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Soulwork America / Hawaii Soulwork Solutions in America Soulwork America / Hawaii
For happy partnership, healthy children & supportive friends

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

Contact us to evaluate and change your life.

 Soulwork Canada . Soulwork Hawaii . Soulwork Europe

We help people change beliefs, emotions and relationships. We incorporated many modalities to help people manage their emotions, change their beliefs, define their goals and develop spiritually.

To survive and prosper in today's economy, most people must redefine their goals and plans. Are you ready to change your emotions and beliefs about your life? Do you want to become more self-aware and help your family by first improving yourself?

We can help you mold and shape your dreams as you define goals, create plans, make decisions and move on in your life. We help people mange their emotions, change their beliefs and improve their success.

We can help you change your current and future behavior. We do not not focus on examining your past, nor diagnose mental illnesses nor discuss medications. We can help you get what you want.

Our questions, experiences and provocation can help you move on.

Maturity & Emotional Freedom

Many people sabotage their own lives.
Are you enmeshed in other people's sabotage?
Are you entangled in old trauma or other people's problems?

While most Americans are descended from Europeans, the relationship habits and relationship problems of both continents are not the same. We find that Americans tend to have more complex relationships - and more complex relationship problems - than their European cousins.

Individual happiness, family roles and community responsibilities in America often seem to be blurred by the impact of media, marketing, multiculturalism, multiple relocations, multiple partnerships, parental alienation, emotional incest and combined families.

Many American helping professionals seem to specialize in helping single people find partners, in helping partners become parents and in helping parents solve minor problems ... in a country with the world's highest rates of divorce and family breakdown. What's missing?

Let regret for time wasted motivate you to use whatever time remains!

We help people improve their maturity by resolving emotional problems and relationship problems. We help people change their bonds with past partners, fixations with parents, defuse sexual affairs and deal with the consequences of abortion.

We consider that your emotions reflect your relationships, and during our relationship coaching and clarification, many emotional problems may seem to evaporate.

We have presented our coaching and training in Europe, Asia, Africa and Australia. We adapt to different cultural and ethnic backgrounds to offer the best in brief relationship coaching.

We may use inquiry, reflection, requests and discussion to help people define their goals, and to develop strategies, relationships and action plans to achieve those goals. We help people become accountable to themselves by monitoring their progress towards their goals. We can be your sounding boards and human mirrors.

Our Coaching & Training

It would be hard to watch you suffer -
especially when we have something that could really help you.

Our training, personal or online, combines theory, demonstration, exercises and feedback. You can learn about yourself, people and success - and how you can help people increase their success. Our training shows you why, how and with whom to do this. We give you space to practice what you learn and our feedback offers you the information you need to improve your skills.

We enjoy coaching people to build healthy relationships. Healthy relationships are often characterized by acceptance, encouragement, communication, respect, solving problems quickly, talking about goals and feelings, planning together and working together to raise children, build a business or help their communities.

Attraction is not enough for lasting happiness ...
healthy relationships require goals, commitment and skills.

What have you already tried that failed? Have you already tried therapy, counseling or coaching but all you got was mentor damage, (hyper)active listening or useless advice?

Online Systemic Solutions

Problems with Self Problems with Family Problems with Partner
  1. Burnt Out
  2. Immaturity
  3. Obsessions
  4. Compulsions
  5. Identity Loss
  6. Self-Criticism
  7. Self-Sabotage
  8. Low Self-Esteem
  9. Chronic Emotions
  10. Mental Disorders
  1. Incest
  2. Abuse
  3. Lack of support
  4. Lack of love
  5. Breakdown
  6. Immature Partner
  7. Little Appreciation
  8. Emotional Neglect
  9. Compulsive Behavior
  10. Death of family member
  1. Abuse
  2. Affairs
  3. Silence
  4. Boredom
  5. Breakdown
  6. Immature Partner
  7. Little Appreciation
  8. Emotional Neglect
  9. Compulsions
  10. Little or No Affection

You are not alone. We can help you!

Soulwork Systemic Solutions - Training Objectives

I am told that people can readily identify with sharks, a tuna or dolphins. Sharks get energy from killing, tuna get energy from victimhood and dolphins get energy from playful teamwork. If this simplification has any truth - which would you identify with?

Following successful completion of our training, participants will be able to:

  1. Evaluate and clarify relationship problems
  2. Define goals, resolve objections & plan for success
  3. How to end self-criticism & inner conflict to recover integrity
  4. Recover lost and missing qualities, expertise and skills
  5. How to change relationship bonds for healthy relationships
  6. How to resolve abuse and trauma, and rebuild motivation
  7. How to end mentor damage & find inspirational mentorship
  8. Coach couples and partners simultaneously
  9. Coach whole families or parts of families simultaneously
  10. Coach teams and develop team leaders simultaneously

Founder: Martyn Carruthers

Martyn Carruthers founded an innovative integration of emotional and relationship coaching based in part on his integration of systems thinking with traditional healing methods. Martyn is acknowledged for creating effective methods for evaluating and changing relationship systems, dissolving cross-generational entanglements and resolving unwanted relationship habits.

More people stay together bonded by fixations than bonded by love.
Poor relationships with parents and ex-partners often cause lasting conflicts,
stress and ill health. Contact us to clean up your situation and move on.

Online Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 2005-2018
All rights reserved.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email