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Maturity & Healthy Relationships
Do you want to be happy? Martyn Carruthers

Online Relationship Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

There appears to be no limits to the happiness of healthy relationships,
nor to the suffering of unhealthy relationships.

Relationships: Emotions, Bonds and Happiness

Most people want to love and be loved in happy relationships. Most people want to resolve conflicts and difficult emotions. Our coaching, counseling and training are products of 25 years of experience solving emotional and relationship issues.

You can benefit in many ways. Perhaps you want to know yourself better. Perhaps you want people to understand you. Maybe you want to decide how to build your life path. Perhaps you seek a partner to walk with you through life.

Your emotions reflect your history. Your emotions communicate your partly-conscious assessments of your relationships and beliefs; which may emerge as intuitions and gut feelings. Were you taught to explore and share your feelings, or to hide or deny them?

Hiding and denying emotions can lead to empty lives. You probably know many people who seem dry or hollow. Perhaps they prefer this emptiness to feeling lonely, sad, frustrated, angry or bored. Perhaps they have already suffered the consequences of unhealthy relationships - and have given up.

Who asks us for emotional and relationship counseling?

  • people who have had enough
  • people who want more from life
  • people who will not settle for less
  • people who believe happiness is possible
  • people who want to learn about themselves
  • people who value their health and well-being

Your relationship skills reflect your maturity. If you stop developing - at any age - then your relationship skills stay at that age. In a crisis you may behave like a child. When you're having fun, you may act like a teenager. Do you want to catch up on your life?

Our specialties are:

Put ELATION into your RelationSHIPS

You can always improve your relationships, and if some people in your life do not want this, you can decide how much of your life you give them. Consider your friends and your colleagues - do you want to become more like them? Consider your partner and any past-partners - was your time with them a good investment?

Then consider your  community ... we encourage your health and your passion. Feel your emotions carefully, and learn how to make better decisions using logic and the information your emotions give you.

Good Intentions are Not Enough!

Good intentions are only a good start! We help people manage their emotions, solve relationship problems and prepare for future life challenges.

If you accept or tolerate unhealthy relationships - expect boredom, frustration and depression. Act now to build long-term happy and healthy relationships.

Friendship Skills

Friends may range from casual acquaintances to intimate partners. Good friends are life blessings - but good friends are not luck. Quality friendships requires skill.

We can help you improve your relationship skills. The ability to solve problems with friends is a pre-requisite for effective teamwork, happy partnership and healthy parenthood. Were you taught how to be friendly? Friendship skills include:

  • How to offer help
  • How to share feelings
  • How to join conversations
  • How to give and receive criticism
  • How to show, "I'm interested in you"
  • How to give and receive compliments

Partnership Skills

Our couple counseling can save you years of trial-and-error suffering. We can help you and your partner to build or develop double vision - how you and your partner resolve conflicts and work together.

We coach couples to evaluate partnership, manage relationship problems, and prepare for future challenges. We help couples manage issues of abandonment, betrayal, abuse and trauma; and to:

  • share emotions & values
  • build a joyous relationship
  • change relationship habits
  • resolve guilt issues
  • clarify past partnerships and affairs
  • separate peacefully if hope has faded

Healthy partnership requires healthy communication skills. We offer premarital coaching to prepare for partnership and separation coaching to people who want to peacefully disconnect and rebuild their lives apart. We help couples:

  • Define relationship problems
  • Dissolve relationship conflicts
  • Prepare for challenges
  • Manage emotional triggers
  • Compare values, goals and needs
  • Clarify past and present relationships

Healthy partnership skills also support parenthood and communities.

Family Skills for Happy Families

Families are intimate teams that feed, shelter and shape the lives of children. We help family members manage emotional and behavioral challenges in ways that increase harmony and resourcefulness.

We help family members voice their needs and fears, check other member's perspectives, examine conflicts as mutual problems - and find cooperative solutions. Our family counseling and parent coaching supports all family members.

Contact us when you are ready to move on.

Online Coaching, Relationship Counseling & Systemic Therapy

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 2002-2018
All rights reserved

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email