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Systemic Coaching

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Systemic Coaching can help you improve your relationships, your personal and professional development and your health.

Tell us about your goals, what stops you reaching them and what you have already tried.

Just mention your country, your complaint, your motivation and your age - and whether you can travel or bring a coach to you.

[ Systemic Coaching FAQ ]

You can graduate as a Soulwork Coach after eight 5-day trainings.

Tell us about your goals, your profession and how you want to use systemic coaching skills.

Tell us the country you live in, your motivation and what you want to learn. We will send you a thoughtful response.

[ Soulwork Training ]

E komo mai Hawaii. Learn with us under the trees at Kealakekua. Swim with us at Hapuna. Walk with us in volcano craters. Ride the winds at Ka Lae.

Can you join us in Hawaii? Our classrooms are beaches, forests and volcanoes. Come with us to the most beautiful, sacred (and haunted) places as you learn to use Hawaiian traditions.

[ Hawaiian Spirituality ]

Are you ready for Soulwork?

If any of the following apply to you - please find local help first:

  • Are you generally dysfunctional - can you cope with daily tasks?
  • Do you have horrible relationships - do you avoid people generally?
  • Are you suicidal - are you considering harming yourself?
  • Do you need psychiatric medication or illegal drugs to function?

If you pass that ... probably you can focus attention on what makes sense in life

Do you intend to improve your health, happiness and success? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Are you generally mature and responsible? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Are you friendly? Do you have many friends? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Are you truthful? Do you generally avoid deception? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Are you usually proactive to your life challenges? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Are you ready to examine and change any self-sabotage? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Can you enjoy trying new ways and new behaviors? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Have you suffered enough? Do you want to change? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Are you financially prepared to invest in your own future? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
Are you reliable? Do you finish what you start? YES - SOMETIMES - NO
  • For each YES - give yourself 3 points

  • For each SOMETIMES - you get 1 point

  • NO means no points

  • Count your points ...

0 - 10 You are unlikely to change anything soon. We wish you well.
Over 10 You prefer to change slowly. Soulwork email coaching may be right for you
Over 20 You are ready to take off. Private Soulwork Sessions may be perfect for you.
Over 25 You could be a great coach. Join us on Soulwork Coach training

During success coaching, relationship coaching and therapeutic coaching you can discuss and explore your goals and plans, as we together search for appropriate solutions that honor and empower your relationships, your work and your happiness.

  • If you choose personal sessions, we can help you make arrangements that suit you. Can you bring a Soulwork Coach to you?
  • Telephone coaching is less intense. You pay for a coach's time before a call, and the coach will expect your telephone call at the agreed time.
  • Email coaching is self-directed, at minimal cost and not as fast as personal sessions. You will need occasional access to a scanner (to send drawings by email).

Existing coaches who want Soulwork mentorship or supervision: Soulwork Supervision.

Soulwork coach and mentor relationships can accelerate your personal and professional development. Use this opportunity. We look forward to meeting you!

[ Individual Coaching ] [ Couple Coaching ] [ Advanced Training ]

Use your initiative, email:

  • These are not online forms - please answer these questions by email

  • Print this page for easy reference

  • Read some articles about Soulwork Systemic Coaching [ Soulwork Articles ]

  • A Soulwork Coach will answer your first email free

  • Aggressive emails and victim-like demands are deleted on impact

  • A Soulwork Coach follows well-defined ethics [ Code of Conduct ]

  • The more accurately you answer - the better we can respond

  • Your personal details are private [ Privacy Policy ]

Complete, cut, paste and email to:

Soulwork Systemic Coaching

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Can you travel?
Additional Information:
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The following questions are typical of Soulwork (see Strategic Goalwork).

Please mention your motivation, your time frame for your success and whether you can travel. If relevant, mention your education, profession and special skills; also any disease, disabilities, and whether you are taking psychoactive drugs or are in therapy or psychiatric treatment etc.

Systemic Solutions

Clarity Where are you now? How did you get here? What are your problems? What do you want? What do you not want? What do you want to change? What stops you? Which relationships affect your goals? Which relationships do you want to change?
Goals What are the benefits of your problems? How can you keep these benefits and solve the problems? What might happen if you reach your goals?
Conflict How can your goals support each other? Are your goals in conflict? Can you integrate your goals with those of your family or team or organization?
Integrity What makes sense in life? What gives your life meaning? What is the purpose of your life? Can you live with integrity - and have what you want?
Bonds What do you believe about your goals? Whose beliefs are these? Who influences you to do what? Who do you want to inspire you - to do what? Who do you influence, manipulate or control? Who controls you?
Trauma How do you motivate yourself? What emotions delay or stop you? Do you finish what you start? What qualities can you no longer access or use?
Mentors Who are your role models? Who inspires you to fail? Who do you want to inspire you - on which parts of your life? Who do you want to inspire?

Systemic Life Coaching & Relationship Coaching

Soulwork offers many wonderful choices for responsible, motivated adults who want to quickly learn new skills, who want to apply existing skills in new or unusual contexts, who want to change relationships or who want to change chronic problems. For more on prices see COACHING

Soulwork is not a substitute for medical or psychiatric care, nor for legal or financial advice

Guidelines for Soulwork Coaching*

Personal or Email Coaching

Private Coaching

Professional Teamwork

You want to learn new skills; or you want to apply existing skills in different contexts.

You want new perspectives on life, or you want sense-of-life.

You want to control your addictions, obsessions or compulsions.

You want to resolve chronic mental or >emotional complaints.

Organizational coaching, community / international projects.

You want in-house training for your organization.

You want better relationships. You want to prepare for partnership, parenthood, teamwork or leadership. You want to resolve relationship issues (Couple Coaching; Family Coaching; or Team Coaching). You want contingency planning or disaster relief. You want help for people with autoimmune diseases.
You want more success. You want to resolve a relationship crisis at home or at work. You want to resolve compulsive relationships or end long term codependence or manipulation. Refugee management and people who are generally disconnected from humanity.

* A Soulwork Coach will not coach you to achieve goals which, in the opinion of the Coach, are criminal, unethical or impossible.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email