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Self Improvement and Activity in the Outer World
Lessons of Life © Kosjenka Muk

Coaching with Kosjenka    Soulwork Croatia / Hrvatska


Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions?

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Would you enjoy private coaching or professional training on self-esteem, verbal aikido, solving relationship problems, lasting happiness and better relationships? Kosjenka Muk is bilingual and teaches Soulwork Systemic Coaching and other trainings internationally. Kosjenka wrote the books Emotional Maturity and Verbal Self-Defense.

Authority
Children & Challenges
Communication
Observing Feelings
Patterns in Love
Personal Growth
Quantum Leap
Self Esteem
Self Improvement
Self Intimacy
Stress & Relaxing
Therapist & Clients

Most people take to work on self-improvement with a desire for results to occur overnight and with an orientation toward outer change instead of inner one. In most cases advertising messages pull people in this direction. Our society is focused more and more to instant solutions and instant gratification. For people who grew up in that kind of environment, actually investing time and effort to improve themselves might feel like too much.

Many people hope that with some technique they will create a new self without having to face up to (sometimes risky and scary) specific actions in outer life, e.g., telling someone what bothers you (or perhaps what you like), or thinking up and bringing into fruition a plan to find or create a job...

Moreover, as long as such action is looked upon as 'too difficult', too unpleasant, it usually means that you don't yet have enough motivation for change or - more commonly - that the real internal change is not achieved yet.

 

The Challenge of Life

Outer life experience has a deep influence upon our subconscious and can be a sort of test on whether we have really learnt our specific life lessons.

One can say that if we could do it all 'within our heads' then there would be no need for to live in the physical world. The blessing we often experience through difficulties is in fact that the physical world uncompromisingly 'forces' us onto the path of development through often hard and demanding challenges in front of which sooner or later we will no longer be able to close our eyes.

It is up to us to decide whether or not we should 'take up the game' and truly live the challenge the world has given us, or to feel sorry for ourselves, saying life is simply too difficult to deal with. In the first case your life may in fact end up not being easy- especially in the beginning - due in the main to the fact that you will have to come to terms with a number of situations, decisions and choices that you have previously tried to avoid or postpone dealing with.

However, the wealth of experience, the intensity of living your life, and the greater trust and respect toward your self gives you the feeling of enjoyment of life that will lead to a rejection of the easier and simpler life path that so attractively comes at a seemingly low price.

 

Achieving the True Change

For example many people hope that how others act toward them will change if they do enough inner work, so they start to 'radiate differently' or start to feel better with themselves or the alike. In some easier cases this may truly occur. But, more commonly it shall not.

This is in itself for us a challenge, as well as an opportunity, to face up to others through communicating our feelings, and all the fears, that come with it through taking up these more scary and risky choices.

My personal experience shows that this quite often occurs when I firmly decide to overcome my specific inhibitions and tell the other person what I have put off for a long time, often the other person truly spontaneously begins to act differently and hence there is no further need for confrontation. I must emphasize that this occurs exclusively when I truly and strongly decide to take that risk.

Yet, in most situations, especially in the case of long term and important relationships, this is not enough and you will most likely and quite often need to invest a lot of your self, uncover your deepest and most illogical needs and beliefs, and risk misunderstanding and conflict. This is the process through which we grow the fastest as a human being and create a closeness, understanding and love for self and others.

There is no technique that we can use that is a magic wand and shield from the challenges of life. Methods such as Soulwork Systemic Coaching can help people manage emotional and mental barriers, attain inner experiences, feel trust, motivating us as well becoming conscious of our own possibilities... while building new habits and active work on realizing our goals can be done only from the depth of our being.

More and more I realize how important specific actions in outer world are when completing any technique used in the process of self-development.

Without actions, we will never truly know whether or not we have changed, or if we in fact only thought about changing.

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© Kosjenka Muk, 2005-2017


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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do your emotions block you? Resolve relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2017 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email europecoach@gmail.com