Do you use drugs as a substitute for change?
Self-medication with alcohol, nicotine or with anti-depressants
and stimulants seem easier than changing relationship issues,
but drugs have short-term results and unpleasant side-effects.
Enter Stage Right
If you are a professional actor, singer or comedian, you are
probably unique and brilliant. And you may have unique and brilliant
relationship problems: anxiety, depression, fear, self esteem,
loneliness and financial issues. Like many performing artists,
you probably have to cope with a rapidly changing life.
"They say that my smile is as bright
as ever. Can't they see the pain in my eyes?"
Many professional actors, singers, dancers and comedians live
complex lives. Life on the road or even at the studio is rarely easy.
You are faced with constant change, often living away from home and having to
please directors, producers and audiences. This all adds stress and uncertainty.
Enter Stage Fright
Most entertainers are experts at identifying
with roles and expressing emotions appropriate to those roles. But this
can lead to deep-seated confusion. If you over-identify with a
character type - you may feel unable to reclaim your own identity
when the curtains close. Do you ever get lost in your roles?
We can help you resolve emotional and relationship issues.
Within many successful performers are
creative, playful children; dressing up in their parents' clothes.
Your performance represents your creativity and your playfulness - and those same
qualities can sabotage your relationships and your career.
Although a stage or TV set can be stressful, you can
control your stress and its consequences. Acting can be hard work, and
its demands can suck you dry. How well do you know your limits?
- Can you say "No"?
- Can you stop criticizing yourself?
- Can you make time for your own happiness?
- Can you balance preparedness and stage fright?
- Can you create and maintain stable relationships?
- Can you handle the uncertainties of a performing career?
- Can you deal with going on location, touring and
starting new shows?
can help actors a lot. We use identification as a useful model of
consciousness. People who can temporarily identify with other people can more
easily express and enter other models of reality.
help actors adapt to different roles. Lasting identifications can cause
long-term confusion and distress.
Many actors can easily see and feel other people's
points of view - but they may lose track of or forget their own points
of view. They may lose access to their own identities. Many people
behave as if they have temporary identity loss
(e.g. "I don't know what came over me").
learned many life skills by identifying with your same-sex parent. Identifying with another person is how a person (usually as a child)
tries to makes sense of life; and how actors adopt other personalities.
Identified adults may feel normal, just and right, even when behaving
in ways that other people consider abnormal, unjust and wrong. Yet identity issues follow systemic rules, and
most can be resolved with our systemic
Some common identity issues are:
The symptoms are not difficult to perceive. People with chronic conflict may be unable to peacefully make decisions - or quickly change
their minds and criticize themselves. And people who constantly criticize themselves
very critical of others.
People who have identified with victims are generally angry, suspicious and
judgmental; people who have identified with dead people are
generally melancholic and may be obsessed with death; and people who have
identified with heroes are generally anxious and may avoid change.
Such identified people often describe an inner experience of being right
in a wrong world. Although dissociation and identification may be essential acting skills,
getting lost in identifications can lead to
chronic dissociation, depression or
You are part of a matrix of relationships that spans
countless generations. You may have dedicated much
of your life to repeating injustices or resolving deficiencies that you
perceived in your family. You may experience the
consequences of the behavior of other family members as bonds, fixations
and limiting beliefs.
Are you attempting to carry the
emotional baggage of your family?
Are you trying to complete the unfinished business of your ancestors?
You might die trying.
Contact us to manage your emotions, limiting beliefs and
self-sabotage. We can help you sort out relationship problems and
affairs. If your children have problems, maybe read
Learning Disabilities, Children of Divorce
and Parent Alienation.
If you are a performing artist,
you can benefit from our life coaching and relationship counseling about
role identification, and on coming back to yourself after the show.
We can help you improve your roles ... and your life.
As most actors and stage professionals are in touch with
their feelings, our online help may be perfect for you.
We can help you, no matter where you are, and
help you solve some of your problems with your emotions,
career and relationships.
Enrich your joy of performing. Did you
think that you had lost it?
Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Therapy
I thought you were just
another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.
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