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Goal Orientation & Results © Martyn Carruthers

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If a miracle happened, and your problems were solved, what would you change?

Therapy & Systemic Coaching

Some therapists and coaches (but not all) focus on helping people reach their goals. Both therapists and coaches may talk about empowering people and both may say that they accept people as they are. There is a lot of overlap - and some fighting, often about "Who was here first?"

Psychotherapy may be more appropriate for dysfunctional people who want to control depression, bipolar disorder, addictions, schizophrenia, etc. Our systemic coaching is more for people who want to resolve emotional problems, enjoy healthy relationships or reach specific goals.

Therapy can help people move from dysfunctional to functional; while our systemic coaching can help people move from functional to happy. We can help you find solutions for your problems, and achieve goals that you thought were beyond your reach. You can change ... if you wish.

Evolution of Coaching . Compare Coaching Styles

Brief Solution-Focused Therapy

We help people unblock emotions and change specific behaviors in short time frames. We often guide ourselves with the following presuppositions:

  1. We can define goals as specific behaviors
  2. Our sessions can focus on dissolving key problems
  3. Our sessions can be active, directive and empowering
  4. Your future goals are more important than your past suffering
  5. Solutions and consequences are more important than symptoms and causes

Like solution focused therapy, we also help people define goals, develop plans and encourage action. We coach people to define and reach individual success. Yet our real clients are often relationship systems, such as couples, families and teams. Individual people represent their human systems!

Coaching families or teams is more about systemic success - about increasing the adaptability, survival potential and effectiveness of those human relationship systems. We often embed individual coaching within our systemic coaching.

Solution focused brief therapy and our systemic coaching share some methods

  1. Help people define what they want to change.
  2. Encourage people to define potential solutions.
  3. Help people describe their problems as behaviors.
  4. Help people predict the consequences of their actions
  5. Offer tasks that can accelerate assimilation and resolution.

Systemic Coaching Summary

We base our coaching and mentorship on integrity and competence. We help people evaluate their relationships and define their own goals. And we train people to provide effective coaching while avoiding codependence and other enmeshments.

Here's our general sequence:

  1. We check if they are ready to change.
  2. We meet people privately, by telephone or online.
  3. We help people define goals and check consequences
  4. We help people manage objections & plan for their success.
  5. We help people end self-criticism and conflict to recover integrity.
  6. We help people evaluate relationships & change unwanted entanglements.
  7. We help people define and find appropriate internal and external resources.
  8. We help people change fixations, obsessions, compulsions and limiting beliefs.
  9. We help people monitor their progress and solve other emotional problems.
  10. We help people find and benefit from appropriate mentorship and role models.
We focus on helping people create and maintain healthy relationship skills. Instead of listening to excuses and complaints, we coach people to turn their lives around. We help people define what they want ... and find ways for them get it!

Questions to Consider

You can use the following questions to help decide what to do next.

  1. Do you accept reality as it is?
  2. Do you have healthy relationship skills?
  3. What are your relationship history and habits?
  4. Do you know what habits you want to change?
  5. Do you know what qualities you want to develop?
  6. Do you know what you want in your relationships?
  7. What are your personal, partnership and family goals?
  8. Do you know your relationship needs and how to fulfill them?
  9. How do you recognize potential friends, team-workers and partners?

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I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email