Do you often feel anxious? Are you sometimes scared?
Do you worry unduly? Do you want to manage anxiety, fear or worry?
Anxiety, Fear & Worry
Anxiety, fear & worry are unpleasant
emotions that motivate people to avoid certain situations; but these
emotions can also cause adults to feel powerless and act like children. We
help people manage and change emotions that prevent adult decisions, mature
behavior and healthy relationships.
If you worry or feel anxious without apparent cause, you may be reliving childish memories. Many people
are stuck in leftover
emotions from childhood trauma, abuse and
relationship disappointments. Other people learned to be anxious, fearful or
worrying simply by copying their parents.
Whatever the cause, we can probably help you reduce your fears
or resolve your anxiety without psychoactive medications.
Nervousness, Anxiety & Panic Attacks
Do you worry even when nothing is wrong?
Can you relax? Do you constantly expect the worst?
Anxiety is always a choice
.... and rarely a useful choice.
If you worry a lot, your muscles may get tense and sore. You
will likely feel tired and people may call you irritable or grouchy. It may be
harder for you to concentrate, to relax or even to sleep. You may have a sense
of dread or doom yet not know what you are worrying about. Do you feel that life is moving on without you?
"Are these shadows of things that
will be, or are they shadows of things that may be?"
Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol
Anxiety often begins in childhood or adolescence. More women
seem to suffer from anxiety than men, and anxiety seems to run in
families. Some anxiety problems are due to food allergies; but most
seem to reflect relationship problems. Anxiety may lessen with age ...
if you want to wait that long.
If you are anxious about your health, you probably
wish that you weren't. You may have health anxiety. Although
many health professionals and drug salespeople are obsessed with
solving health problems, few medical professionals seem
to relate to people with health anxiety. They may accuse you of
exaggerating - they may call you a hypochondriac, a
malingerer ... or a liar.
and Compulsions . Addictions
Some people interpret body sensations as signs of serious
disease (hypochondria). Some people invent or exaggerate medical
symptoms to avoid work, to qualify for disability payments or to
evade military service (malingering). Some people lie about their
health to manipulate others.
Do you invent or inflate medical symptoms to help you get what you want?
Do you enjoy deceiving medical professionals? Health anxieties may also be associated with
trauma, PTSD, eating disorders
and occasionally with phobias.
Hypochondria: Are you worried sick?
Hypochondria is a persistent irrational fear that you are
suffering, or will suffer, from a serious medical condition.
You may believe that you have heart problems, cancer or some
serious disease - and that your doctor is not trying hard enough
to cure you.
You may feel dizziness, swelling, palpitations or pain.
If you misread these symptoms, you may distrust medical professionals.
You may interpret normal signs (like headache or fatigue
etc) as dangerous. Such behavior often follows loneliness, depression, guilt or a preoccupation with death.
If you believe that your body is defective or deformed or if you are
using phantom defects to justify your depression or loneliness,
then endless reassurance or even plastic surgery are unlikely to ease your
unpleasant feelings about your body.
Most hypochondriac people will
never go to a psychiatrist, they'll say, 'I don't
want to talk about this, I want another biopsy, I want that CAT scan repeated.
Dr Arthur Barsky (Harvard Medical School)
Stress . Nervousness
Social Phobia - Social Anxiety
Do you dread being judged, criticized, and evaluated.
You may think that your fear is irrational, and you may
be diagnosed with social phobia or social anxiety.
If you have social phobia
you find it difficult to be with people ("What are they thinking
about me; maybe they don't like me"). You may attract attention to
yourself or even try to be the center of attention ("They don't
like what I'm doing; am I making a fool of myself?"). If you feel
insecure and self-conscious in social settings, we can help you manage
your emotions and thoughts.
GAD - Generalized Anxiety
You are constantly worried or afraid. You
complain of non-stop anxiety! You may even worry in your dreams. You may
have muscle pains and headaches, you may feel constantly tired and yet
you cannot seem to relax. You may sweat a lot, even at night. You may
feel that you might vomit.
If you have generalized anxiety you may find it difficult
to leave your home. ("What will happen? Maybe something terrible").
You may be afraid of losing it in public. If you feel
insecure in all parts of your life, you may be diagnosed as agoraphobic.
Solutions for Anxious Children
About 10 - 20% of pediatric patients suffer from anxiety
disorders, and many frightened children grow up to become anxious adults. We often coach parents to sort out their own relationship
problems and emotions as a way to help their children. Healthy,
happy parents are much better role models.
Not all treatments available for adults with anxiety disorders
are suitable for children and adolescents. Benzodiazepines have a high risk of
sedation, dependence and withdrawal, making them inappropriate for children.
Studies evaluating tricyclic antidepressants in children yielded conflicting
results and risk unwanted side effects. Several studies report the effectiveness
of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), but still more promote the
benefits of cognitive behavioral therapy.
Condensed from an article by
Jennifer Gibson, PharmD at http://brainblogger.com
Solutions for Anxieties and Phobias
Doctors often treat anxiety with antidepressants
and anti-anxiety drugs (benzodiazepines & beta-blockers) rather
than solving relationship issues.
A male client was involved with a cult. His teenage son was assumed
to have an anxiety disorder - yet the son's symptoms vanished
after a few sessions of our online help with his father, who
decided to love his family more than he loved his cult.
A female client lived in a state of constant
anxiety. As we worked with her, she said
that her sister had been a prostitute who supported her family.
The family claimed that a rich relative was sending them money.
The client had identified with her sister
and expressed her sister's hidden fears. (It remained resolved two years later).
Do you want to stop feeling anxious and enjoy more calmness? We offer
individual coaching, couple counseling, and therapy. Contact us to change
anxious thoughts, manage compulsions and improve difficult relationships.
Please consult your physician about medical conditions.
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