Being in love can be intense! Whether a romantic affair,
a short partnership
or unrequited love ... you feel strong emotions and enjoy
But the consequences can hurt. How do you heal a broken heart?
Signs of Affairs
Recovering from Affairs
The end of a relationship can bring
heartache, shattered dreams
... and important lessons for a better future.
Although this may be a difficult time, you can put your
health in first place. Recover
and rebuild your life. We can help you pull yourself
together and feel good again.
My partner was my sunshine and my joy. I
believed that we would stay together
for life! And then things became ad and finally we split. Before our sessions
I couldn't imagine being in another relationship. Toronto
For some reasons your relationship didn't work.
Probably you want to understand what happened. Perhaps you want to turn back the
clock. Perhaps you want to punish your ex ... or yourself ... or maybe
Breaking up is stressful. The end of a relationship often
starts a period of mourning and healing. You start adjusting to being
apart. At least one of you is probably dealing with strong emotions. At least one of
you may be dealing with being rejected or betrayed by a person he or she still cares for.
He was everything for me. I miss his
smile, his touch, his voice.
I loved him so much! I feel empty. It's been a year and I'm still crying.
It's too easy to say one day at a time. You think that you're over it
and then something triggers your feelings of loss. Then you go through the crisis
of separation one more time
... and again ... and again ... until you learn how to do something more
productive with your life.
What happened to our beautiful love? We were
wonderful together - yet now
like a paranoid control-freak and she calls me a
We help people survive and benefit from splitting.
We help people enjoy a new start.
Mend a Broken Heart
Avoid meeting your former love. Commit to no
contact!. Donít pass messages through friends. Donít make calls. Delete cell phone text messages and unfriend your Facebook entry. Avoid
talking to your ex until your emotions are stable ... for
your emotional and mental health ... and perhaps even for your physical health.
Sick relationships really can make you sick
and healthy relationships really can help you heal. Boston
Talk about your feelings with good friends. Get everything
out so that you donít hold it inside. Tell your friends that you need to talk
... and that they can help you a lot by just listening ... even if they've
heard it all before ... perhaps more than once. Cry if you want to ... in a
safe and private place. Express your sadness for your lost dreams.
Unless you are a masochist, hide or give away whatever reminds you of this relationship.
Get rid of those photos, CDs and or gifts, or at least keep them out of sight
until you can feel neutral about this part of your life.
You helped me
become mentally stronger so that
I could leave a
partner who did not value me and find one who did. London
Do you remember things about your ex-partner that you found
abusive? Deliberately remember those things. Whatever you enjoyed together, remind yourself that this person did things that you
didnít want in your life.
- Allow yourself time to mourn and grieve
- Remember your unique gifts and talents
- Set boundaries about your former partner
- Accept, acknowledge and feel your feelings
- Face your fears and challenges and grow stronger
- Examine that relationship objectively. What else
can you learn?
As you start to heal yourself ... don't try to rush this! By
rushing you will not only cheat yourself ... but also your next partner! Some
heartfelt tips are:
- Make some new friends
- Find people who inspire you
- Learn a new hobby or interest
- Treat yourself to some fun things
- Avoid people who do not support your health
- Call some old friends - do things
that make you smile
My biggest challenge in healing was to accept those parts of myself
that loved my partner ... and the parts of me that couldn't
You helped me become more complete. Amsterdam
There are many important factors in partnership. Unless you are
teenagers, your partnership happiness has little to do with your choice of clothes or music. A
needs more than good cooking or
a sexual repertoire.
- What do you avoid discussing?
- Which of your beliefs and habits need work?
- How will you know when are you ready
- What will happen if you start a new
relationship before you are ready?
Tips for Healthy Partnership
- Don't assume. Check!
- Be quick to say "I'm sorry".
- If you are right ... apologize!
- You will fight ... learn to fight fair.
- Compliment more than you criticize.
- Love isn't only a feeling, it's a decision.
- Before starting a fight, consider if it's worth
- Never pass an opportunity to say "I love you".
- Do you want to be right or do you want to be
- Choose the one you love, then love the one you
Recovering from Affairs .
Choosing a Life Partner
Happy partnership requires partners who know and respect each
values and needs; and cooperate to fulfill all those values and needs.
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