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Systemic Solutions Training

Systemic Solutions with Martyn Carruthers

Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from childhood trauma? Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's moods, your children's demands? Systemic Solutions can help you untangle your life ... and you can help people reclaim their freedom.

Do you enjoy solving problems?

Systemic Coach Personal Development Specialty Training

Do you want to do something truly worthwhile?

You can help people solve emotional and relationship blocks to happiness and success - and build a second income.

This is especially appropriate for therapists, counselors, etc

You can learn systemic coaching in eight 5-day workshops.

Overview of Coach Training

Do you want to improve your communication and relationship skills at home and at work?

We can help you increase your freedom from entanglements and relationship habits.

You can sort out personal issues during demonstrations and exercises.

For rapid personal development ...

Relationship Skills

 Do you want to help people in special situations?

Do you want to help people handle issues such as abortion, adoption, compulsions etc.

Or you perhaps you want to be a Soulwork supervisor or trainer...

Specialty workshops are 2-day or 5-day.

Specialty Training

Systemic Coach Skills Training


Is this you?

  1. Do you want to help people - or help yourself?
  2. Do you want to enjoy building success?
  3. Do you want to enjoy your own development?
  4. Are you friendly, and motivated to help people?

Your next steps

  1. Get our coaching - experience the benefits of coaching
  2. Compare Soulwork to other coach training schools
  3. Consider organizing our coach training in your region

And then

  1. Attend our coach training
  2. Learn how to set up, market and provide systemic coaching
  3. Find simple and cost effective ways to share your skills
  4. Add systemic coaching to your professional skills
  5. Improve your communication and your relationships
  6. Consider offering an essential coaching service

Learn each step and how it fits into the overall model. Watch demonstrations and practice those skills. Discuss what happened and what could have happened. You can learn very quickly this way.

Solve what stops people solving problems

  1. Evaluate and clarify human systems and relationships
  2. How to define goals, resolve objections & plan for success
  3. End self-criticism & inner conflict to recover integrity
  4. How to recover identity loss; missing qualities, expertise and skills
  5. How to dissolve relationship bonds for healthy relationships
  6. Dissolve emotional trauma and rebuild motivation
  7. End mentor damage & find inspirational mentorship
  8. Coach couples and partners simultaneously

Join us for practical training. Learn the Soulwork sequence - how to plan sessions, how to make coaching contracts, how to clarify difficult relationships; how to resolve guilt and conflicts; how to control obsessions and end compulsions; how to change toxic relationships and limiting beliefs; how to deal with trauma and how to provide appropriate mentorship. Advanced & Specialty Training is available.

Systems Coaching & Individual Coaching

In Systems Coaching, the client is a relationship system, rather than a member. Individual coaching is about increasing individual happiness and success. Coaching human systems is about increasing systemic success - systemic coaching increases the adaptability and survival potential of relationship systems. Individual coaching may be embedded within systemic coaching.

  I've been doing "Soulwork" for many years in private practice counseling / psychotherapy ... Your website felt like meeting a new, yet longstanding friend. How might I work more closely with you? LA, Therapist, Detroit

Overview of Systemic Solutions Training

Our coach training can help you develop your skills in planning, assessing and implementing systemic changework with individuals, couples, families and groups. Develop your skills in courses of increasing complexity, that follow the sequence of our systemic coaching.

Systems 1: Systemic Diagnosis & Guilt

  • How success, health and relationships are interconnected
  • How relationships evolve in a hierarchy of relationship types
  • How to quickly assess relationship health and habits
  • How to make fast relationship diagnosis as part of a coaching plan
  • How to create and interpret a relationship matrix (family map)

Learn how to recognize relationship chaos and clarify transferences. How to stay resourceful in chaos. How to recognize emotional incest and codependence. How to dissolve entanglements and damaged relationships with parents, partners and children. How to select exercise partners and choose clients.

Systems 2: Goal Diagnosis & Objections

Few people know what they want. More people know what they don't want, or what they should want, or have an abstract goal direction. Most people object to their own goals. Most people have conflicts.

Learn how to recognize and respond to verbal and non-verbal objections. Learn goal diagnosis and whole-brain planning. Learn how to dissolve "Yes-No" and "Yes-but" objections in ordinary conversation.

Explore proven ways to coach people to use both conscious and unconscious resources to make effective plans for action plans.

