Systemic coaching does not replace classical
coaching, consulting, counseling, psychotherapy or psychiatry.
Each is useful for different objectives and different problems. Systemic coaching
is useful when making relationship decisions in complex environments
and ambiguous objectives.
Do you want results?
If something bothers you, you seek solutions.
If the problems persist - you may seek help. If your problem is mental
or emotional, then you may talk to friends and family, and, if
that fails, you seek a specialist. But which one? See
Evolution of Coaching Styles.
You make some telephone calls and describe your situation.
You find out who is experienced in your issue and what they charge. You want
to know long it will take to solve your problem, which depends on your goals,
motivation and the helping professional's skill. You feel in control - you
feel that you can stop at any time. So you make an appointment ...
Coaching, Consulting, Counseling, Therapy & Psychiatry
It is hard to differentiate between
helping styles. Most helping professionals claim they can help you:
- learn or acquire life skills
- become happier and more productive
- better function within your family, community or culture
- experience personal growth / develop your human potential
Coaching, consulting, counseling, psychotherapy and
psychiatry are about attitudes, feelings, interests, goals,
self esteem and behaviors. If your problem appears solvable, all may
offer you solutions, although some solutions have consequences which may
be worse than the problems. The following general descriptions may help your
||Coaching is about helping you achieve your goals
using systemic coaching, accelerated learning, etc to
dissolve emotional and relationship blocks to your success.
Coaching began as a way to accelerate
skill acquisition in sports and then business. It has become a methodology
of human development and change.
||Consulting is about helping you with
specific expertise such as financial, legal or
medical advice. Consulting is often associated with corporate and
organizational goals. A consultant is often a specialist in specific
technical, financial, legal or medical specialties.
According to the Committee on Definition of
the American Psychological Association; the objectives of
counseling are to "help individuals toward overcoming obstacles
to their personal growth, wherever these may be encountered, and toward
achieving optimum development of their personal resources".
Specialties include pre-marital, marriage,
post-abortion and family counseling.
||Psychotherapy is about changing personality
and coping with strong emotions. This includes
individual therapy and systemic family therapy.
A psychotherapist may help you re-arrange your
personality and integrate insights into your behavior, to
control unpleasant emotions and behaviors associated with
neurosis and emotional problems.
||Psychiatry is about controlling emotions and
inappropriate behavior, often using drugs such as stimulants
and anti-depressants. Although psychiatry is medicine, a psychiatric
diagnosis is usually an opinion that cannot be verified in a laboratory. A psychiatrist
can prescribe drugs to help control unpleasant emotions and behavior.
Comparison of Helping Styles
Treatment time differs between coaching,
consulting, counseling, psychotherapy and psychiatry. Systemic coaching
is often measured in hours and classic coaching in days. Consulting
often follows a contract
of a few weeks. Counseling sessions are often over months.
Psychotherapy sessions may last for years. Psychiatry
treatment and medication can continue for decades.
Professionals offer different focus.
A coach asks "What do you want?" A consultant
asks "What is the problem?" A counselor
examines "What is happening now?". A therapist
enquires "What happened in your past?". A
psychiatrist may ponder "What drugs might manage or mask your emotions?"
Goals are what you want, although few people can specify them.
A systemic coach may help you dissolve
conflicts that prevent you defining your goals. A consultant
may help you solve specific problems. Counselors may
help you solve a life crisis and psychotherapists can help
you with emotional and personality problems.
A psychiatrist may not ask what you want and consider psychopharmacology
- what drugs can manage what emotions.
A coach accepts your objections, and uses
your resistance to help you fine-tune a goal until you are
certain you want it. Counselors may regard your resistance
as a nuisance and try to reduce it. A consultant may offer logical arguments to
counter your objections. Psychotherapists often try to understand your
resistance, to help your change your personality. Psychiatrists may rely on
their authority and ignore your objections or enforce a medication.
Transference is mistaken identity - confusing one person with
another. Although called positive and negative, depending on the emotions it
elicits, transference distorts relationships. Counselors often want a personal
relationship with clients, yet may perceive transference as a manifestation
of immaturity. Psychotherapists may use transference to
gain authority. Our telephone coaching offers simple ways to quickly dissolve
transference and transference loops.
The methods used in coaching,
consulting, counseling, psychotherapy and psychiatry overlap. Coaches,
counselors and therapists are often more
eclectic than consultants or psychiatrists. The following table offers a
simplified comparison of coaching with other helping styles.
||Provide mental homeostasis
||Overcome with authority
||Use to increase authority
||Family of origin
||Reality of life demands
||Cope with life problems
||Avoid & minimize
||Training & Experience
||Dissociate & ignore
||Sense of life
||Accept & dissolve
||Systemic Coach Training & Expert
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