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Solutions for Anxiety, Panic & Worry
Freedom from fear Martyn Carruthers

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Do you often feel anxious? Are you sometimes scared?
Do you worry unduly? We help people manage anxiety, fear and worry.

Anxiety, Fear & Worry

Anxiety, fear & worry describe unpleasant emotions that may motivate people to avoid demanding situations. Such emotions often cause adults to feel like powerless children. We coach people to manage and change emotions that prevent adult decisions and mature behavior. We can help you.

If you worry or feel anxious, you may find that you are reliving childish memories. Many people get stuck in emotions from childhood trauma and disappointments

Nervousness, Anxiety & Panic Attacks

Do you worry constantly, even when nothing is wrong? If you can't relax; if you constantly expect the worst, you may be unable to stop.

Anxiety is always a choice .... and rarely a useful choice.

If you worry a lot, your muscles may get tense and sore. You will likely feel tired and people may call you irritable or grouchy. It may be harder for you to concentrate, to relax or even to sleep. You may have a sense of dread or doom and not know what you are worrying about. If you feel chronic anxiety, that life is moving on without you?

"Are these shadows of things that will be, or are they shadows of things that may be?"
Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol

Anxiety often begins in childhood or teenage years. More women seem to suffer from anxiety than men, and anxiety seems to run in families. Some anxiety problems are due to food allergies; but most seem to reflect relationship chaos. Anxiety may lessen with age ... if you want to wait that long.

Health Anxiety

If you feel anxious about your health, you probably wish that you didn't. You may have health anxiety. Although many health professionals and drug salespeople are obsessed with solving health problems, few medical professionals seem to relate to people with health anxiety. They may accuse you of exaggerating - they may call you a hypochondriac, a malingerer ... or a liar.

Obsessions and Compulsions . Addictions

Some people interpret body sensations as evidence of serious disease (hypochondria). Some people invent medical symptoms to avoid work, to qualify for disability payments or to evade military service (malingering). Some people lie about their health (Munchausen's) to manipulate people.

Do you invent medical symptoms to help you get what you want? Do you enjoy deceiving medical professionals to obtain more control of your life? Health anxieties are also associated with trauma, PTSD and eating disorders.

Hypochondria: Worried Sick?

Hypochondria is a persistent irrational fear that you are suffering, or will suffer, from a serious medical condition. You may believe that you have heart problems, cancer or some serious disease - and that your doctor is not trying hard enough to cure you.

You may feel dizziness, swelling, palpitations or pain. But if you misread these symptoms, you may distrust medical professionals. You may interpret normal signs (like headache, dizziness, fatigue etc) as dangerous. This may be connected to loneliness, depression, guilt or a preoccupation with death.

If you believe that your body is defective or deformed or if you are using phantom defects to justify your depressed lifestyle, then endless reassurance or even plastic surgery are unlikely to ease your unpleasant feelings about your body.

Most hypochondriac people will never go to a psychiatrist, they'll say, 'I don't
want to talk about this, I want another biopsy, I want that CAT scan repeated.
Dr Arthur Barsky (Harvard Medical School)

Depression . Stress . Nervousness

Social Phobia - Social Anxiety

Do you dread being judged, criticized, and evaluated. You may think that your fear is irrational, and you may be diagnosed with social phobia or social anxiety.

If you have social phobia you find it difficult to be with people ("What are they thinking about me; maybe they don't like me"). You may attract attention to yourself or even try to be the center of attention ("They don't like what I'm doing; am I making a fool of myself?"). If you feel insecure and self-conscious in most social settings, we can help you manage emotions and thoughts like these.

GAD - Generalized Anxiety

You are constantly worried or afraid. You complain of non-stop anxiety! You may even worry in your dreams. You may have muscle pains and headaches, you may feel constantly tired and yet you cannot seem to relax. You may sweat a lot, even at night. You may feel that you might vomit.

If you have generalized anxiety you may find it difficult to leave your home. ("What will happen? Maybe something terrible"). You may be afraid of "losing it" in public. If you feel insecure in all parts of your life, you may be diagnosed as agoraphobic.

Solutions for Anxious Children

About 10% to 20% of pediatric patients suffer from anxiety disorders, and many frightened children grow up to become adults with anxiety disorders. We often coach parents to sort out their own relationship problems and emotions as a way to help their children. Healthy, happy parents are much better role models.

Not all treatments available for adults with anxiety disorders are suitable for children and adolescents. Benzodiazepines have a high risk of sedation, dependence and withdrawal, making them inappropriate for children. Studies evaluating tricyclic antidepressants in children yielded conflicting results and risk unwanted side effects. Several studies report the effectiveness of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), but still more promote the benefits of cognitive behavioral therapy.
Condensed from an article by Jennifer Gibson, PharmD at

Solutions for Anxiety

Doctors often treat anxiety with antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs (benzodiazepines & beta-blockers) rather than solving relationship issues.

A male client was involved with a cult. His teenage son was assumed to have an anxiety disorder - yet the son's symptoms vanished after a few sessions of our online work with his father, who decided to love his family more than he loved his cult.

A female client lived in constant anxiety. As we worked with her, it transpired
that her sister had been a prostitute who supported her family. The family claimed that a rich relative was sending them money. The client had identified with her sister and carried her sister's fear.

Do you want to stop feeling anxious, enjoying more calmness and better functioning? Our systemic solutions may include individual and couple coaching, and family therapy. We help people change their thoughts and manage their motivations.

Please consult your physician about medical conditions.

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I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.
I'm very glad that we met.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email