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What is Emotional Counseling?
Dissolve Emotional Problems Martyn Carruthers

Online Systemic Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

Do you feel entangled or limited by emotions, beliefs or relationships?
Do you want to untangle your life?

Or will you wait for suffering to motivate you?
Why not manage your emotions and improve your relationships now?

What is Emotional Counseling?

Success in any field requires supportive relationships, beliefs, emotions and role models. Each step of our emotional coaching builds on each previous success to prepare for your next goal.

The sequence you use is as important as your goals. Ineffective coaching or therapy can waste your time and money! We normally follow these steps:

  1. Current Crisis - assess and relieve shock and manage stress
  2. Systemic Diagnosis - assess your relationship situations
  3. Relationship Clarification - untangle complex relationships
  4. Guilt Management - enhance your sense-of-life and regain motivation
  5. Goal Diagnosis - predict resistance to your goals and your resources
  6. Goal Coaching - define your goals and plan their fulfillment
  7. Conflict Resolution - find life direction and make better decisions
  8. Identity Changework - manage identity loss and redefine your relationships
  9. Belief Changework - change limiting beliefs while protecting your relationships
  10. Trauma Resolution - manage unresolved trauma and regain lost resources
  11. Expert Modeling - use expert strategies and duplicate expert performance
  12. Mentorship - manage mentor damage and find inspiration

Solve Emotional Problems

Do you want to explore what you really want, where you are now and how you can succeed? We can help you enjoy emotional freedom and solve relationship problems. We can help you manage your emotions and solve relationship problems.

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family psychotherapy, systemic solutions, conflict, addictions, family tree, 
alcholism, drug addiction, systemic methods, mental illness, mental disease,
emotional incest

Soulwork: Crisis & Maturity

Our logo summarizes our coaching ... Do you want to manage your emotions and relationships? If you wait for other people to solve your problems, you may be stuck in immaturity and dependency. We can help you solve your own issues as a strong step towards emotional maturity.

Soulwork: Entanglements & Clarity

Do you want to improve your peace and clarity? We can help you enjoy better relationships with your parents, partner, ex-partners and children, instead of confusion (e.g. reacting to a partner as if to a parent, or to a client as if to a partner, with many unpleasant consequences.) Solving relationship problems can accelerate success in all parts of your life. See also emotional incest.

Soulwork: Conflicts & Integrity

Do you want to set meaningful goals and resolve goal conflicts? We help people find the hidden benefits of their conflicts and to resolve them. Resolve chronic conflict to better focus on fine-tuning, planning and fulfilling your life goals.

The end of conflict is an experience of integrity that often seems to transcend space and time. We can coach you to stabilize this experience as a stable life-resource, while defining your life direction (or mission or purpose). See Soul of Soulwork.

Soulwork: Relationship Bonds & Choice

Do you want to change any limiting beliefs to increase your freedom and choice? As you manage toxic bonds, you can feel increasingly free and peaceful; and your subsequent coaching becomes increasingly concrete and goal-oriented. See relationship bonds.

Soulwork: Trauma, PTSD & Motivation

Do you want to solve emotional problems? You can end the consequences of crisis, abuse and post-traumatic stress - and you can transform negative emotions into motivation. See Trauma and PTSD.

We avoid researching your past - we explore your present!
And if you carry your past into your present, we can help you
change your past to support your present into your future.
(It's easier than it sounds).

Soulwork: Mentors & Inspiration

Do you want to evaluate your past and current role models and repair any mentor damage? You can help people find inspirational mentors. With focus, integrity, supportive beliefs, motivation and inspirational mentorship - and fulfill your life!

Contact us to resolve emotional and relationship problems.

Online Systemic Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email