Systems 3: Conflicts, Dreaming Together & Integrity

Learn to recognize and utilize spontaneous trance, changing reality using isomorphic and interactive metaphors (dreaming together). Learn how to rapidly identify and dissolve conflicts and how to coach people to make decisions. This also helps you coach people to end nightmares or recurring dreams.

Recognize and dissolve complex conflict (conflict which cannot be resolved by sequencing goals).

Recognize common blocks to coaching and identify which clients cannot be coached. Learn advanced coaching - how people can use transcendental states, and experience integrity. Learn how to stabilize integrity as a basis for dissolving emotional incest, relationship bonds and trauma.

Systems 4: Trauma & PTSD

Many people who cannot achieve their goals carry unresolved and often forgotten trauma. Until these trauma are resolved, these people may act childishly in situations requiring maturity. They will likely sabotage themselves, damage relationships and continue to fail
The consequences of trauma and PTSD may be contextual, (e.g. a phobia) or existential (all of life). Trauma may create the identity issues of Soulwork 4 and relationship bonds (see Soulwork 5). Attempts to resolve trauma without resolving identity issues and relationship bonds provide only short-term benefits at best. Soulwork coach training provides effective skills.
  • recognize and dissolve the consequences of emotional trauma
  • recover lost or hidden resources - for the long-term
  • transform limiting emotions into profound motivation
  • dissolve trauma about disease and health issues

Systems 6

Another piece of the complex and comprehensive system called Soulwork. I hope that Soulwork develops and spreads, so that it can help people to fulfill their lives. Professor Martin Šmid, (PhD, Prague)

Systems 5: Relationship Bonds

Many people feel "bonded" to repeat actions that they would prefer to avoid. Compulsions and obsessions often reflect relationship bonds - deep limiting beliefs that pervade all parts of life. Explore their deep structure as you learn how to end relationship damage and help people improve their lives.
In Soulwork 5 you can learn how to:
  • recognize seven types of relationship bonds
  • coach people to identify bonded relationships
  • limit the consequences of relationship bonds
  • replace toxic bonds with peaceful self-esteem, freedom and love

Systems 6: Identity Loss

Many people suffer existential (all life) blocks against happiness; and endless goal coaching cannot help them find meaningful goals. This includes people who have lost themselves (identity loss), and people who have identified with others (identification).

In Systems 4 you can learn how to explore the varieties of identity loss and effective ways for restoring personal integrity with systemic relationship coaching and interactive metaphors. You will witness many demonstrations with real issues, and you will practice to build your experience:
  • Lost Identity (person lives in endless dissociation)
  • Identity Conflict (person lives in endless conflict)
  • Dead Person Identification (person lives in endless sadness or melancholy)
  • Victim Identification (person lives in endless anger or rage)
  • Hero Identification (person lives in endless fear or anxiety)

Extreme identity loss maybe diagnosed as a mental disorder. After identity loss is resolved, Soulwork addresses relationship bonds and emotional trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5 and 6, are a basis for resolving complex entanglements that can cause depressionbipolar disorder and anxiety disorders.

Systems 7: Inspiration & Mentorship

Learn how to evaluate and replace toxic role models and mentors. Help people choose inspirational mentors in all parts of life. Learn how to model and duplicate expert behavior, focusing on problem solving techniques. Learn how to mentor people to build and fine-tune life-fulfilling goals.

Systems 7 includes ways to dissolve the consequences of inappropriate mentorship from cults and cult-like organizations (see Exit Coaching), incompetent therapists and well-meaning friends.

  • recognize mentor damage and coach people to dissolve it
  • expert modeling of conscious and unconscious strategies
  • compare and fine tune unconscious strategies
  • discuss solutions for sexual issues
  • start a systemic coaching practice

Systems 8: Couple Coaching

Coach couples or partners to solve issues that prevent them from solving their problems. Coach partners to coach each other! Coach couples to increase love and resolve complaints. Dissolve transferences (mistaking a partner for someone else) and projections (pretending to be someone else).

Coach couples to prepare for committed partnership, end relationship damage and, sometimes, coach couples to separate peacefully. Conjoint (simultaneous) coaching is true systemic coaching.

  • how to prepare for couple coaching & divorce coaching
  • how to quickly uncover partnership issues
  • how and when to intervene individually
  • how to resolve transferences and core transference loops
  • how to set homework for couples

 Systems 9 - Family Coaching . Systems 10 - Team Coaching

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email