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Free Systemic Coaching & Free Coach Training
Manage emotions and solve relationship problems

Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

Do you want free personal individual or systemic coaching? Individual coaching increases individual happiness and reduces suffering. Systemic coaching increases the adaptability and survival potential of partnerships, families and teams. We embed individual coaching within our systemic coaching.

Why not use drugs (like most people)?

Our systemic coaching does not replace classical coaching. Classical coaching is useful when people make decisions in controllable environments with simple objectives. Systemic coaching is useful when making relationship decisions, especially in complex environments or with ambiguous objectives.

It's easier for health professionals and most patients to use drugs rather than to change relationships. Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine, or prescription anti-depressants and stimulants may seem easier than applying intelligence and analytical skills to complex relationships. And drugs are so much more profitable. There's little money to be made from happy people living healthy lives.

The long-term consequences of avoiding relationship problems and the unpleasant side-effects of many drugs are unacceptable to increasing numbers of people. Which do you choose?

What Price is Free?

Free does not mean that you gain at our loss. Free need not require charity or dependence. Free means you can benefit from quality coaching or systemic coach training without financial outlay.

Free Personal Coaching

We prefer to use demonstration subjects who are not participants of our programs. We invite you to be a demonstration subject on our courses, or to be an unpaid client for one of our students. Your payment would be your participation and feedback.

In our systemic coaching, we reject dogma and minimize theory. We demonstrate everything - repeatedly - to provide an enjoyable, professional education. We show people how to develop and improve their relationship intelligence and professional coaching skills, at their own pace.

When we teach, we need demonstration subjects. We need people who are not participants (they make our coaching look too easy) who are willing to explore solutions for their relationship and emotional problems - in front of a group. See our Systemic Coaching Philosophy and Code of Conduct.

Whether as a demonstration subject or student-client, you must want to take responsibility for your life. Our Soulwork coaching builds upon your qualities and skills to deepen your emotional and relationship intelligence.

Coaching is more than what you do, or believe, or value.
Coaching reflects who you are. Coaching reflects your maturity.
Coaching gives you space to express and use our emotional intelligence.

Free Couple Coaching / Marriage Counseling

Our couple counseling helps partners simultaneously and resourcefully resolve conflicts, discuss desires, solve challenges. We can coach partners to coach each other to resolve:

  • nonverbal objections (e.g. saying "Yes" while shaking your head "No")
  • meaningless, confusing, negative, conflicting or vague communication habits
  • miscommunications  (e.g. arguments about responsibility, or meanings of actions)
  • transference & transference loops (e.g. one responds as if the other other were someone else)

We may offer you free couple coaching if you help us promote our work, cover our expenses or participate as demonstration subjects at our couple coach training.

Free Introduction to Systemic Coaching Workshops

Our Systemic Coaching training provide people with an overview of basic systemic coaching skills. These workshops help people decide if want to learn systemic coaching for their own pleasure, to heal their own relationships or to coach other people to improve their relationships.

Introduction to Systemic Coaching workshops can be from a half-day to three days. We may provide these workshops free of charge in towns or countries in which we have no training presence.

Free Coaching & Training

We offer you effective coaching skills for evaluating and changing relationships.

Do you want to learn systemic coaching for free? In your home town? You can, if you help us organize systemic coach training. Read Training Partners and then email us

Contact us for coaching, counseling or systemic training

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email