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Online Coaching, Counseling & Client Referrals
We often refer potential clients to other professionals

Online Relationship Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama or your partner's moods?

Do you want Private Sessions?

Do you want Client Referrals?

Do you want better relationships for yourself, your family or for a team?

We can also help you cope with the emotional and relationship challenges of a changing world.

We can work together online or by telephone.

If we cannot help you, we may recommend appropriate professionals.

Do you want us to refer people to you?
Can you help people dissolve identity loss, limiting beliefs and relationship problems?

If so, email us and tell us about your experience.

If you only offer intuitive, NLP or New Age techniques, we are unlikely to refer people to you.

If you want to check your skills,
see our systemic coach exam.

Coach Mentor: Online Supervision

We can:

  1. Help you plan ways to achieve your own goals
  2. Help you define and fine tune individual, partnership and family goals
  3. Coach you to identify and manage emotional and relationship fixations
  4. Help you check the relationship consequences of your actions or inactions
  5. Provide structure, tools and perspective to help you accomplish what you want

Life Coaching, Relationship Counseling & Specialties

We coach motivated individuals, partners, families and teams. Most of our individual work is to increase individual success and reduce individual suffering. Most of our systemic (relationship) work is to increase success and happiness in families or teams. We embed individual coaching within relationship (systemic) coaching.

Reality Check

Most of our clients (including helping professionals) want to change their relationship habits, health, finances, competence or their emotions. Some people ask for free sessions - while we do offer cut-rate coaching in poorer countries and we often refer requests for free coaching to our students.

Fear of loss is often stronger than a desire for gain!

Uncomfortable as it may sound, that the first step for many people is that they have suffered enough to seek solutions. We often ask potential clients, "Have you suffered enough to change?" Other people may want to stretch themselves or ask for our suggestions, encouragement and support.

Many people do not want to change. We tell potential clients that they have to work to change, and we check their motivation. We do not enjoy listening to justifications, complaints and blame.

If you are trained and experienced as a business coach, and you know some of the language and culture of organizations, we may refer clients to you.

Relationship Coaching & Counseling

If you want to be a great coach or counselor, you must know how to to launch a business.  Building a business requires other skills than coaching excellence!

Have you identified your business challenges? Can you work cooperatively? Are you fulfilled and happy with your life partner? If so - great - you know a lot about making healthy, mature decisions! If not, do you want to learn how to build and enjoy all types of healthy relationships?

We can guide you to know, appreciate and accept yourself as you are - and to develop the way that you want. We can help you discover how to truly create worthwhile relationships with other people.

If you are single and motivated, we can help you fulfill your dream of stable, healthy partnership. (But we do not help, support nor encourage predators or misogynists to hurt or damage more people.)

Classical coaching can help people achieve simple life goals. We offer mentoring, values assessment, behavior modification, behavior modeling and goal-setting. We help motivated adults get what they want.

We offer dedicated attention and perceptive feedback. Our non-directive, client centered approach helps people discover healthy solutions for their problems and challenges ... and we also offer our systems training to helping professionals.

Many people use drugs as a substitute for change. Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine, or prescription anti-depressants and stimulants, is easier than applying intelligence, focus and analytical skills to complex emotional and relationship situations. And drugs are much more profitable.

Solutions for Emotional Blocks and Relationship Challenges

Most human relationships show complex yet predictable patterns of interdependency. We help people resolve conflicts and entanglements, and enjoy better relationships. See our Coaching Philosophy. Our key strategies can be summarized:

  1. Dissolve fixations and conflicts
  2. Evaluate and clarify relationships
  3. Define goals and plan their achievement
  4. Change relationship bonds to recover freedom
  5. Resolve abuse and trauma to recover motivation

  6. Dissolve identity loss to recover lost qualities and skills
  7. Dissolve mentor damage and find quality mentorship
  8. Couple coaching for a better and healthier partnerships
  9. Family coaching to solve family problems for family harmony
  10. Team coaching to manage leadership and team problems

Specialty Coaching, Counseling & Training

Our trainings are intensely practical, with enough theory and discussion for systemic changework to be understood and effectively applied. Our specialty trainings are particularly useful for helping professionals who wish to add systems coaching to their repertoire.

We offer solutions for your cognitive mind, your emotional heart and your intuitive soul. Do you want to accelerate your personal and professional development?

Learn how to listen carefully and how to use goalwork and relationship diagnosis to explore people's personal realities. Learn how to quickly uncover unconscious objections and habits. Learn how to heal emotions and solve relationship problems.

Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email