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What is
Systems Psychology

What is Soulwork? This page can walk you through some of the basics!
Here you can learn a little about the synergy between your emotions,
your beliefs, your relationships and your success ... in almost any field.

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Contents at a Glance
  1. What is Soulwork?
  2. Soulwork Development
  3. Soulwork Purpose
  4. Goals and Coaching
  5. Beliefs and Values
  6. Emotions and Trauma
  7. Personal Identity
  8. Relationship Skills
  9. Soulwork Training

What is Soulwork?

Soulwork represents a new wave of change -
coaching and counseling tools that explore and encourage emotional maturity,
healthy relationships and challenging life goals, as a path to meaningful lives.

Soulwork focuses on a desire to help people define and fulfill their goals.
This requires excellence in goal-setting (goalwork), non-verbal communication
(body language) and in quickly recognizing behavioral patterns or habits.

The primary developer of Soulwork is Martyn Carruthers.
Martyn has a background as a paramedic, in health physics
and emergency planning.

Martyn attended the Royal Naval Medical School in England and later MIT and Harvard in America. He was certified as a NLP trainer and therapist in Canada in 1988. He was accepted as a teacher (kumu) of Hawaiian healing by native Hawaiian elders in 1995.

Soulwork Purpose

We emphasize exploring people's goals and experience,
rather than telling people what their goals and experiences should be.
We adjust our methods to fit each person ... rather than trying to make people fit our methods!

We help people accelerate their personal development with personal, telephone and
online services that encompasses the totality of people, encompassing all facets of life,
including entanglements, conflicts and fixations.

Soulwork, Goals and Skills

Life Goals evolve! Life goals are often chosen by young adults, and are later modified.
A childish wish to be an explorer may evolve into a passion for scientific research.
Later this may become a desire to create social or technical advances.
This may evolve into a desire for community in which you can share your highest values.

Many goals are steps to more important goals ... and many important goals are values.
(E.g. "I want a pay raise and a new car so that I can feel secure and successful").
Our Goalwork seems simple - and has hidden depths.

  1. Identify your current situation
  2. Identify what you want in your future
  3. Explore possible plans and their consequences
  4. Identify needed resources and sequencing
  5. Choose and implement your plan
  6. Test to ensure that you achieved your goals

Coaching skills are an essential part of Soulwork.
These skills involve defining goals, evaluating the consequences of
reaching those goals, fine-tuning those goals, encouraging people to fulfill their goals,
and dissolving cognitive, emotional and relationship blocks to those goals.
Systemic Coaching
refers to coaching people in human relationship systems,
such as partners, families and teams, and is more complex than coaching isolated individuals.

More advanced skills involve finding a stable experience of integrity (we call this Soul)
and helping people use this experience as a basis for quickly resolving relationship problems,
limiting beliefs. problematic emotions and identity loss.

Soulwork, Beliefs and Values

Beliefs are not facts ... beliefs are feelings of certainty about phrases or sentences.
Beliefs are generalizations typically based on either life experience or accepted from
other people. Many beliefs are ways of feeling connected to parents, family and teachers.
We help people change unwanted limiting beliefs and other emotional entanglements.

Values are abstractions of what is important. Power, for example, or Stability or Success.
People with particular values can be expected to act and react in predictable ways.
People's values evolve predictably, based mostly on their maturity and life challenges.

Soulwork, Emotions and Trauma

Emotional Maturity refers to behaving in ways appropriate to one's physical age.
Maturity involves managing negative emotions, internal conflicts and dysfunctional habits.
Emotional maturity is most apparent in relationship behavior.

We define trauma as events that cause people to split off part of their identity or consciousness. Trauma results in distorted emotional messages and immature behavior.
We help people understand their emotions, pull themselves together, change limiting beliefs and improve relationships.

Soulwork and Personal Identity

Personal Identity refers to who you are ... much more than the sum of all of your parts.
In Soulwork, a deep sense of identity is found in a transpersonal experiences of self-outside-time
... experiences of connectedness that often appear to transcend birth, life and death.

Many people have identified with other people, things and concepts.
Many people suffer identity loss and seek solutions. 
Finding and stabilizing transpersonal experiences are a basis for our advanced work.

Soulwork and Relationship Skills

Relationships are often complex and emotions are often counter-intuitive,
yet relationship skills are rarely taught in schools or universities.
Many people copy their parents, or follow ideas suggested by TV, cinema and
popular music - with a predictable result of nation-wide depression.

Healthy relationship skills allow people to relate and communicate in honest and
candid ways appropriate to the relationship ... whether with early family members,
friends, teams, partners, children or with other community members.
Each relationship type requires competence in different relationship skills.

Our website shares information.
Here people can find articles on many topics
and specialties. Our website also includes details about systemic psychology and our trainings.

Fractal by Martyn Carruthers

Relationship systems are complex. Every detail reflects other details in a hall of mirrors.
All too often, effects seem  to precede causes, and causes may be embedded within
'Russian dolls' of intentions, emotions, beliefs and communication skills.

Soulwork Training

Soulwork Training is the process of learning our modern alchemy ...
dissolving emotional problems, accelerating maturity and changing
the consequences of relationship problems. We train people in 5-day segments.
The first eight segments are required for certification and registration.

(Why not test your knowledge and skills with our Final Coaching Exam!)

If individual excellence is smeared across populations,
then social sciences become sciences of mediocrity!
We focus on how some people become excellent -
then we help other people learn those skills.

Becoming a Soulwork Coach

Soulwork Coaches are people whom we have trained, examined and certified as capable of helping people
change their lives using our methods. Some Soulwork Coaches have private counseling practices or jobs
in which they help people solve their emotional and relationship blocks and achieve their goals.

If you are very good at what you do, and you can prove it,
you will always stand out from the crowd.

Becoming a Soulwork Trainer

A Soulwork Trainer is the apex of our training ... a master of change-work ...
a person who can help most people change their emotions, relationship habits and lives ...
and a person who can train people to train others. To become a Soulwork Trainer you will
work closely with Martyn and / or Kosjenka. Contact us to learn to handle all the common
challenges of coaching people to solve their emotional and relationship blocks.

Online Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Training

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For online help, email us at:

Soulwork systemic coaching in America & Hawaii


Soulwork systemic coaching in England, Wales & Scotland

Soulwork systemic coaching in Croatia & Serbia

Soulwork systemic coaching in Poland



Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email