indicate choices or problems. We can coach
you to identify and dissolve conflict. You may show conflicts both
verbally and non-verbally, often as lack of action or short-term motivation.
We can coach you to find the hidden benefits of conflicts, and to
resolve them. After resolving inner conflict, you can focus on congruent
The end of conflict is an experience
of integrity. This experience seems to transcend both space and time,
and is often called "connectedness". We can coach you to
find and stabilize this experience as a life-resource, while defining your life directions
(or mission or purpose). After experiencing and stabilizing integrity, your subsequent
coaching is increasingly self-directed.
As you specify "life goals", you may find limiting beliefs hindering
fulfillment of these goals. We can coach you to recognize and change key emotional bonds
and relationship beliefs. Each step increases freedom
and possibilities. We can coach you to specify a life direction into a
sensible sequence of well-defined, meaningful steps. As you change your
relationship bonds, subsequent coaching becomes increasingly concrete.
Relationship Bonds with Soulwork
People may have plans for important goals, yet lack
motivation due to some trauma. We can coach you to resolve motivational blocks.
We can coach you to transform your "unpleasant" emotions into
motivation. For example, sadness for time wasted can become motivation to
enjoy whatever time remains. As trauma is resolved, you find motivation
to reach your chosen goals.
and PTSD with Soulwork
You may have motivation but little inspiration! We can coach you to evaluate
past and present role models, disconnect from toxic role-models, and to choose
and model inspirational mentors that inspired them to achieve their goals. With focus, integrity,
supportive beliefs, motivation and inspirational mentorship -
you can find and fulfill their goals - and life purpose!
Soulwork Systemic Coaching is provided
by certified Soulwork trainers, coaches, and by teams of coaches with appropriate
specialties. We offer
Training in Soulwork Systemic Coaching is only provided by licensed Soulwork
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We avoid advice or
criticism. We accept and encourage, we provoke and challenge, we explore goals
and consequences; we help you accelerate success. Appropriate love is always
Are you motivated and
emotionally stable? You can coach people to gain clarity, dissolve success and relationship issues, and understand what makes sense in life.
You can help people build success and quality relationships. You can help people fulfill their dreams.