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What are Systemic Solutions?

Online Life Coaching & Mentorship

Evolution in Action

You are evolving, and you may develop faster than the organizations of which you are a member. You can learn to create your own meaning of your own life, rather than being part of a passive mass.

Transformation is available to responsible people who desire it. A key step in this transformation is a stable experience of integration and connectedness. This helps people live a meaningful life, while resolving issues that prevented such a life. We call this experience integrity.

Executive Overview

Systemic coaching helps people to find and stabilize an experience of personal identity and connectedness, as an experience of ongoing integrity. This provides a basis for restructuring relationships, resolving traumatic memories, re-evaluating role models, and choosing mentors.

We help people find complete solutions for neurotic and addictive behavior, such as compulsions, addictions, unhealthy relationship patterns and emotional problems. This also alleviates many psychosomatic [1] symptoms, and helps prevent and accelerate the healing of physical disease [2]. Most people can begin Systemic Coaching immediately.

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Control Crisis and Stress

People in crisis (E.g.: divorce; war; pain; unwanted pregnancy; unemployment; suicidal, etc) may be unable to focus on existential issues. Instead, they may age regress and act like children. Deeper work would be difficult if a person is preoccupied with a crisis or severe stress.

Resolve Guilt

People with overwhelming guilt (from having violated important relationships) will sabotage their success and happiness until guilt is resolved. Further changework is difficult until guilt is resolved.

Dissolve objections

Resolving unconscious objections, dissolving transferences and defining goals are essential skills for all subsequent Soulwork. Problem relationships are discussed, which leads to a changework plan.

Resolve Identity Blocks

A person may have dissociated their identity during abuse or trauma, we call this identity loss. A person may identify with someone else (identification). Some people create sub-identities to represent their conflicting parents (identity conflict). These can be resolving during systemic coaching.

Evaluate Relationship Bonds

Relationships with feelings of connection (bonds) can be evaluated and changed. Unwanted bonds (E.g. “I feel bonded to a previous job - which seems to stop me finding success”) are changed. On completion, a person can express integrity within any relationship. A person gains choice in how and with whom to build relationships.

A shallow description of relationship bonds may be "feelings of connection". A "bond" to a past partner or parent may prevent a person finding a new partner. In Soulwork Systemic Coaching, we can evaluate such bonds in many ways - as influences, as beliefs, as values and sometimes as a sense of identity.

Coaching people to change relationships requires that a person has already dissolved their conflicts - otherwise the person will have conflicts about changing their relationships and is unlikely to act.

Evaluate Trauma

Traumatic experiences are often associated with strong emotions. These emotions can overwhelm a person and sabotage important goals. (E.g. “I am overcome with sadness when I remember that event.”). The sources of these emotions often include abusive and traumatic events. If a person chooses to accept lessons that were previously ignored, on completion, a person finds all emotions motivating. (E.g. “Sadness about my past reminds me to make the most of my life”).

Most negative emotions are healthy responses to unhealthy experiences. After Systemic Coaching, a person can feel resourceful while pondering or learning from unpleasant memories; and find deep, lasting motivation to achieve important goals.

Evaluate Role Models

Role models are people from whom we have consciously or unconsciously learned behaviors and attitudes. After trauma resolution, a person can identify and evaluate role models, and choose whether to replace the role models and the imitated beliefs and behaviors. A person can choose which role models to emulate and which new behaviors to actualize.

On completion, a person can choose which influences are desirable, and resolve remaining unwanted behaviors in alignment with that person’s desire for living a meaningful life.

Couple Coaching

People in committed partnerships often ask for Couple Coaching, during or after Systemic Coaching. As they take steps towards living with purpose and meaning, they wish to share these skills with important people. Couple Coaching coaches both partners to simultaneously to evaluate and fine-tune their relationships.

Team Coaching

Team coaching includes teambuilding; team goal setting, hidden agendas, rituals and team training.


Systemic Solutions encourages you to explore life choices, and the consequences of those choices, to make decisions with integrity. We can coach you to remember who you are.

We can coach you to set fulfilling goals, to create appropriate relationships; to resolve emotional experiences and to plan and achieve your goals. Systemic coaching coaches integration - you can become your own teacher, coach, mentor and therapist. Our systemic coaching can nourish your inmost core.


[1] Somatic and psychosomatic disease may be distinguished by whether the symptoms of a chronic disease disappear following a “non-medical” change in lifestyle (a change in work, relationships etc). Most physicians estimate that people with psychosomatic symptoms greatly outnumber those with somatic disease.

[2] Physical disease, trauma or surgery that has destroyed or removed non-renewable tissue is unlikely to be reversible. In these situations, Soulwork systemic coaching may improve a person’s emotional reactions and emotions concerning the destroyed tissue.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you want? Know your life goals and how you sabotage yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Develop your inner resources with Dreamwork
Do emotions block you? Resolve relationship problems and mentor damage
Do beliefs limit you? Change your limiting beliefs and end dependence
Can you feel connected? Resolve identity loss to recover your lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents can better manage family problems
Endless relationship problems? Solutions for adults who suffer attachment disorders
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling, therapy & training

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