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Emotional Issues
Addictions
Anger & Rage
Anxiety
Dependence
Depression

Dissociation
Eating Problems
Emotional Maturity
Grief & Loss
Immaturity
Inner Child

Pain Control
Sadness
Stress Relief

Toxic Beliefs
Trauma & Stress
Weight Loss

 

Relationship Problems
Abuse
Affairs

Codependence
Dissolve Conflicts
Divorce
Emotional Blackmail

Enjoy Partnership
Evaluate Partners
Long-Distance Love
Love & Hate

Partnership
Past Partners
Premarital
Rejection
Sexual Issues
Soul Mates

 

Family Challenges
Abuse

Abortion
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Learning Disorders
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Parental Alienation

 

Life Lessons
Authority
Bad Habits
Being Alone
Children's Challenges
Communication
Observing Feelings

Patterns in Love
Personal Growth
Quantum Leap
Self Esteem
Self Improvement
Self Intimacy
Stress & Relaxing
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Specialties
Chaos Coaching

Inner Conflict
Consciousness
Expert Modeling
Leadership
Learning Disorders
Mentorship

Psychobiology
Sexual Abuse
Soul of Soulwork
Systemic Management
Therapist Abuse
Training Abuse

 

 

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Systemic Counseling Examination
Test your Coaching & Counseling Skills
Martyn Carruthers 2009-2017


This examination normally completes our systemic training.
Why not test yourself? (Many answers are on our website!)

Our final examinations are both Practical and Oral and can be recorded. A complete test, with assessment and feedback, takes about four hours, and you can take parts of the test at different times.

Coach Mentoring . Code of Conduct

1. Practical Examination (About 60 minutes)

Certificates of attendance mean little without evidence of competence. To test your skills, your examiner will role play a client. After 30 minutes or so, your examiner will ask you about the steps you took, why you took them, what you expected, what you found and your possible next steps.

We do not expect you to solve problems in this time - we expect you to demonstrate building trust, careful listening, evaluating relationship problems, handling resistance, offering solutions, discussing consequences and judging when to refer a person to another professional.

Yes, this may be stressful - and yes, coaching and counseling may be stressful too.

2. Communication Competence (About 30 minutes)

There is no PASS mark for this skill test, as without appropriate communication skills you are unlikely to pass our oral examination. (If your English is poor, we can arrange oral examinations in many languages.) Not only your answers, also how you answer, allow us to offer you valuable feedback on your communication skills. For example:

  1. How can you build trust with clients that you do not like?
  2. How can you build trust with two partners who are in conflict?
  3. How can you explain your feelings without worsening a conflict?
  4. How can you talk to people who have goals that you do not like?
  5. How can you talk to people who have different values to your own?

Briefly describe how you might respond to clients who:

  1. verbally attack you
  2. appear to be intoxicated
  3. endlessly complain to you
  4. do not trust your experience
  5. interrupt when you are talking
  6. insult other helping professionals
  7. criticize you for not fulfilling their fantasies
  8. endlessly blame other people for their problems
  9. endlessly whine or act like resourceless children
  10. use flattery (e.g. You are the greatest therapist in the world)

If you feel unduly irritated by or attracted to a client, or if a client seems inappropriately irritated by or attracted to you, transference may be taking place. A common transference is, "You remind me of someone from my past!". Describe three other transferences and how you would dissolve transferences in everyday conversation.

Some people may tell you what they want while shaking their heads from side to side. What might this imply? Describe other examples of incongruence and outline how you can check and dissolve incongruence during everyday conversations.

3. Oral Examination (About 60-90 minutes)

This oral examination has 32 questions, and each question has three possible marks, with an extra 4 marks for question 1.

An overall score of 80 or more is a PASS, which is required for us to refer paying clients to you (and for registration as a Systemic Coach, if you wish). Let's start.

  1. You ask a client what he or she wants. How might you respond to:

    1. I don't know
    2. I want less stress
    3. I need more money
    4. I want enlightenment
    5. I want to be rich and free
    6. I want to everybody to love me
    7. I want my partner to stop smoking
    8. I want you to tell me what I should want
       
  2. Describe three types of relationship problems, how you would notice them and their likely consequences in people's lives?
     
  3. How might you notice that a person perceives a partner as a child? As a parent?
     
  4. How might you help adults clarify their relationships with their parents?
     
  5. How might you resolve "yes-but" objections?
     
  6. How might you help someone resolve self-criticism?
     
  7. Give examples of mini-metaphors as pre-frames for resolving conflicts
     
  8. How might you continue coaching a client who appears to be in trance?
     
  9. What might you do if a client experiences an ecstatic resource state?
     
  10. How might you help a client stabilize an ecstatic resource state?
     
  11. What are some differences in the consequences of trauma and abuse?
     
  12. How might you find the first events of persistent unpleasant emotions?
     
  13. A person was recently abused and is in shock. What might you offer?
     
  14. A person was abused years ago and suffers daily. What might you offer?
     
  15. How might you recognize a taboo relationship bond?
     
  16. Briefly describe three ways to dissolve a taboo relationship bond
     
  17. A woman describes a 'black hole' in her chest. How might you start?
     
  18. A man says that an angry demon possesses him. How might you start?
     
  19. How might you recognize and coach a person with chronic sadness?
     
  20. How might you discern between identity conflict and victim identification?
     
  21. How might you help a person who describes low-level chronic anxiety?
     
  22. How might you find the basic identity of a person with complex conflict?
     
  23. How might you recognize mentor damage?
     
  24. How might you avoid causing mentor damage yourself?
     
  25. How might you resolve a fixation (or obsession or compulsion)?
     
  26. How might you coach an adult who wants to leave a cult-like organization?
     
  27. How might you coach a woman who says that she feels guilty about ending a relationship with an immature partner?
     
  28. How might you coach a man who says that he feels anxious when he thinks that his partner might leave him?
     
  29. How might you coach a couple to plan relationship goals together?
     
  30. What might you do if both client partners become resourceless?
     
  31. What might you do if your client partners insult each other in your presence?
     
  32. One partner had an intimate affair. They both say that they want to stay together yet both express strong unpleasant emotions. What might you offer them?

On completion, we can offer you feedback about your apparent strengths and
weaknesses, and, if you wish, homework to help you improve your skills,
and to prepare for our systemic training to counsel families and teams*.

If you pass this - you deserved to pass!

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* For example, imagine that you repeatedly see the following behaviors during family, team or community meetings ... how might you resolve them?

  1. A member is overly talkative
  2. A member repeatedly distracts the leader
  3. A member says, "Yes, but ..." to every idea
  4. A member communicates: I am always right
  5. A member accuses the leader, You make us look bad
  6. Two members continually whisper while the leader is talking
  7. A member provides important information only after decisions are made

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 2009-2017 All rights reserved


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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2017 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email europecoach@gmail.com