No symptom or group of symptoms is evidence
1: Motivation to abuse
a. Emotional Needs:
sexual contact with a child satisfies emotional needs
a. Emotional Needs
In our experience, an emotional need to abuse children usually originates in an abuser's childhood. A pedophile is likely male, and was likely subjected to physical or emotional incest and/or sexual molestation by relatives, teachers, etc.
A child who is molested will usually dissociate, or "mentally step out" of the abuse. The safest or strongest place of refuge may be to identify with the abuser. If a child identifies (becomes emotionally enmeshed) with an abuser during sexual abuse, that child can create a bond, a latent personality, an inner sexual abuser, which will likely be repressed or mostly dormant until adolescence.
Similarly, during covert emotional incest, a child loved as a substitute for a partner may create a latent sub-personality (or part) that, after adolescence, responds to children as sexual objects.
b. Sexual Arousal
Sexual gratification for a sexual abuser may express a repressed bond (or sub-personality or part). When this bond or sub-personality is expressed, relief may be experienced, although the dominant personality may be guilt-ridden about the abuse. The dominant personality may then forget, justify or excuse this behavior ... until the repressed sub-personality is again triggered.
Fantasies, pornography and watching children appear to be common substitutes for pedophile sexual gratification. If these substitutes release emotional pressure from abusers' sub-personalities, this may prevent sexual contact with children. (Some researchers believe that these substitute activities motivate further abuse ... it seems likely that both can be true).
2: Internal Inhibition
If the potential abuser is bonded by personal, cultural or religious taboos - he will not abuse children - unless or until emotional pressure reaches a threshold that requires action. Studies of pedophilia in the Catholic church exposed the inner conflicts of men who could not manage their sexuality.
Personal, cultural or religious taboos can decrease an abuser's motivation to abuse. Some ways that people free themselves from these taboos are alcohol, illegal drugs and philosophies that teach that impulses should be expressed without inhibition.
3: External Obstacles
As well as internal inhibitions, abusers must overcome obstacles such as family members, neighbors, the child's friends, supervision and training. Risk factors that contribute to child sexual abuse are:
After inhibitions and obstacles, a pedophile must overcome the child's own resistance. Abusers may select children based on insecure or dissociated body postures - children who lack friends or siblings. Children selected by abusers are rarely aware that they are being sexually approached. Some perverts groom children with attention until they comply with sexual requests, and/or until they reach a legal age of consent.
Effective prevention includes teaching children to avoid, resist and report abuse, and educating counselors and therapists in systemic psychology. Although child abuse may be the result of bribery, force, threats or violence; children can be taught to deter abusers by increasing their risk of detection or capture. Examples are:
Abuse may also be prevented by appropriate treatment for the abusers who accept responsibility for their urges. Yet, some pedophiles do not want to change and do not accept responsibility. Instead they blame their parents, culture and/or their victims.
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Abused people may try to control their betrayal, shame and emotional pain by:
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