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Systemic Coaching Diploma Courses
Martyn Carruthers

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

Develop your coaching and counseling skills through demonstrations, practical exercises and role-playing. Use these advanced coaching skills with clients, friends or at work; or add these skills to your coaching, counseling or therapeutic practice.
Focus on maturity and long-term happiness!

Lasting Happiness

Are you pursuing happiness? You have probably tried many things.
And you may have been unhappy anyway. Lasting happiness is real - and needs real work. You have to set happiness goals. You have to plan. And remember to be happy.

Lasting happiness requires that you are comfortable with yourself and with the consequences of your decisions. Your relationship with yourself determines how you respond to life and how you relate or connect to everyone else. Long-term happiness is real and enduring ... fun is a short-term distraction. Both are wonderful in their place, yet an obsession with fun can damage chances for happiness.

If you have a good relationship with yourself, you will see your world in a warm and positive way. If you carry guilt or avoid solving problems, you may see your world as cold and unpleasant. Until you change, lasting happiness may forever elude you. You may instead lose yourself in a search for distractions.

Unhappiness is easy. Simply avoid planning and expect other people to entertain you. Your long-term happiness requires your active participation. You can choose to make happiness a central part of your life. And part of your lasting happiness may be to help other people increase their joy of living.

Each segment of our training provides tools and skills to resolve or control specific blocks to happiness. Each segment is both a stand-alone course and is fully integrated into the larger frame of a systemic coaching diploma.

Segments of our Systemic Coaching Diploma Course are 5 days (6 days if translation required). Each segment of this Diploma Course is repeated every 2 years in many countries. While we recommend attending the segments in the sequence 1 to 10, you can attend them in any sequence you choose..

Most of our courses are 2 or 5 consecutive days, or over 2 weekends

Relationship Coaching & Counseling

Here are some basic tools for exploring relationships:

  1. Note emotionally sensitive topics and habits.
  2. Reveal and describe your underlying emotions.
  3. Share feedback calmly, not in blame or accusations.
  4. Recognize complaints, criticism, justifications and blame.
  5. Separate the content of messages from how they are communicated.
  6. Put yourselves into each other's places, to understand each others' viewpoints.
  7. Are you more interested in blaming, punishing or winning than in communicating?
  8. Check what each other has communicated. Identify and ask what may be missing or inferred.
  9. Identify your underlying values and how each of you benefit from the problem.
  10. Stay with a problem, observe its dynamics and follow its emotions, without trying to change it - and watch it change!

Loving relationships are the path and the goal of love.
Exceptional love requires exceptional clarity.

Contact us to build bridges across forever - bridges to integrity.

Online Coaching, Relationship Counseling & Systemic Therapy

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers, 2003-2018
All rights reserved.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email