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Systemic Consequences of Abortion

Post-Abortion Counseling

Abortion affects "sense of life". People affected by abortion may become unable to feel joyously connected to their friends, partners, families, humanity or to their God. If human connectedness can be replaced by depression and suffering, then abortion is a deeply spiritual issue.

Are you affected by abortion?

Abortion provides fast relief and delayed suffering. The consequences of abortion can include depression, mourning, shame, self hatred, insomnia, anger and aggression. Soulwork post-abortion counseling helps people control and minimize the consequences of abortion that may be suffered by the parents, surviving children, other family members and the abortionists.

Are other children affected?

Following an abortion, other children in the family may experience depression, obsessions about babies, or eating or sleep disorders. Frequently, a living child identifies with an aborted sibling - see identification with a dead person - with predictable, unpleasant symptoms.

Consequences don't care about good intentions!

Soulwork post-abortion counseling helps families alleviate the relationship consequences of abortion, which occur even if the mother was raped or if the child was diagnosed with a genetic disease.

[ Spiritual Consequences of Abortion ]

Life gives birth to life

Most adults want to find partners and raise babies to independence. Adults who cannot have children may may dedicate themselves to some social or religious cause or they may obsess about substitutes for partnership and children, or about helping children. Or they may suffer depression.

Who benefits from abortion?

Today, about 150,000 pregnancies will be ended by abortion. Abortion is a big business that offers high incomes for those people able and willing to provide it. Although the financial and social benefits of abortion may seem obvious to a pregnant mother, to an unwilling father and to an abortionist, the consequences can be more expensive.

Who really suffers?

Children require attention, time and endless love. After an abortion, damaged relationships and depression may be ignored, or attributed to other causes. An abortion may "make sense" - for example if a pregnancy endangers a mother's life, or is the result of rape. But consequences don't care about good intentions. Other family members and particularly other children are likely to suffer following abortions are other children - even if the abortions are secret.

Health Consequences of Abortion

Have you arranged an abortion or pressured someone to have an abortion? Are you involved in the profitable abortion business? The total cost of an abortion may include:

1. Breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer
2. Uterine perforation and cervical laceration, causing bleeding, fever, and infections
3. Sterility (infections occur in about 30% of abortions)
4. Subsequent ectopic or tubal pregnancies (due to scar tissue)
5. Miscarriages and premature births in subsequent pregnancies
6. Post abortion syndrome - from depression to suicide
7. Emotional problems of partner, siblings and surviving children

Abortion is a Family Issue

Partners, parents, siblings and other children experience post-abortion reactions. Anger, depression, guilt and broken relationships are common. Anybody who pressures a person into having an abortion may be later unable to enjoy a relationship with that person.

The consequences of abortion can be painful and distressing. Yet all people affected by abortion can find healing and peace with Soulwork systemic coaching.

Relationship Consequences of Abortion

Abortion affects "sense of life". People affected by abortion may become unable to feel joyously connected to their friends, partners, families, humanity and to their God. If human connectedness is replaced by depression and suffering, then abortion is a deeply spiritual issue.

Many relationship and emotional consequences of abortion can be remedied during Soulwork Systemic Coaching, which includes post-abortion counselling.

Depression

Pleasure may be senseless if you have hurt a child - or a potential child. Guilt results from hurting people. Following an abortion, you may depress your life. Some common are:

Although Soulwork Systemic Coaching can help you resolve guilt issues, if you believe that you deserve to suffer, you may avoid this opportunity for relief and happiness.

[ Depression ] [ Anxiety ] [ Stress ] [ Suicide ]

Relationship Health & Relationship Coaching

We help people improve relationships. For many people, aborted children are important relationships. Yet many people try to forget about abortions - immature and irresponsible people prefer that someone else carry their baggage and suffer their consequences.

Soulwork post-abortion coaching helps parents regain intimacy following an abortion, and avoid separation or divorce, especially when a loss of intimacy follows a decision to abort a child. (A miscarriage caused by stress or violence often has similar consequences to an abortion.)

Ultimatum: lose the baby or lose me

A woman may have an abortion following an ultimatum: that either she has an abortion or the partner leaves. If a man insists that his potential child be killed, despite his partner's desire to give birth to a living baby; this couple may not regain their earlier intimacy until the guilt issues are resolved.

Soulwork post-abortion coaching is integrated with marriage counseling and couple coaching, and helps couples rebuild intimacy and commitment.

Missing Children

Siblings of an aborted child may be troubled by nightmares and disturbing dreams of being chased by monsters or dark ghosts, or that someone wants to kill them.

Soulwork couple coaching includes post-abortion counseling and can resolve abortion issues.

Abortion & Birth Order

During relationship coaching an abortion is often described (felt or experienced) as a "black hole" in the family matrix. Other children may sense this "hole", and be strongly affected by it, perhaps with nightmares of being trapped, or of being chased - often by a "man with a knife".

Family Secrets & Injustice

Following a secret abortion, other family members may sense that something is wrong. This feeling of wrongness is often experienced by family members of subsequent generations! A potential child was killed at the parents’ request.

If a child identifies with an aborted child, he or she tries to compensate for the aborted child. The surviving child may grow up melancholic and highly sensitive. (This includes psychic sensitivity - many psychics boast about their dead “spirit helpers”). Such a child often is often fascinated by death, cemeteries and horror films, etc, yet is not afraid of death. See: Dead Person Identification

Failed Abortions

Occasionally, we meet people whose parents tried to abort them, and failed. Such children may grow up distrusting their parents, and may have a phobia of hospitals, clinics etc. We have explored phobias of old women, often in Catholic countries in which abortion was illegal, in which the originating emotional event appeared to be an illegal abortion that failed to kill the fetus.

Consequences to Abortionists

An abortionist may become dissociated (unable to feel any emotions) and unable to maintain intimate relationships or long-term happiness. They may search for distractions instead of a meaningful life; resulting in obsessions and addictions. The partners, children and grandchildren of abortionists may reflect guilt with symptoms of depression, anxiety, learning disabilities and psychosomatic disease.

Since you started reading, another two thousand more abortions have just been made. Most of those baby bodies are now in garbage containers and a few are being used for research. Many of these deaths will have consequences that the parents, families and abortionists are not prepared for. Consequences don't care about your good intentions - and your burden can be heavy. Email us for post-abortion coaching.

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