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Enter Stage Right "They say that my smile is a bright as ever.
Can't they see the pain in my eyes?"
If you are a professional actor, singer or comedian,
you are probably unique and brilliant. And you probably have unique
relationship problems, anxiety, depression, fear, self esteem,
loneliness and financial issues. Like many performing artists, you
probably have to cope with a rapidly changing life.
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Can't they see the pain in my eyes?" |
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Most professional actors, singers, dancers and comedians
live difficult lives. Life on the road or at the studio is rarely easy.
You are faced with constant change, living away from home and having to
please audiences. This adds stress and uncertainty to life, and not many people survive.
Enter Stage Fright
Effective actors are experts at identifying with
roles, and expressing the emotions of those roles.
This can lead to confusion. Perhaps you cannot identify with certain character types - and perhaps you cannot reclaim your own identity when the curtains close.
You can get lost in a role, especially if your own identity feels less compelling than your act.
You may not need psychotherapy - systemic coaching can sort out your issues and put you back on your feet and ready to go.
Systemic coaching can sort out many emotional disorders and complaints - for you and for your family.
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Within many successful performers are creative,
playful children; still dressing up in their parents' clothes.
Your performance is your creativity and your playfulness -
the same qualities that can sabotage your relationships and your career. |
Although the stage is a stressful career, you can
control your stress and its consequences. Acting can be hard work,
and can suck you dry. How well do you know your limits?
- Can you say "No"?
- Do you criticize yourself without mercy?
- Do you have time for everyone but yourself?
- How do you balance preparedness and stage fright?
- How do you create and maintain stable relationships?
- How do you handle the uncertainty of an acting career?
- How do you deal with going on location, touring and starting new shows?
False Identity
Understanding identification can help actors enormously.
This is part of a systemic model of consciousness used in systemic coaching.
Identified people can more easily and express enter other models of reality.
Identifications can help actors identify with roles. Many actors can see
other people's points of view - but they may lose track of their own point of view.
Most people act as if they are partially identified to
different degrees. (People learn many life skills by identifying with role models.)
An identified person may feel normal, just and right, even when expressing emotions
with behavior that other people consider abnormal. Identifying with another person
is how a person (usually as a child) tries to makes sense of life; and how actors
adopt other personalities.
Personality identification follows systemic rules, and can be readily
recognized with systemic relationship diagnosis. The three basic types are:
- Chronic anger and rage are typical of victim identification
- Chronic sadness and melancholy are typical of dead person identification
- Chronic fear and anxiety attacks are typical of hero identification
The symptoms are often easy to perceive in others – a victim
identified person is generally suspicious and may enjoy annoying or tormenting people; a
dead person identified person is generally melancholy and may be obsessed
with death; and a hero identified person is generally anxious and may avoid
any type of change.
An identified person may describe an inner experience of
"rightness in a wrong world". Although identification is an
essential acting skill, it can go to the edges of addictions, depression and
lost identity.
[ Addiction ]
[ Depression ]
[ Anxiety ]
[ Bipolar Disorder ]
Happy Families
You are part of a matrix of relationships that spans
countless generations. Your life patterns are probably dedicated much to
resolving deficiencies or injustice that you perceive in your family.
Within your family matrix, you experience the consequences of the behavior
of other family members, as entanglements and emotional incest.
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You may attempt to carry the emotional baggage of
your family, and try to complete the unfinished business of your parents.
You might die trying. And for what? For applause? |
For more on entanglements and emotional incest, and on how to solve them, see:
[ Father-Daughter Entanglements ]
[ Mother-Son Entanglements ]
If your children have learning problems, see:
[ Prevent and Heal Learning Disabilities ]
[ Children of Divorce ]
Healthy Solutions Actors and other performing artists can get private coaching and group workshops on
role identification, and on coming home after the curtain falls. We help actors improve their roles ... and later themselves.
As actors are used to being in touch with their feelings, our systemic coaching may be perfect for you.
This professional friendship can nurture you, no matter where you are, and
help you deal with and solve some of the problems associated with your career.
Consult your physician about any opinions or recommendations
about medical symptoms or other medical questions.
Relationship Coaching ...
Systemic Coach Training ...
Your Next Step
Do you want relationship coaching or
systemic coach training?
We can train you to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve a wide
range of emotional, educational and relationship challenges.
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