Do you often feel anxious?
Are you sometimes scared?
Do you worry unduly? We help people manage anxiety, fear and worry.
Anxiety, Fear & Worry
Anxiety, fear & worry describe unpleasant
emotions that may motivate people to avoid demanding situations. Such emotions
often cause adults to feel like powerless children. We coach people to manage
and change emotions that prevent adult decisions and mature behavior. We can
If you worry or feel anxious, you may find that
you are reliving childish memories. Many people get stuck in emotions
from childhood trauma and disappointments
Nervousness, Anxiety & Panic Attacks
Do you worry constantly,
even when nothing is wrong? If you can't relax; if
you constantly expect the worst, you may be unable to stop.
Anxiety is always a choice
.... and rarely a useful choice.
If you worry a lot, your muscles may get tense and sore. You
will likely feel tired and people may call you irritable or grouchy. It may be
harder for you to concentrate, to relax or even to sleep. You may have a sense
of dread or doom and not know what you are worrying about. If you feel chronic
anxiety, that life is moving on without you?
"Are these shadows of things that
will be, or are they shadows of things that may be?"
Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol
Anxiety often begins in childhood or teenage years. More
women seem to suffer from anxiety than men, and anxiety seems to run in
families. Some anxiety problems are due to food allergies; but most seem to
reflect relationship chaos. Anxiety may lessen with age ... if you want to
wait that long.
If you feel anxious about your health, you probably
wish that you didn't. You may have health anxiety. Although
many health professionals and drug salespeople are obsessed with
solving health problems, few medical professionals seem
to relate to people with health anxiety. They may accuse you of
exaggerating - they may call you a hypochondriac, a
malingerer ... or a liar.
and Compulsions . Addictions
Some people interpret body sensations as evidence of serious
disease (hypochondria). Some people invent medical
symptoms to avoid work, to qualify for disability payments or to
evade military service (malingering). Some people lie
about their health (Munchausen's) to manipulate people.
Do you invent medical symptoms to help you get what you want?
Do you enjoy deceiving medical professionals to obtain more
control of your life? Health anxieties are also associated with
trauma, PTSD and
Hypochondria: Worried Sick?
Hypochondria is a persistent irrational fear that you are
suffering, or will suffer, from a serious medical condition.
You may believe that you have heart problems, cancer or some
serious disease - and that your doctor is not trying hard enough
to cure you.
You may feel dizziness, swelling, palpitations or pain.
But if you misread these symptoms, you may distrust medical professionals.
You may interpret normal signs (like headache, dizziness, fatigue
etc) as dangerous. This may be connected to
loneliness, depression, guilt or a preoccupation with death.
If you believe that your body is defective or deformed or if you are
using phantom defects to justify your depressed lifestyle,
then endless reassurance or even plastic surgery are unlikely to ease your
unpleasant feelings about your body.
Most hypochondriac people will
never go to a psychiatrist, they'll say, 'I don't
want to talk about this, I want another biopsy, I want that CAT scan repeated.
Dr Arthur Barsky (Harvard Medical School)
Stress . Nervousness
Social Phobia - Social Anxiety
Do you dread being judged, criticized, and evaluated.
You may think that your fear is irrational, and you may
be diagnosed with social phobia or social anxiety.
If you have social phobia
you find it difficult to be with people ("What are they thinking
about me; maybe they don't like me"). You may attract attention to
yourself or even try to be the center of attention ("They don't
like what I'm doing; am I making a fool of myself?"). If you feel
insecure and self-conscious in most social settings, we can help you manage
emotions and thoughts like these.
GAD - Generalized Anxiety
You are constantly worried or afraid. You
complain of non-stop anxiety! You may even worry in your dreams. You may
have muscle pains and headaches, you may feel constantly tired and yet
you cannot seem to relax. You may sweat a lot, even at night. You may
feel that you might vomit.
If you have generalized anxiety you may find it difficult
to leave your home. ("What will happen? Maybe something terrible").
You may be afraid of "losing it" in public. If you feel
insecure in all parts of your life, you may be diagnosed as agoraphobic.
Solutions for Anxious Children
About 10% to 20% of pediatric patients suffer from anxiety
disorders, and many frightened children grow up to become adults with
anxiety disorders. We often coach parents to sort out
their own relationship problems and emotions as a way to help their children. Healthy,
happy parents are much better role models.
Not all treatments available for adults with anxiety disorders
are suitable for children and adolescents. Benzodiazepines have a high risk of
sedation, dependence and withdrawal, making them inappropriate for children.
Studies evaluating tricyclic antidepressants in children yielded conflicting
results and risk unwanted side effects. Several studies report the effectiveness
of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), but still more promote the
benefits of cognitive behavioral therapy.
Condensed from an article by
Jennifer Gibson, PharmD at http://brainblogger.com
Solutions for Anxiety
Doctors often treat anxiety with antidepressants
and anti-anxiety drugs (benzodiazepines & beta-blockers) rather than solving
A male client was involved with a cult. His teenage son was assumed
to have an anxiety disorder - yet the son's symptoms vanished
after a few sessions of our online work with his father, who
decided to love his family more than he loved his cult.
A female client lived in constant anxiety.
As we worked with her, it transpired
that her sister had been a prostitute who supported her family. The family claimed
that a rich relative was sending them money.
The client had identified with her sister
and carried her sister's fear.
Do you want to stop feeling anxious,
enjoying more calmness and better functioning? Our systemic solutions may include
individual and couple coaching, and family therapy. We help people change
their thoughts and manage their motivations.
Please consult your physician about medical conditions.
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