If an abortion causes guilt, shame and depression
in your family, then perhaps abortion is a spiritual issue!
1: Consequences of
Abortion : 2:
Relationship Consequences of Abortion
Spiritual Consequences of Abortion
Abortion offers high incomes for those who provide it. Whether or
not abortion is murder, or if a fetus experiences
pain are legal and medical opinions.
seem to care about good intentions, opinions or laws.
I described some emotional consequences
of abortion. The spiritual consequences of abortion are also relevant to
other situations where children
die young - including murder, accidents, miscarriage, still-birth and cot deaths.)
The key people are the mother, the father, the aborted
child and the abortionist. However the families of these people, and their
colleagues and communities are also affected. There's big money in dead babies
- even before organ-harvesting! Some people are more concerned about making fast
money than about human life. For some people human life is worthless.
Ignored problems rarely go away and often get worse. Many people who
are depressed, obsessed or addicted don't know why ... and those same
people avoid considering this question. It's much easier to drug
or distract yourself than to solve emotional and relationship issues.
The financial, medical and social benefits of abortions may be
obvious, while damaged relationships, guilt, depression and addictions
are not. Sometimes abortions make financial or medical sense - for example
if a pregnancy endangers a mother's life, or is the result of a rape, or
the parents do not want a child. The spiritual consequences are more about
"sense of life".
After my second abortion, I
was so depressed ... I was almost suicidal.
I suggest that the primary spiritual consequence
of abortion is a depressed ability to feel joyously connected to
families, to partners, to friends, to communities, to humanity or
to God. If sense of life can be replaced by guilt, shame
and suffering, then abortion is a spiritual issue.
We can help you manage these painful issues. We help motivated
adults resolve many of the consequences of abortion discussed
here. The facets of our work most relevant to the spiritual
consequences of abortion may be to manage guilt, clarify
relationships and regain sense of life.
Guilt, Shame & Clarification
Guilt depresses life. Being joyous may not make sense if
you have hurt or killed someone. We help people resolve seven
types of guilt issues result from having hurt or betrayed people.
Whether or not a fetus has a legal status as a human being -
most people recognize a fetus as a potential child.
When coach people to evaluate significant relationships, many are
surprised identify an aborted child as a significant relationship.
An abortion is often described as an unpleasant block that
seems to limit the expression of love and communication, primarily
within a family ... and we help people manage emotional problems.
You asked if my mother
had an abortion between my elder brother and me.
When I asked her - she said that she had - but that not even
knew about it ... how did YOU know about it?
Abortion & Intimacy
Arranging an abortion may decrease intimacy between
partners. Separation or divorce may follow even an attempted
abortion, although a couple may not recognize that their
estrangement and separation is a direct consequence of an abortion.
Sometimes, a woman may arrange an abortion unwillingly, following an ultimatum
from her partner, that either she arranges an abortion or he leaves. In our
experience, it is unlikely that this couple will remain in an intimate
partnership, although they may stay together for economic or religious reasons.
Similarly, some pregnant girls are told by their parents to
get an abortion or to leave the family home. It is hard to imagine
joyous family relationships following such abuse.
If a woman has an abortion despite the father's desire for the
child to be born, the consequences often include the end of
romantic intimacy. While the couple may stay together for
other reasons, both partners may describe a "black hole" between them.
I was happy to be pregnant, but my husband threatened to leave me if I didn't
have an abortion.
I got an
abortion, but after that,
I felt like a cold fish when we had sex.
was two bad years before we divorced.
Ghosts, Abortion & Lost Children
Many people describe feeling haunted by ghosts
or spirits. A spirit is often seen as a shape
close to (often directly in front or directly behind, occasionally
above) the person, that may seem to cause depression and prevent
long-term happiness. This occurs for both men and women.
As many religions forbid abortion, parents arranging
an abortion may also feel a diminished relationship with their community and
with their God. We found that
this diminished sense of life seems to be equally true for
agnostics and atheists.
The birth order
of children is important and becomes apparent during our work.
Family members often perceive an abortion as either a dark
energy or as a hole in the family. Subsequent children
may feel this hole, and be strongly affected by it. If seen as a spirit,
a child may consider it an imaginary friend.
Compensation for Death?
Following an abortion, the first pregnancy of the next born sibling
may be spontaneously or deliberately aborted, and/or the next living
child may suffer chronic melancholy and be preoccupied with death.
Often the siblings of an aborted child say that they search for
somebody who seemed to be missing.
This includes imaginary friends that
no-one else can see ... and soul-mates.
Many people have described such searches to us. They
searched for a person who would make things right!
Some people will find and marry a person who appears to have
these missing qualities. In this way, a missing family
member can be returned to the family - by transference.
My wife and I had been trying to have
a baby for years and she had two miscarriages ... We had a few sessions
with you ... now we have a baby son ... during our sessions, I found
that I was entangled with my mother's abortion and probably with an
abortion a girlfriend had when I was a teenager. Manchester
Hidden emotions are eventually expressed, and we often find that
one family member may express the hidden emotions of another.
Even following a secret abortion, other family members may
feel that something is not right. This feeling of wrongness
may also be experienced by family members of subsequent generations!
Dead Person Identification
Sometimes a later child identifies with a missing sibling,
and may grow up melancholic and highly sensitive.
(This includes psychic sensitivity - many psychic and healers boast
about having dead spirit helpers). Sensitive children are often
fascinated by death, dying and gore.
Occasionally, we meet people
whose parents tried to abort them, and failed. Such children seem
to grow up fearful and distrustful of their parents.
Perhaps children know and remember what happened in the womb.
(We also work with womb-twin survivors - people whose twins died before birth.)
Consequences to Abortionists
We notice that people who profit from abortion may become dissociated
(unable to feel emotions) and generally callous towards life.
This is often reflected by a lowered ability to enjoy intimate relationships,
spiritual experiences or lasting happiness. The staff of abortion
clinics whom we have met seem to have a higher risk of addictions,
depression and even suicide than in medical clinics that nurture human life.
Your writing about abortion is nonsense.
Abortion is not murder anymore than liposuction,
and the proper term is
'abortion doctor,' not 'abortionist. Anonymous email
The staff of abortion clinics may search for distractions instead of
happiness, and their children may experience
depression, learning disabilities and psychosomatic disease.
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