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Relationship Modeling in Human Systems
© Martyn Carruthers

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Relationships are an integral aspect of human behavior. Relationship Modeling is a methodical approach to explore and improve relationship behavior, structures and networks in human systems.

Relationship coaching explores the topology of human relationship systems, the rational-emotional space in which people interact. Relationship modeling can explore the implications and consequences of existing or proposed human systems such as couples, families, teams or organizations.

Relationship modeling can identify and analyze the opportunities and consequences in human systems ... and help people improve relationships. Relationship modeling offers you the effective tools of Soulwork systemic coaching - tools that develop maturity and relationship intelligence.

Some Relationship Modeling Applications in Coaching

Individual coaching Enhance physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. Take responsibility. Change toxic limiting beliefs and explore own potential. Set goals and dissolve blocks.
  1. How to understand relationship systems & deal with guilt
  2. How to define goals, resolve objections & plan for success
  3. How to end self-criticism & inner conflict to recover integrity
  4. How to recover identity loss; missing qualities, expertise and skills
  5. How to dissolve relationship bonds for healthy relationships
  6. How to dissolve abuse and trauma, and rebuild motivation
  7. How to end mentor damage & find inspirational mentorship
  8. How to make and keep friends
Friendship coaching Develop strong friendships and foster interpersonal skills.
  1. How to build a relationship with non-family members, based on mutual trust - to share joy of life and get/give support for life's challenges.
  2. How to develop understanding and sharing
  3. How to share experiences and commit to sharing
  4. How to share and show gratitude
  5. How to be aware of peoples' feelings and express compassion
  6. How to speak nicely about difficult topics
  7. How to resolve conflicts
  8. How to work in teams
Team Coaching Negotiate and solve problems to create solution orientated, win-win approaches.
  1. How to build relationships with team members and professionals
  2. How to clearly communicate, fulfill own tasks, be creative and reasonable
  3. How to define a common goals
  4. How to choose a leader
  5. How to define and list tasks to be completed
  6. How to assign responsibility for each task
  7. How to develop and post timelines and checklists
  8. How to commit to long-term goals and long-term relationships
Couple Coaching

Intimate Maturity - Preparing for Partnership

  1. How to create an intimate relationship based on love and trust, for sharing life
  2. How to understand individual and sex differences for stable relationships
  3. How to be happy with each other ways of expressing and receiving love
  4. How and when to get couple coaching
  5. How to be clear about what you each expect
  6. How to keep your expectations reasonable
  7. How to model people who enjoy long happy partnerships
  8. How to stay current on each other's lives and challenges
Family Coaching Many problems between parents and children can be rapidly resolved by dissolving cross-generational entanglements and improving their communication skills.
  1. How parents can assist children to end transferences and entanglements
  2. How parents can gain wisdom required for rising children
  3. How parents can resolve financial or other problems quickly
  4. How to create a safe atmosphere for learning and growing
  5. How to set clear responsibilities and boundaries
  6. How partners can have equal power in decisions
  7. How to encourage lively and enjoyable discussions
  8. How to use humor to improve family bonding and healthy perspectives
  9. How to discuss family values, family spirit and death as a part of life

Healthy family relationships teach children to develop trust and to be trustworthy, and that they are a part of something larger than themselves!

Education How to resolve Attention Deficiency Disorder (ADD), Learning Deficiency (LD), hyperactivity and etc. How to resolve examination fear' and unpleasant feelings about learning. How to improve learning and implement accelerated learning.
Sports & Sport Coaching How to gain excellence in sports: how to develop and use physical prowess and resourceful states.
Community Development How to conduct and lead transactions within a community of stakeholders: families, vendors, customers, employees, banks, shareholders and government agencies. As the environment in which organizations function becomes more complex, leaders must learn how to maintain relationship with key stakeholders.
Organizational development How to motivate people to increase productivity for themselves and their staff. Negotiation, presentation and influencing skills are enhanced. Trusted organizations reach more employees.

How to improve relationships between management team members, management and unions, management and employees, management and suppliers.

Sales & Marketing How salespeople and marketers can build rapport, communicate effectively, convey credibility and qualify potential customers. How salespeople can dissolve self-sabotage and other systemic blocks to success.
Global Citizenship Our ultimate relationship context is our global society. Nobody today can ignore competition from companies on the opposite side of our planet. Communication technologies blur distances. Most sources of information are readily available; and every potential vendor or market is local. Humans across the planet are learning how to relate to each other ... as global citizens.

We are learning painful lessons about our pollution and our environment. We increasingly suffer the long term consequences of short-sighted practices.

Relationship Barriers: Transference & Entanglements

Relationship transferences and emotional enmeshments seem to be primary barriers to quality relationships. Transferences are mistakes of other's identity - confusing one person with another. Emotional entanglements are mistakes of own identity, feeling and expressing other people's emotions.

Relationship Barriers: Prejudice & Discrimination

Prejudice and discrimination seem to be secondary barriers to quality relationships. In any group of people, there is likely to be at least one person who has suffered from prejudice and discrimination.

Cross-Cultural Partnership . Cultural Disease

It can be difficult to recognize and change your own prejudices. There is evidence that awareness training of discriminatory issues risks increasing prejudice if the training causes participants to feel guilty or arrogant about their emotional reactions. You will likely feel accepted if you are valued for who you are and you are not under coercion to pretend that you are someone else.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email