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Can you control Allergies without Drugs
The implications of healing an allergy without drugs may be
of special interest to coaches and therapists. This article may interest members of allergy counseling and support groups.
Your immune system is a miracle of self-preservation, and
destroys invading
organisms. Sometimes, however, your immune system may attack harmless substances. You are said to have an allergy when your body
is especially sensitive to an otherwise harmless substance (an allergen).
If you over-react – your immune system responds to a normally harmless substance
as if it were an invading organism - perhaps producing symptoms of Hay Fever.
And sometimes your immune system will respond to your own tissues - see
Autoimmune Disease.
For example, Hay Fever is
usually caused by an allergy to one or more pollens. Many people with asthma are
allergic to micro-organisms in dust, fur or feathers. Allergies produce a
wide range of effects. Some people experience skin reactions from drugs,
cosmetics or household cleaners.
Some people suffer stomach upsets due to
food allergens such as nuts or shellfish. Some people suffer mental
imbalance due to allergens in common foods such as milk or wheat. A severe
allergic reaction may cause anaphylactic shock, which can be fatal.
Almost anything may be an
allergen and cause allergic reactions. You may
spontaneously cease to be allergic to some allergen. During hypnosis, you
could be requested to imagine that an allergen is on your skin – and
then you may produce an “allergic” reaction – to NOTHING
except your suggested thoughts. Your skin may redden and blister
and your breathing may become strained.
Also, some people suffering from
multiple-personality disorder are allergic to a certain allergen in one
personality – and immune to that allergen in another. It seems that an immune
system can rapidly reprogram itself. Sometimes an immune system can change
dramatically in minutes!
If you have an
Autoimmune Disease, you become allergic to your own
body. An immune response is mobilized not against `foreign' matter, such as
invading germs, but against your body itself. Diseases considered to
have an auto-immune origin include myasthenia, rheumatoid arthritis and
lupus.
Some cancers may be examples
of auto-immune disease. Your healthy immune system destroys cancer cells before
the cancer is large enough to be clinically recognized. If your poor diet or
stress impairs your immune system, auto-immune disease becomes more likely.
Soulwork emphasizes finding the benefits of a “problem”. The benefits of allergies can be placed
into groups. Allergies seem to represent conflicts – a
manifestation of an emotional “war” that you may carry within you. Some allergies
help people deal with the problems of disintegrated personality, such as
an inability to defend oneself verbally.
Some allergies may help people solve
relationship problems, such as getting attention. Some allergies resolve the
problems of past trauma by allowing repressed emotions to be communicated
physically, and some allergies allow a person to “follow” an unhealthy role
model. (Many so-called “genetic” allergies may be a result of modeling. For example, a child who is allergic to the same allergen as a parent may be
said to “follow” that parent.
Coaching & Allergies
Assume that your allergy once had some benefits. List these benefits. Write them down! List as many benefits as
possible - including tiny benefits. Imagine what other benefits that your
allergy could have.
As you
become aware of the benefits of an allergy, you will probably feel more
in-control. For example, does an allergy help you to express emotions? Does an allergy help you to set
boundaries?
Relationship Coaching
accelerates how people heal naturally! A Soulwork Coach can observe
your non-verbal body language, and help you recognize and dissolve
incongruence and conflicts. Soulwork can help you learn from your emotions,
and help you evaluate your life. (See
Human Consciousness and Decision Making.)
Only explore an allergy
if it feels right for you to do so. Please stop, and seek professional help
if you experience strong emotions when considering it.
Emotional Incest & Relationship Bonds
Complex conflict often reflects an emotional bond. These
limiting identity beliefs (e.g. “I am bad” or “I don’t deserve anything” may
replace the true identity as a basis for living. Relationship bonds allow a child to bond to important but difficult people
(often a parent). They can be replaced during Soulwork.
[ Emotional
Incest ] [ Relationship Bonds ]
Benefits of Conflict
Conflict has benefits. People
with complex conflicts can usually multi-track many projects easily, which
is often an asset in management. A person with existential conflict may be bored
with only one or two projects, and may strive to feel
“normal” by provoking other people into conflict.
How are you feeling right now?
Please continue this only if it feels right for you.
Perhaps seek professional coaching
if you experience strong emotions as you consider these issues.
After reconciliation, a part
may be willing to replace the allergic reaction with something friendlier.
Please be careful when testing an allergy. Do not
deliberately expose yourself to allergens – continue to avoid them, and
simply notice what happens if you are accidentally exposed. If your
allergies have been life threatening, please continue to take appropriate
precautions against exposure.
Not ALL in the Mind
| A woman in
mid-thirties was allergic to cigarette smoke since childhood. Being shy,
she would not ask people not to smoke, but she would cough and wheeze
until people around her stopped smoking. The allergy disappeared shortly
after the woman dissolved a toxic emotional bond with her father and learned to assert herself.
(See Daddy's
Princess) |
These summaries indicate a systemic perspective to
relationship coaching for an allergy. Systemic allergy coaching can be
extremely rapid and drug-free.
| A middle-aged, aggressive man was allergic to milk and milk products, which
caused mental confusion for many years before the allergy was
recognized. (It seems that many people diagnosed with mental illness
suffer from allergies to common foods such as wheat, potatoes etc) The
allergy seemed to compensate for the man’s arrogance. As the man learned
to be gentle with his friends and relatives; the
allergy and the aggression disappeared. |
If an allergy is due in part to relationship, family or
workplace stress, or to depression (and toxic ways that people try to avoid
depression), then systemic coaching may
provide speedy relief.
Our personal approach can evaluate the response of
an allergy to individual
conditions, and help identify safe ways to control the symptoms. Our approach may only require minor lifestyle adjustments
to control an allergy, which can gradually become less problematic and may
eventually disappear.
Consult your physician about any opinions or recommendations
about medical symptoms or other medical questions.
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