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Soulwork Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

Online Soulwork Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

Do you want to manage painful emotions or difficult relationships?

Do you want to untangle your life ... and reclaim your freedom?

Are You Considering Online Coaching, Counseling or Training?

We help people resolve whatever stops them achieving their goals. We do not treat people, we offer a complete format for ending self-sabotage, managing emotional problems and solving relationship conflicts.

We help people develop skills ... and maturity. We help people identify and achieve their goals, manage negative emotions and solve complex relationship issues ...

  1. objections (verbal and non-verbal incongruence)
  2. identity loss (lost identity, identity conflict, identifications)
  3. relationship bonds (unconscious limiting beliefs that bond people together)
  4. unresolved trauma (overwhelming emotions that prevent progress (PTSD))
  5. mentor damage (consequences of inappropriate or manipulative mentorship)
  6. partnership problems (creating long-term intimate relationships)
  7. family entanglements (identity loss during family interactions)
  8. teamwork blocks (improving communication, decisions and cooperation.)

To accept people's pasts and encourage their futures - we start with the simplest things known to be true and work toward the more complex. Do you want to:

  1. be genuine, candid and honest
  2. become a role model for maturity
  3. understand people's subjective realities
  4. stay resourceful when discussing difficult situations

Your sessions moved me towards a higher awareness that I did not know was possible.
 You not only helped me resolve my blocks, you motivated me to explore what
else I can do.

The basic skills of systems psychology include recognizing and dissolving objections and conflicts (verbal and non-verbal incongruence) and coaching people resolve conflicts to make decisions with integrity. This requires training and experience in:

  1. systemic diagnosis, and relationship clarification (Systems 1)
  2. goal diagnosis, handling objections and planning (Systems 2)
  3. isomorphic and interactive metaphors (Dreamwork - Systems 3)

We also offer you more advanced skills in recognizing and dissolving systemic blocks:

  1. lost identity, identity conflict, identification (Systems 4)
  2. unpleasant beliefs that bond you to others (Systems 5)
  3. overwhelming emotions that prevent progress (Systems 6)
  4. consequences of inappropriate mentorship (Systems 7)
  5. effects of coaching on client's partnership (Systems 8)
  6. clear communication and family goal planning (Systems 9)
  7. improving co-operation and leadership in teams (Systems 10)

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You start if you decide that you want to offer help to people.

Common steps in Relationship Counseling:

  1. At first people may not trust you enough to discuss important issues
  2. Or they feel desperate and recite a litany of problems
  3. They may be unable to make important decisions
  4. With your help, they describes vague goals and perceived blocks
  5. Then they discuss important relationships, emotions and goals
  6. Then you and your clients can begin a true relationship
  7. And you walk together towards their goals


As your relationship develops:

  1. You and your clients discuss relationships, responsibilities and decisions
  2. Your clients begin to understand their important relationships
  3. Your clients become increasingly empathic, responsible and focused
  4. Your clients makes more and more mature decisions
  5. Your clients learn to live with integrity


As your relationship continues ... together

  1. assess relationships
  2. manage negative emotions
  3. resolve emotional conflicts
  4. clarify difficult discussions
  5. set realistic goals and plans
  6. solve relationship problems
  7. build healthy relationships


Systemic Coaching: Hints about Emotions

  • Despair often indicates limiting beliefs
  • Anger often indicates a perceived injustice
  • Denial indicates attempts to ignore the past
  • Mental illness often follows emotional incest
  • Relationship skills include how to accept love
  • Guilt often indicates that actions are needed to atone
  • Melancholy often indicates that someone important is missing
  • Anxiety often indicates potential trouble or identification with someone

Coach people to enjoy their relationships with themselves -
and then with their families, friends, work groups and communities.

Contact us for systemic coaching, counseling and coach training

Online Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.
I'm very glad that we met.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 2003-2018
All rights reserved.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email