Soulwork does not replace life coaching nor psychotherapy.
Life coaching is useful when people make decisions in controllable
environments with simple objectives. Psychotherapy is useful for people
with diagnosable dysfunction.
Our systems coaching is superb for people
making complex decisions
in challenging environments or with ambiguous
Alternative, Complementary & New Age Therapy
Alternative and complementary therapies refer to unconventional
treatments used in place of Western psychotherapy, and in preventing diseases
and treating illness. Yet alternative
and complementary are relative - they depend on the reference system.
In China, for example, Western medicine may be called a new
alternative medicine of complementary treatments, as Western
medicine has only existed for a hundred years or so, compared to
thousands of years of using traditional Chinese medicine.
Terms like complementary and alternative medicine are vague
and inaccurate, and do not begin to summarize or describe the work of
independent helping professionals. See
Evolution of Good Intentions and
Is Systemic Coaching New Age?
Therapy & Law
Few Western legal systems try to restrict the expression
of thoughts, beliefs and opinions, although legal systems may attempt to
restrain expressions of ideas which may harm other people.
Therapist incompetence is not an offence
under most laws. It is not an offence to claim to help or alleviate mental
health, emotional or relationship problems; otherwise no helping professional
could offer their services, no matter how competently.
In some countries it is illegal to claim credentials which
you do not have ... especially those of a medical doctor. However, the availability
of email degrees and PhDs makes this a gray area. Many popular books
about relationship coaching and therapy were written by people advertising their
Some letters after a name (e.g. MD) are protected by law, although
there seems to be little regulation of this in most countries and many
people claim 'scholarly' post-nominal letters. (Using
post-nominal letters to secure a job may be criminal fraud).
Example Advertisement Get an
advanced degree from an
accredited academic institution without doing
going to campus, or spending thousands of
Some regions have laws forbidding the use of diploma mill
credentials. In North Dakota, it is illegal to use a fake degree in
connection with a business, and in Illinois, a fake degree must not be
used to obtain employment. (The Pacific Western University,
famous for selling thousands of fake degrees for high prices, changed its name to California Miramar University.)
Therapy & Conversation
Many people divide themselves into bodies and minds.
Whether or not this division is real is a question for philosophers,
as many people disagree on if or where or how those
divisions should be made.
Minds can be described as being both rational
and irrational. We may describe the rational mind as intellect,
and the irrational mind as emotions. People who study intellect
may be called psychologists, and people who study psychoactive
medications may be called psychiatrists. We study human relationships.
Psychologists often specialize, for example in educational psychology or
marketing. Clinical psychologists aim to reduce distress and enhance and promote
wellbeing. Psychiatrists, broadly speaking, practice two distinct kinds of
treatment - medication and conversational. Like coaching, psychotherapy is all
Which Conversations are Appropriate?
Many people try to help other people through conversation
- this is a function of friendship! Yet ...
- Dissociated and immature people may not respond to
- Conversational change requires skill and experience
for good results
- The unskilled use of some conversational
methods may damage people
Many people who seek professional coaching are strong and
motivated, and seek assistance in a well-defined context. Fewer people
may seek assistance for resolving life challenges or achieving
philosophical ideals that cross many contexts.
Martyn, would you have half an hour
some time to do a session on what is
between the me now and the being in the heart of Buddha (state)?
This email might be the best compliment I've had lately ...
Competence of Helping Professionals
For us, competence, as opposed to
credentials, is about successfully helping people decide what
they want and then to get what they want. The skills to fulfill
these competencies include:
- communication skills
- evaluate relationships
- define goals and objectives
- create trusting relationships
- resolve objections and conflicts
- improve partnership
- manage identity loss
- provide short-term coaching
- manage abuse and/or trauma
- provide long-term mentorship
Some therapists act as if you are incompetent to decide what you
want, and that they must tell you what to want. If you disagree,
you may be called resistant ... or worse.
Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy
Damage with Good Intentions
Maturity, emotional stability and competence are essential qualities of
helping professionals, yet are rarely
assessed by professional organizations. Deficiencies in those areas seem to be
the main source of damage to clients and patients.
As no institute or
organization of helping professionals will test or vouch for the character or
stability of their members, it is wise to seek evidence of
competence and emotional
maturity, to better avoid
Assess a Coach, Therapist or Counselor
How can you recognize a reliable
coach, therapist or mentor?
Seek evidence of
competence and maturity, rather than credentials.
Watch a potential mentor
assisting people, and talk to people who have been clients of this person. Notice if a potential therapist or mentor:
- walks their talk
- tries to understand you
- supports better relationships
- assesses needs and problems
- has effective interpersonal skills
- has good personal relationships
- is sensitive and genuine
- is competent and caring
- is accepting and empathic
- is trustworthy and credible
- is friendly and knowledgeable
- is experienced and supportive
Does this person help people to:
- evaluate relationships and change entanglements?
- recover identity loss; lost qualities,
expertise and skills?
- define goals, manage inner objections and
plan for success?
- manage emotional trauma and abuse, and
- end self-criticism and inner conflict, and
help recover integrity?
- repair mentor or therapy damage & find
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