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Manage Emotions & Solve Relationship Problems


Do you want relief from negative emotions?
Do you want to solve relationship problems? Do you have important goals?

Contact us ... we will listen to you carefully and answer your questions.

Is This for You?  .  Prices & Costs  .  Training for Therapists

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Few meetings or conversations ever inspired me, touched me, moved me
or changed me as much as our short time together.

Do you delay seeking help until you feel desperate?
Do you wait until your partnership, heath or income are at risk?
Why not find solutions before your challenge becomes your crisis?

Martyn, it all came down to trust. There are very few people that we would trust with our marriage. You and Kosjenka earned our trust and we never had cause to doubt it.
Without your coaching we would be divorced.

Armchair philosophers offer simple solutions for complex problems.
Prayer, positive thinking, affirmations and meditations may seem full of hope,
if you have no unhealthy blocks, bad habits or relationships disturbing your life.

I never experienced better mentorship in my life. It was life changing and I recommend Martyn's coaching to anyone who is striving to improve quality of private and business life.
Stephen Werft
MA, Management Consultant / Trainer

We do not solve problems for people - that's for parents and social workers. We are not experts in statistics - that's psychology. We don't diagnose disease nor discuss drugs - that's medicine. We leave religion to priests and judgment to judges.
We help people choose appropriate goals and end self-sabotage.

Steps to Progress

1.  Do you seek coaching or therapy?  Check this table.
.  Is this really for you?  Answer these questions
3.  Select a coach and make appointments
4.  Pay  for  our  time  and  experience
 5.  Contact us at the agreed times
6.  Review what you learned
7.  Follow  your plan!
8. Feedback

Step 1) Do you want Coaching, Therapy or Training?

Every soul's journey needs a witness and a guide.

What you donít know can hurt you. Often, the hardest part of change is exploring
where you are now
, where you want to be and how to get there from here.

You seemed to hear what I could not say ... you helped me change some of my
negative beliefs into inner support ... you coached me to coach myself.

Do you try to force yourself into a better life with self-help books? Self-help solutions seem simple and easy ... if the strategies are effective and if there are no side-effects. A lot of popular self-help advice can damage relationships.

I came to you with a real bucket of worms. You helped me deal with
one worm at a time - even the long slimy twisted ones.
Miami, Florida

This table is adapted from Therapist as Life Coach by Patrick Williams:

Coaching Therapy
For healthy people who want better lives For patients with identifiable dysfunctions
Deals mostly with a personís goals and blocks
and seeks to help people get what they want
Deals mostly with patients' past trauma,
and seeks to heal patients
Helps people learn or improve skills to build  satisfying relationships and to achieve goals Helps patients manage old pain and suffering
Co-creative equal partnership (coaches help people explore their blocks and solve their problems) Doctor-patient relationship (therapists provide patients with diagnosis and interventions)
Emotions are perceived as natural and normal Emotions are perceived as unnatural and abnormal
Growth and progress are often rapid and enjoyable Growth and progress are often slow and painful
A coach helps people identify their goals and blocks, then walks with them to success, holding people accountable for reaching their goals. A therapist provides patients with professional expertise and guidelines to diagnose problems and provide patients with a path to healing.

What differentiates our coach training? Not only technique - but sense of life!
Our approach to coaching and training is not available in other programs.

You provided space in which I could change. I didn't have to respect your theories, adapt to your methods nor follow your directions. We did it together.

Step 2) We cannot help everybody

Let's connect our hearts and minds. Get to know us through our articles, talks and seminars. We have a Facebook Community and we can use Skype to chat and better know each other. Let's explore how well we can work together.

You walked with me into my worst nightmares, and in them you helped
 me find a marvelous treasure - my own self.

Ask one of us to be your professional coach, trainer, provocateur,
mentor and friend. Manage your emotions, change your habits,
improve your relationships and get what you want.

I got much more than my money's worth. My investment was far less
than what I gained.
Please sign me up for another three months.

We cannot accompany everybody ... please seek other assistance if:

* You are under 18
* You want free sessions
* You cannot cope with change
* You may harm  yourself or others
* You cannot cope with your daily tasks
* You want treatment for psychiatric disorders

Step 3) We cannot coach everybody. Are you coachable?

These questions can help you assess your maturity and motivation:

Are you mostly mature and responsible? YES - MAYBE - NO
Are you friendly? Do you have good friends? YES - MAYBE - NO
Are you reliable? Do you finish what you start? YES - MAYBE - NO
Are you honest? Do you generally avoid deception? YES - MAYBE - NO
Are you usually proactive  to solving life challenges? YES - MAYBE - NO
Have you suffered enough?  Do you want to change? YES - MAYBE - NO
Can  you  enjoy using new ways  and  new  behaviors? YES - MAYBE - NO
Are you willing to stop complaining, blaming and shaming? YES - MAYBE - NO
Are you financially prepared to invest in  your own future? YES - MAYBE - NO
Are you  ready to  explore and change any  self-sabotage? YES - MAYBE - NO
Do you intend to improve your health, wealth  and happiness? YES - MAYBE - NO

* For each YES - give yourself 3 points
 * For each MAYBE - only 1 point
 * Count your points ...

Over 24: You seem motivated and mature. Coaching you will be a pleasure.

Over 15: You seem ready to change. Online coaching should be good for you.

Under 15: Do you really want to change? Contact us when you are ready.

Step 4) We cannot please everybody. Choose your specialist ...

