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Do You Want Client Referrals
© Martyn Carruthers

Online Life Coaching & Mentorship

Are you enmeshed in difficult relationships or painful emotions?
Do you struggle with unresolved trauma or emotional abuse?
Do you want to untangle your life and reclaim your emotional freedom?

Are you a helping professional? Do you want more clients?

We train people in our systemic (relationship) coaching.
When these people ask us about coaches in their area, we refer these
people to our graduates as a free service and to other coaches for a fee.

We receive many enquiries from people seeking coaches in areas where
we have no graduates. We can refer potential personal clients to you
in return for 50% of your first paid session with each referred person.
No fee for you means no fee for us. We take the risk.

If clients tell us nice things about your service, we refer more people to you.
Email us a few words about yourself and your experience.

Are you a Coach?

Do you help people specify and plan their goals? Do you coach people to dissolve their blocks to success? Do you counsel people who are entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions? Do you help people resolve their parents' drama, their partner's demands, their boss's moods? Do you counsel people to untangle their lives ... manage their emotions and reclaim their freedom?

Many helping professionals would like to increase how many people they help.

You are not a Coach if you don't have Clients

No matter how skillful you are and no matter how much training you have taken, you want clients to begin your coaching, and you will want new clients to stay in business.

There's a lot of hype about personal and executive coaching, and a lot of strange people call themselves coaches. Why should people choose you?

How do you Promote Yourself?

How do you demonstrate your unique ability to facilitate the changes that potential clients seek? How do you promote yourself?

  • Do you hope that friends and family will tell people?
  • Do you put ads in the library, supermarket boards and health food stores
  • Do you hope that the internet will save you? Do you invest in a website?
  • Once you have clients, do you hope that they will tell everybody about you?

Daylight Webbery?

Do you have a website? If so, it probably costs you a lot of time and energy. If your website has under 1000 downloads / month - do the math. A website is a useful and perhaps essential tool, but it probably will not be very effective for finding new clients, unless you specialize in a category or niche that many people want and cannot find elsewhere.

Do you want More Clients?

Do you have enough clients? Do you get all the referrals you want? You probably don't if youíre getting started or if you do not promote yourself effectively. We can help you.

We primarily seek organizers for our systemic coach training. We refer potential clients to our graduates, where possible, and to other coaches in regions where we have no graduates. Perhaps we can refer clients to you.

Word of Mouth Promotion

Are clients your main source of new clients? A survey of our graduates showed that about 80% of them rely on referrals as their primary source of new clients. Yet only about 10% of their clients generated referrals, and then usually less than 2 referrals. Word of mouth promotion can be wonderful - and it is not enough.

And yet if you offer a finder's fee to your clients, they may be irritated. They may say, "Of course I will tell my friends about you!" Yet they often forget.

Why Don't Clients Refer People to You?

  1. They donít want to refer inappropriate people.
  2. They donít like you or your coaching well enough.
  3. They may assume that you do not need more clients.
  4. They may not want others to know that they needed help.

Referrals by word of mouth may reflect the success of your coaching! But you need a LOT of happy clients to get that ball rolling.

We Coach Coaches

We can help you start a successful coaching practice. We can help you use systems thinking to improve your effectiveness, or you can add telephone and internet coaching to your skills.

  • Show concrete results
  • Demonstrate your coaching
  • Offer experiences of coaching
  • Offer proof that you can deliver
  • Show that you understand needs
  • Show that your goals are aligned with their lives
  • Offer flexible, cost-effective and convenient steps
  • Show people where they are now, and where they can be

Systemic Relationship Coaching

Sharing thoughts and feelings is relationship first aid. Sharing values, goals and experiences is relationship heartbeat. We coach people to resolve relationship conflicts, solve relationship problems and make clear relationship decisions.

Do you want to dissolve old bonds and repair shattered dreams?

Contact us to manage negative emotions and solve relationship problems.

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Mentorship

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All rights reserved

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email