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We can train you to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve a wide
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If you, a family member or close friend is diagnosed with cancer
or leukemia, the disease will affect your life. This page describes ways of helping you
heal emotional complications of cancer with life coaching. The keys to
healthy solutions are motivation, responsibility and readiness to change.
1. What is Cancer?
If cells in part of your body reproduce without control, the symptoms are called
cancer. Over one hundred diseases are characterized by uncontrolled
cell growth, which can destroy other tissues. Cancer can develop
in almost any part of your body. Cancer is a leading cause of death worldwide.
Satisfying relationships, a
healthy diet and daily exercise can reduce cancer
risk by more than 60%.
Cancers can be classified as Benign and
Malignant. Some cancers result from
autoimmune disease.
1a: Benign Tumors
Benign tumors stay in one location and do not
invade other tissues, which simplifies surgical removal. Some benign tumors
are harmless and are not removed unless they are unsightly or
uncomfortable.
1b: Malignant Tumors
Malignant tumors can grow
into local tissues or travel through blood or
lymph vessels to form metastases in other organs, especially in nearby
lymph glands.
2. Causes of Cancer: Risk Factors
Cancers may be triggered by prolonged or repeated
exposure to chemical, biological, or physical agents
called carcinogens. However, the underlying cause of cancers
often include relationships in the family and workplace. The risk of cancer is increased by consuming or
inhaling carcinogens:
3. Systemic (Relationship) Causes of Cancer
Cancer can sometimes be perceived as a
"toxic family tradition" rather than as a genetically inherited disease.
A cancer may be a way to "follow" an ancestor or relative who died of cancer.
In Soulwork coaching this is called "dead person identification".
4. Cancer Prevention
Most cancer deaths are preventable. Although most cancer risk factors are well known, health
coaching can assist people to maintain emotionally healthy lifestyles and
significantly decrease the risk of contracting many forms of cancer.
5. Emotional Complications of Cancer
Emotions can affect the treatment of cancer. Emotional
difficulties may contribute to poor metabolic control - which can cause
further psychological problems. Common factors affecting cancer
patients can be remedied with systemic coaching:
- Objections to the prescribed treatment
- Relationships with family, friends and helping
professionals
- Managing emotions, beliefs and stress
Relationships with families, friends and professionals
If you have a cancer, you may have severe mood swings. You may be
unaware of these swings; in each moment acting as if the current emotion is
a basis for long-term decisions. During these times, your relationships may be
under severe stress. You may seem quite normal, yet say horrible
things.
Soulwork Life Coaching can assist and support people to
deal with strong emotions associated with drugs and medications; and can improve
the quality of relationships even through difficult
times.
6. Managing Emotions, Beliefs & Stress
Anger, anxiety & sadness
Experiencing emotions is a normal part of
life. Expressing anger, sadness and fear can be stressful. If these emotions
are expressed childishly - a person can create chaos within
important relationships.
If these emotions are experienced but not expressed, a
person may withhold the stress within the body and worsen symptoms. Coaching helps people express emotions
appropriately.
Relationship Diagnosis (Suffering, Loneliness & Depression)
Systemic diagnosis provides a person's family structure from which a person can be coached to
state beliefs which prevent or sabotage change. Examples are:
- I want nothing to change (I am entangled)
- Nothing can change anyway (I lack motivation)
- I cannot make a decision (I cannot resolve conflicts)
- I sabotage myself (I limit my opportunities for happiness)
- I feel bad if I succeed (My family or friends do not succeed)
- I must stay in unpleasant states (I am traumatized)
- I follow damaged role models (I am inspired to fail)
Common Reasons for SufferingBeliefs
Beliefs about the cause of cancer, its seriousness and the
effectiveness or prescribed treatment can assist or detract from medical
treatment. Soulwork life coaching can help people change their beliefs.
Depression,
Anxiety, Guilt and Shame
People with cancer are likely to suffer from depression,
which may reduce the desire to follow a treatment. If a person feels guilt or
shame, life may not
make sense, which leads to depression.
Relationship Coaching provides solutions for
guilt, anxiety and depression.
Fear of complications or shortened life
Fear can paralyze people into acting as
though death is inevitable and nothing can be done. Systemic coaching offers
you emotional management programs to
control unpleasant emotions.
Emotional stress can disrupt metabolic control.
Coaching can help
people with emotions associated with the risk of early
death and the sometimes-painful treatment. See:
Stress, Anxiety and
Trauma
The majority of people diagnosed with a malignant cancer
will likely die. Systemic coaching can help people prepare for the fundamental relationship between life and death.
Consult your physician about any opinions or recommendations
about cancer, other medical symptoms or other medical questions.
Relationship Coaching ...
Systemic Coach Training ...
Your Next Step
Do you want relationship coaching or
systemic coach training?
We can train you to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve a wide
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