Some of our Expert Colleagues

Martyn Carruthers
Emotional Incest
Expert Modeling
Soulwork Trainer
Martyn Carruthers

Joy arises when we are true to our life purpose - true to the source of our love and passion - true to Soul. People who fulfill life purpose can share life goals, love and passion in healthy relationships.

Explore the influence of your relationships on your life to a deeper level than you are normally aware. A big part of your personality may be created to survive your early family. Once you find your true self, you are free to live a happy and creative life.

Emotional Maturity
Soulwork Trainer
Kosjenka Muk

You can peacefully change your life when you become aware of the origins of negative emotions and beliefs. Your "Bingo" resources wait for you!
Marinka Spodniak

Child Development
Coaching Troubled Children

Naturopathy & Detoxification

I specialize in nutrition and gentle detoxification. I am a Certified Nutrition Specialist and Traditional Naturopath.
Richard Diehl

Systemic Sales

Build your passion for life and your passion for justice!

Management Coach
Stephen Werft

Be patient and generous with yourself and others, and assume that your life and everyone in it are in service to your evolution as a human being.
Kelly Lynn Ford


Inner child coaching can free you from trauma and help you open your doors to maturity and lasting happiness.

Inner Child Coaching

Corporate Coaching

I work best with motivated people ... I enjoy giving my best to people who want the best.
Beverly Mann

Diabetes & Health Coach

The internet is full of confusing information about health. I help people transform vulnerability into empowerment.

Beverleigh Piepers

Would you like a more fulfilling and abundant life? Check out what I can do for you.


Abundance & Fulfillment

I offer you extensive experience in  international business, spiritual development and as a yoga teacher.

Leon Deith

Spiritual Coaching

Parenting & Business

I built a publishing business while single parenting a handicapped child. I coach parents to succeed at work and at home.


Step 5) Your Investment: Fees, Prices & Payments

We can accompany you as you move from where you are to where you want to be.
Let's change the source of your issues quickly - and move on!

How many sessions do you need? This depends on your goals, how realistic you are, how many issues you want to change, your maturity, your relationships, your health, your benefits for staying stuck, how hard you work and on how much you want to chat.

Most people want our coaching, training and support for one month to two years.
Most online sessions are about one hour.

Personal, Online & Telephone Sessions

Single sessions US $95 / session (50 - 60 minutes)
Packages US $395 / 5 sessions
We fully invest in coaching & training people to reach their goals.
We want you to be as invested as we are, so we ask you to pay
in advance.
If we phone you US $6 / hour (extra) in USA. In other countries, please ask
If we come to you Our rate plus expenses - 10 sessions minimum
If we teach for you Let's talk about what you want
Payments You can pay by PayPal
(We each have separate accounts)
If you cancel a session within 24 hours: you pay 50% only.
If we miss a session without notifying you ... you get a bonus free session.
We offer discounts to residents of Eastern Europe, India and
less-developed countries, depending on our available time.

 If you are not satisfied, tell us within 7 days
and we will refund the cost of your last session *

Please copy, paste, complete and email to:
Name: Partnership Status: Country:
Age: Health: City / time zone:
Major goals:
Major problems:
Emotional blocks:
Relationship issues:
Additional Information:
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Specialty Coaching & Training Packages

End Self-Sabotage

Stop sabotaging yourself and damaging your life

Self-Esteem Package Improve how you perceive and value yourself
Verbal Self-Defense Communicate with and respond to difficult people

Life Orientation

Explore where you are and where you want to be

Ongoing Mentorship

Monthly sessions for your ongoing development

Prepare for Partnership Clean up your beliefs, habits and expectations ...
stop copying unhealthy role models - be relaxed and happy
Relationship Clarity Dissolve relationship transferences and projections.
See yourself and others as real people with real dreams.
Emotional Maturity Change immature emotional habits & behaviors
Financial Maturity Change how you perceive, value and use money
Return to Health For people recovering from serious illnesses
Blocks to Spiritual Progress Change your logical, emotional, relationship or ancestral
blocks to your spiritual development
The Dark Side Explore and change the effects and consequences of
curses, ghosts, black magic & witchcraft.

Step 6) Contact us at the Agreed Time

Do you want a few sessions to achieve simple goals, or longer support to manage complex situations? It's your choice. Pay in advance by PayPal and we will expect your calls at the agreed times. Sometimes we provide crisis coaching at odd hours.

I found your coaching to be very spiritual, although you never used words like that. Thanks for sharing your authentic self and encouraging me to do the same.

 If you use a Wi-Fi device or mobile phone,
ensure that you have a full battery and good wireless reception.

  1. Check your audio equipment
  2. Choose a quiet and private place
  3. Don't call us while you are driving
  4. Use headphones and a microphone

If you want other people to change, develop your emotional maturity.
Your lasting happiness will be hard to ignore!

I just wanted to end fights with my mother-in-law yet over time you helped most of us.
I feel honored to be part of a real family rather than a group of grumpy people!

Step 7) Follow your Plan

After you clarify your goals, improve your relationships and sort out your emotional baggage ... what next? We can help you prepare for difficult conversations and complex transitions. When you reach your goals, you can set new goals and you can contact us whenever you want to manage a new issue or clarify some relationship.

Thank you for being my coach and helping me figure out what is best for me
rather than trying to program me with some other agenda.

Step 8) Send us Feedback

Your feedback is our continuing education. Please help us improve.
Tell us how your life has changed ... and give us permission to post your comments.

Email us at: Email: Soulwork Systemic Coaching
Your email address is safe with us.

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

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All rights reserved.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email