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Soulwork & Lifestyle Design
Emotions and Quality Relationships Martyn Carruthers

Life Coaching, Marriage Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

Do you know the lifestyle you want? What stops you?
We can help you deal with anger, anxiety, depression and stress.

Lifestyle Coaching & Design

Do you wait for suffering to motivate you?
Are you waiting for someone to tell you what to do?

Why waste more time? We can help you enjoy the breakthroughs you want - and the happiness you deserve.

Our work is especially appropriate if you have already
tried a therapy in which didn't get the results you wanted.

Emotional Coaching for Lifestyle Design

Success in any field requires supportive relationships and role models, and control of symptoms, conflicts, beliefs and emotions. Each step of our emotional coaching builds on your last success to prepare for your next goal. Ineffective coaching or intuitive therapy can waste your precious time on unimportant or irrelevant issues!

Do you wait for permission to live your own life ... or have you suffered enough?

How to Overhaul Your Lifestyle

Do you know what you want? Do you know where you are now?
We help you break it down into do-able steps!

  1. Current Crisis - assess and relieve stress
  2. Systemic Diagnosis - assess relationship situations
  3. Relationship Clarification - untangle complex relationships
  4. Guilt Management - enhance your sense-of-life and regain motivation
  5. Goal Diagnosis - predict blocks to your goals and your resources
  6. Goal Coaching - define your goals and plan their fulfillment
  7. Conflict Resolution - find life direction, resolve conflicts and make better decisions
  8. Identity Changework - manage identity loss and redefine your relationships
  9. Belief Changework - change limiting beliefs while protecting your relationships
  10. Trauma Resolution - solve unresolved trauma and regain lost resources
  11. Expert Modeling - use expert strategies and duplicate expert performance
  12. Mentorship - disconnect toxic mentors, resolve mentor damage and find inspiration

Our Lifestyle Coaching

If you had complete freedom, how would you live your life?
Where would you live? What would you do there? With whom?

Do you know what you really want? We can help you enjoy emotional freedom and healthy relationships as you live your life in your way. We can help you clean up your past and your present - as a basis for creating your wonderful future.

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Crisis & Maturity

We can help you solve your current situation. Adults who wait for other people to solve their problems or to manage their crisis may be stuck in immature dependency. We can help you solve your issues! Dealing with anger, anxiety, depression and stress are strong steps towards emotional maturity.

Relationships & Clarity

Do you want to improve your peace and clarity? We can help you enjoy better relationships with your parents, partner, ex-partners and children, instead of confusion (e.g. reacting to a partner as if to a parent, or to a client as if to a partner, with many unpleasant consequences.) Resolving relationship problems can accelerate success in all parts of life. See also emotional incest.

Conflicts & Integrity


We can help you set meaningful goals and resolve goal conflicts. We help people find the hidden benefits of their conflicts and to resolve them. Resolve chronic conflict to better focus on fine-tuning, planning and fulfilling your life goals.

The end of conflict is an experience of integrity that often seems to transcend space and time. We can coach you to stabilize this experience as a stable life-resource, while defining your life direction (or mission or purpose). See Soul of Soulwork.

Beliefs & Choice

We can help you change any limiting beliefs as you increase your freedom and choice. As you manage toxic bonds, you can feel increasingly free of anger and stress; and your subsequent coaching becomes increasingly concrete and goal-oriented. See relationship skills and relationship bonds.

Your Precious Motivation

Do you block your own motivation and success? You can end anxiety and the anger, sadness and anxiety that often follow crisis, abuse and post-traumatic stress. We can help you transform negative emotions into motivation. See Trauma and PTSD.

Your Invaluable Inspiration

We can help you evaluate your past and current role models and resolve any mentor damage. You can heal anger, anxiety, depression and stress. With focus, integrity, supportive beliefs, motivation and inspirational mentorship - you can fulfill life goals - and your life purpose!

Explore your personal values and inner power for all areas of your life.

  1. Change your limiting beliefs and move forward
  2. Develop and create a strategy to create your success
  3. Choose wisely between realistic and idealistic options
  4. Take full responsibility for your life and for your personal goals
  5. Gain clarity and focus on your goals, passions and purpose for your life
  6. Gain support, tools, resources and insights that will help you design and create your life

We can accept, encourage, provoke and challenge you
as you define your goals and create your desired lifestyle.
Contact us to resolve emotional problems and improve your relationships.

Online Relationship Coaching, Marriage Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

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All rights reserved.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email