Do you help people untangle their relationships and emotions?
Soulwork Systemic Diagnosis & Relationship Coaching
When we help you improve your relationships,
we use a relationship diagnosis format. To help people effectively,
we need to know what's happening NOW in your relationships. You need
to know which relationships require what changes, in what sequence,
for you to enjoy achieving your goals.
We help people explore their relationships using
many perspectives. We have tested our diagnosis in over
twenty countries, and find it to be valid across cultures,
even with members of aboriginal groups who have never heard of
Western psycho-theologies and philosophies.
Our systemic coaching blends goal diagnosis and relationship diagnosis
with non-verbal diagnosis. It requires mastery of some
basic skills that we teach. Here is a quick self-test that you might enjoy:
- Can you build trusting relationships easily?
- Can you test whether relationship goals are achieved?
- Can you dissolve common verbal and non-verbal objections?
- Can you put all answers together to make a coherent model?
- Can you test whether verbal answers match non-verbal signals?
- Can you test the answers and your model using other modalities?
- Can you check the consequences of possible actions or inaction?
- Can you neutrally ask questions without favoring certain
- Can you neutrally listen to answers, without distorting
- Can you recognize transferences, transference loops and
Our relationship diagnosis helps us rapidly assess and
often predict relationship behavior, so that we can better help you
evaluate your relationships, goals, beliefs and blocks; and provide
much of the information you need to fulfill your goals.
Our relationship diagnosis can help you to assess,
evaluate and change your relationships. It provides
valuable relationship information in a short time that you can correlate,
test, confirm and integrate using our other systemic coaching tools.
Goal Diagnosis: "What do you want?"
As you improve at relationship diagnosis, you can include goal diagnosis.
Few people can answer the question, "What do you want?" with
a single, specific, timed goal with a plan to actualize the goal in ways
that benefit (or at least do not harm) all important people involved.
You can use goal diagnosis to identify the potential consequences and
side-effects of achieving goals and of the strategies for achieving those goals.
Together, relationship diagnosis and goal diagnosis help people
find appropriate goals and appropriate strategies for achieving those goals.
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Soulwork and Relationship Entanglements
Systemic relationship problems refer to unwanted
emotional confusion or bonds between people, usually unpleasant feelings
or beliefs based on past injustice and guilt. Entanglements can generate
enormous suffering, and are both the cause and effect of abnormal relationship
Entangled people often ignore or excuse their own problematic behavior. They
blame others, complain and justify their entanglements. Most people will suffer
long before they seek relationship coaching that can dissolve entanglements.
Depression can also follow entanglements with cults and cult-like
organizations (e.g. military, multi-level marketing, some government agencies).
Coaching can help people disentangle from unhealthy organizations, from counselors or from
damage by therapists.
Helping professionals and managers who can recognize the
behaviors associated with identity loss
can predict problems, get help early and
protect people and organizations from unpleasant consequences.
In any family (or other human system), people are alert to
justice and guilt, and respond to perceived injustice following the
examples set by parents and grandparents. We refer to some common
responses to injustice and disappointments as identity loss:
We help people
- Cannot change behavior
- Cannot express own life choices
- Cannot make decisions without conflict
- Cannot describe, feel or express emotions
1. Some Beliefs are Bonds
People who stay in unpleasant relationships despite having reasons
to leave may be emotionally bonded. Relationship bonds may manifest as
helplessness and hopelessness - represented by beliefs such as
"I must do as I am told", "I deserve to feel bad"
or "I cannot leave".
2. Systemic Identifications
A person may identify with another person who is perceived as
having been treated unjustly. (Watching cinema often produces short-term
identifications lasting a few minutes). Some
common identifications have predictable sets of chronic symptoms:
People with identifications may express emotional outbursts. A search for the
emotional triggers often indicates the causative entanglement and the type of
identification. Identifications seem to be common and cause much suffering.
3. Systemic Identity Conflict
People with identity conflict may swing between two poles or identities -
sometimes within a few minutes. A decision or promise made in one
polarity may be forgotten or ignored in the other. In extreme cases, if
one polarity is depressed, a person may be diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
If the person is amnesic of personality changes, the diagnosis
may be multiple personality syndrome.
4. Systemic Identity Loss
If a person cannot describe or feel their emotions, we suspect a lost sense of self
or Identity Loss. This can result from abuse, or from being ignored as a
child. People with identity loss may function in a robot-like manner and avoid participating in life.
to dissolve emotional blocks and relationship issues
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