The consequences of abortion and miscarriage can include guilt,
shame and depression, for the parents and any siblings.
Contact us if you feel negative emotions as you read this.
1: Emotional Consequences of
3: Spiritual Consequences of Abortion
Relationship Consequences of Abortion
Abortion seems to affect sense of life. People affected by
abortion may become unable to feel joyously connected to their friends, partners,
families, humanity and to their God. If human connectedness is replaced by
depression and suffering, then abortion is a spiritual issue. We help people
find solutions for the relationship problems and emotional consequences of
abortion, and other
When my girlfriend got pregnant, I was
happy ... I wanted to marry her and become a father ...
she had an abortion without asking me ... I hope that I
never see her again! Florida
Depression & Lost Children
Guilt seems to naturally result from hurting people. Pleasure may
seem senseless if you have hurt or killed a child - or a potential child.
Following an abortion, unresolved guilt may depress your life.
Some common signs of guilty depression are:
- Avoid tracking finances
- Avoid completing tasks
- Ignore personal hygiene
- Creating problems
- Consider self-harm
- Ignore important problems
As we help people manage guilt and depression, we meet people
who believe that they deserve to suffer and who avoid relief. They may sabotage
their opportunities for happiness. When we explore why they
deserve to suffer, we often find that their guilt concerns abuse
to other people. (We find that many mental health issues appear to be acts of
self-sabotage related to guilt!)
Relationship Health & our Systemic Coaching
We help people solve relationship problems. We find that aborted
children are important relationships, although many people try to forget about
their abortions. We find that parents and their surviving children often carry
an emotional baggage of guilt, and they suffer relationship consequences.
should not write about such things. You make people feel even worse that we
already feel. People don't want to know this stuff. They just want to forget
about it. Ohio
Our post-abortion coaching helps parents regain intimacy
following an abortion, and avoid separation or divorce, especially when a
loss of intimacy follows a decision to abort a child. (A miscarriage or
stillbirth caused by stress or violence often has similar emotional and
relationship consequences to an abortion.)
Ultimatum: "Either lose the baby or lose me"
A woman may have an abortion following an ultimatum that
either she end her pregnancy or her partner leaves. If a man insists
that his child be killed, despite his partner's desire for a
baby; this couple may never regain their intimacy ...
even if they stay together ... unless they manage their guilt,
anxiety and anger.
We integrate our
post-abortion coaching with marriage counseling and couple coaching,
and we help couples rebuild intimacy and commitment after losing a child.
Siblings of an aborted child may be troubled by nightmares. They
may have disturbing dreams of being chased by monsters or ghosts,
or that someone wants to kill them. They may also have phantom
friends or treat pets like siblings.
Such children may be overwhelmed with grief if such a pet dies.
My 6 year old daughter had recurring
nightmares for years ... being chased by a bad man
with a knife who wants to cut her up
... yes, I had an abortion ... why do you ask?
Within a month of our sessions,
my daughter now sleeps peacefully.
Our pre-marital coaching and
couple coaching may include
post-abortion counseling to help resolve previous abortions
and miscarriages (by their mothers) - especially if a couple
is having difficulty conceiving a child.
Following an abortion, many people describe (feel or experience)
a dark shape or black hole in or near their bodies.
Other children may also sense this "hole", and be affected
by it, perhaps with nightmares of being trapped, or of being hunted.
Following a secret abortion, other family members may sense
that something is wrong. This feeling of wrongness often seems to
be experienced by children in subsequent generations! A potential
child was killed at the parents’ request.
Aborted children can be born again ...
a guru told me that I reincarnated after I was aborted by my parents ... I told my parents
that I AM their dead (aborted) child ...
so they do not need to grieve me!
If a child identifies with an aborted child, he or she may
grow up melancholic and highly sensitive. (This includes
"psychic" sensitivity - many psychics boast about
their dead “spirit helpers”). Such children may be fascinated
by death, cemeteries and horror movies, etc, yet not be afraid
of death. See: Dead Person Identification
Occasionally, I meet people whose parents tried to abort
them, but failed. As children they often had nightmares of being
chased by monsters, and seemed to grow up distrusting their parents.
They may also have phobias of hospitals, clinics etc.
I coached four people with phobias of old women in Poland
(where abortion was illegal) and the original significant
emotional events appeared to be illegal abortions that failed
to kill the fetus. (I don't recall ever being presented with
this phobia in the West).
I had two abortions. I should have had three,
but I left it too late and
the doctors wouldn't do it ... I
love my daughter even though she is
always miserable and angry. Can you help her? Oregon
Consequences to Abortionists
The abortionists I have met seemed dissociated (unable to feel
many emotions) and less able to enjoy relationships or
even happiness. They seemed to seek distractions
more than meaningful lives; resulting in obsessions, addictions
Your writing about abortion
is pure nonsense. Abortion is not murder anymore
than liposuction, and the proper term is
'abortion doctor,' not 'abortionist'.
Doctors appear to have the
highest professional suicide rate ...
what else in medicine lacks sense and meaning?
As a doctor I have advised many women to have
abortions ... and I have seen most of
the consequences that you describe ... I'm not so sure now
that my advice was good.
I will do some research. Thanks. Texas
Since you started reading this page, about two
thousand more abortions have just been made. Most of those little
bodies are now in garbage containers and some are being processed
or harvested. Many of these deaths will have consequences
that the parents, families and abortionists are not prepared for.
Contact us to resolve your emotions or relationship
following abortions, miscarriages or cot deaths.
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