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Improve Your Coaching & Counseling Skills

Online Relationship Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

Much of our individual coaching involves resolving inner conflict.
Most of our systemic coaching is about resolving relationship conflicts.

Do you want a better relationship with yourself ... and others?

Do you sabotage your own success?
Do you want to stop sabotaging yourself?

Our workshops are both stand-alone trainings and a parts of a greater whole. Each segment provides professional education and enjoyable learning. Each segment is full of demonstrations, exercises and useful feedback.

We help coaches and counselors improve their skills, and we coach each person to develop and progress at their own pace. See our Coaching Philosophy

Emotional coaching and relationship counseling are much more than techniques or skills. This work reflects who you are ... and your maturity and integrity. We help you be your best - so that you can help other people to become their best.

It's easier for health professionals and their patients to use drugs as a substitute for change. Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine, or prescription anti-depressants and stimulants are easier than applying intelligence, focus and analytical skills to complex emotional and relationship situations. But the effects are very short-term.

Also, drugs are cheaper for patients (in the short term) and much more profitable
for most health professionals. But the effects don't last.

The consequences of relationship problems and the side-effects of drugs are unacceptable to increasing numbers of people.

Relationship Systems Coaching - Basics

While many of these skills are integrated into our systemic coach training, they are also available as stand-alone workshops - if you only want or need basic skills.

Coaching Basics provide success coaching skills to aid people with specialized knowledge to coach, assist and train employees, colleagues, clients and customers. These are effective coaching skills for providing specialized advice or encouragement. Coaching Basics supplement our more advanced systemic coach training.

Coach Training Basics I (5 days)

  1. What is life coaching? Types of coaching.
  2. Who can be coached? Selecting clients.
  3. The first session. Transferences. Client records.
  4. Being prepared: telephone and online help.
  5. Resolving victim, helper and savior games.
  6. Getting and giving referrals.
  7. Observation tasks. Avoiding enmeshments.
  8. Predictable coaching challenges.
  9. Inter-session homework.
  10. Systemic coaching overview.

Coach Training Basics II (5 days)

  1. Professional Code, Ethics, Guidelines and Standards.
  2. What can you promise? Coaching Agreements.
  3. Building Trust. Coaching Presence.
  4. Effective questioning and active listening.
  5. Direct and indirect communication.
  6. Creating awareness. Designing action plans.
  7. Planning and goal setting. Monitoring progress.
  8. Coaching the four major personality styles.
  9. Promoting and marketing yourself as a coach.
  10. Getting paid.

Basic Skills

Self Definition Identify and define who you are
Self Expression Identify and apply your qualities
Self Expansion Expand your perspectives and recognize opportunities
Self Control Take responsibility for your future consequences
Trust Discuss difficult topics with most people
Empathy Understand other people's emotions and perspectives
Analysis Explore and integrate information from many sources
Logic Use objective and subjective data to make decisions

Peaceful, loving relationships need mature relationship skills. Many people wait and seek coaching, counseling or therapy as a last desperate attempt after they can no longer ignore their suffering. Many couples delay seeking professional help until alienation or betrayal has damaged their intimacy - perhaps beyond repair.

If you want to learn advanced coaching, our professional training offers you unique systemic skills for many applications. Develop your relationship intelligence.

Monitor Your Progress & Move On

We can help you know how well you are doing as you develop your sensitivity and judgment. We can help you explore, test and use your feelings and intuition. We can coach you to monitor the consequences of your work, and to judge and test your results. We can observe you in action and offer qualified and sophisticated feedback.

We can help you integrate relationship systems coaching with your specialties - perhaps executive coaching, leadership coaching, educational coaching, business coaching, cross-cultural coaching, relationship counseling or Soulwork therapy.

Our training programs can help you gain the skills needed for your practice - our systemic work requires intelligent analysis and recognizing patterns. (People with technical or scientific backgrounds often understand and use our systemic skills faster than people from psychology or therapeutic backgrounds.)

Check us out. Email us. We're for real.

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Solve Emotional & Relationship Issues

Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you want? Know your life goals and how you sabotage yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Develop your inner resources with Dreamwork
Do emotions block you? Resolve relationship problems and mentor damage
Do beliefs limit you? Change your limiting beliefs and end dependence
Can you feel connected? Resolve identity loss to recover your lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents can better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and top teams can develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling, therapy & training

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2016 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was developed by Martyn Carruthers
to help people solve emotional and relationship problems, and to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work.