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It's easier for health professionals and most
of their patients to use drugs as a substitute for change.
Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine, or prescription
anti-depressants and stimulants are easier than applying intelligence,
focus and analytical skills to complex relationship problems. Drugs
are also cheaper for the patient (in the short term) and more profitable
for the health professionals.
But the potential disaster of ignoring relationship
problems together with the side-effects of
psychoactive drugs are unacceptable to an increasing number of professionals
and some patients.
What is Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS)?
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) refers to
persistent or frequent fatigue. Its symptoms may include lowered
concentration, short-term memory loss, muscle and joint pain and
disturbed sleep. Most people diagnosed with chronic fatigue are
white women, with an average age of onset of 30 years.
From a systemic perspective, the symptoms associated
with chronic fatigue syndrome may make sense if a person is living a
life that does not seem to have much sense; or if the symptoms provide
benefits (e.g. getting care from family members or maintaining disability payments).
Meaning of
Life . Mentorship
How is Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) treated?
As the cause of chronic fatigue syndrome is unknown,
CFS is diagnosed by excluding known illnesses with similar
symptoms. This type of diagnosis cannot confirm that a person has CFS and not some other
fatigue-causing disorder, such as depression, fibromyalgia,
lupus or mononucleosis.
Depression . Anxiety . Lupus Erythematosus
There is no known cure for CFS and the symptoms of the illness
vary: some people become worse,
some experience partial improvement and others recover completely. Some
symptoms of CFS may be relieved by medication or systemic coaching.
Systemic Coaching & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
Systemic coaching starts by researching possible benefits
of chronic fatigue syndrome. Does chronic fatigue avoid a hated job? Does CFS make
you a victim that holds your family together? Does CFS balance the energy
of your intimate partner? Are there any advantages
of your chronic fatigue?
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Chronic Fatigue vs Marriage |
I suffered with chronic
fatigue syndrome for twelve years and was told that it is
incurable. I heard about Soulwork from a good friend, and flew to
Europe for Soulwork coaching .
Within a month, many of my CFS symptoms seemed
to evaporate, and I planned to return to my career as a
therapist - trainer. But after three months
I was at the edge of divorce. My regained high energy was not
quite so wonderful for my retired husband. After many talks, my
husband and I found a new ways in which I could be energetic
and he could be retired and we could
stay married. |
We can help you discover relationship
entanglements that require your fatigue. Do any family members
also suffer from CFS? Do you feel survival guilt
following the death of a family member or close friend? Does your chronic
fatigue enable important relationships to continue? We also examine your relationship history,
especially about childhood abuse or trauma. Do you have reason to
believe that you should be incapacitated by fatigue? Your non-verbal responses to such questions can become entry points to
help you uncover forgotten or unconscious beliefs; and to
uncover identity loss, relationship bonds or entanglements.
Identity Loss . Relationship Bonds .
Entanglements Solutions for Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
Following systemic diagnosis, you can create a
workable coaching plan that leads to your congruent goals - what
you truly want - without your showing any objections. This first helps you
clarify important relationships and then find life goals or
life purpose. Then Soulwork systemic coaching can truly start.
Although each coaching session is unique, Soulwork
follows a structure that reflects how healthy people deal with
life challenges. Soulwork coaching follows the sequence shown in
Systemic Coach Training, outlined in the table below. Chronic Fatigue & Identity Loss
In systemic diagnosis, Lost Identity refers to
chronic dissociated behavior (think of classic ideas of nervous breakdown), Identification
refers to the long-term expression of another personality (think of
classic ideas of spirit possession), and Identity Conflict
refers to long-term bipolar mood swings (think of classic
ideas of split personality).
- Lost Identity - dissociated
sense of self
- Identification - identify with somebody or
something
- Identity Conflict - sequential
identification with conflicting sides or parts
- Relationship Bonds - behavior required for
relationships with important people
Solutions for Lost Identity, Identification
& Identity Conflict are taught in Soulwork 4.
Identity Loss .
Bipolar Disorder .
Identity Conflict
Chronic Fatigue & Relationship Bonds
Relationship bonds (also called limiting
identity beliefs, PTSD or personality disorders) refer to stable beliefs or fixed ideas that compensate for injustice
or trauma.
Relationship bonds allow children to survive difficult
events. If a child perceives that a family member is stupid or dangerous,
the child may compensate for that family member by
creating a limiting belief. That limiting belief may allow one or
more
important relationship to continue.
People may cling to limiting beliefs throughout their adult
life. If awareness of the bond can damage
the protected relationship, people may (unconsciously) avoid
this awareness. Cognitive understanding is unlikely to change bonded
feelings and beliefs, although it may help a person
manage some behaviors.
Solutions for Relationship Bonds are taught in
Soulwork 5.
NOTE: Consult a physician about any opinions or recommendations about medical
symptoms or medical conditions.
Do you want relationship coaching or systemic coach training?
We can train you to coach people
to resolve emotional and relationship challenges.
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