We offer support, structure and accountability to people
who want to define and fulfill their success. Jan Sikorski
Like counselors, we assist personal development. Like consultants, we are
goal oriented and we help people find ways to fulfill their goals. Like
therapists, we help people manage emotional and relationship blocks to success. Like trainers,
we encourage and support success. Like mentors, we can provide
long-term support for reaching complex goals.
A systemic coach is different to a counselor, consultant,
therapist, trainer or mentor in that a we do not provide
your goals, or your steps to them. A systemic coach provides process
expertise, helping you find and use your own resources, which includes
finding and using your ability to find and use your other resources!
The Personal and Professional Coaches Association
defines coaching as an "ongoing relationship which focuses
on clients taking action toward the realization of their vision,
goals or desires. Coaching uses enquiry and personal discovery
to build the client's level of awareness and responsibility, and
to provide clients with structure, support and feedback."
Coaching by Telephone and Skype
Are you confused or broken? Do you want coaching
or therapy? The following table is adapted from Therapist as Life
Coach: Transforming Your Practice by Dr. Patrick Williams, Ed.D, MCC.
For healthy people who desire better situations
||For patients with identifiable
Deals mostly with a personís goals and blocks and seeks to help people
enjoy better futures
Deals mostly with a patient's past trauma, and seeks to heal
Helps people learn new skills and tools to build more satisfying
Helps patients manage old pain and suffering
Co-creative equal partnership (coaches help people explore their
blocks and solve their problems)
Doctor-patient relationship (a therapist provides the diagnosis and
Assumes emotions are natural and normal
Assumes emotions are unnatural and abnormal
Growth and progress are often rapid and enjoyable
Growth and progress are often slow and painful
|A coach helps people identify their goals and
blocks, then walks with them to success, holding people accountable
for reaching their own goals.
||A therapist provides professional
expertise and guidelines to diagnose problems and provide a path to
We can coach you to manage whatever underlying issues
that prevent you solving your own problems. Your underlying issues are
usually relationship issues that reflect your family or organizations
or systems within which you live and work.
Our coaching usually begins with an initial phone call, and
then a goal-setting session of one or two hours. Your momentum and
focus are maintained with weekly appointments until you reach your
goals. We together determine the agenda for each session, within
an overall progression:
- Goalwork and Planning
- Relationship Diagnosis
- Resolve Conflicts
- Find Integrity
- Relationship Bonds
- Emotional Trauma
Often your coach may not live in your community or even in
your country. This means that your coach is not part of the systems
within which you live and work, providing you with distance,
objectivity and perspective.
Together, we can define how we can support your success. We do
not define how things should be, instead helping you clarify what
is happening now, and what you want. Probably, one of your key
questions is: "What is the best use of your coaching
Your coach won't have all your answers. Yet, by not
knowing, the coach helps you find a clarity, control and
responsibility. Your systemic coach helps
you define and perhaps challenge your own rules. As you gain
clarity, your goals and action steps often become obvious.
What do we provide?
We provide a safe space that allows you
time to evaluate what is happening, to establish your evidence for
success, and to choose future steps. A coach does not judge results,
and expects you to take responsibility and to develop your
flexibility to resolve any emotional conflicts.
We provide structure. Your coach asks
questions, asks for action and holds you accountable for taking the
We provide feedback. This helps you evaluate your
situation and find opportunities for you to move forward.
We often ask simple questions. "How do you want
to do that?" "What is your next step?"
You choose what actions to take and what decisions to make.
Your solutions are always better than your coach's solutions.
You are THE expert about your goals. A lot of planning is simply
remembering what you want and choosing an appropriate sequence.
How long is a Coaching Relationship?
Some of us require an initial commitment of one month to one year.
Coaching helps you develop your flexibility and accountability that
make your coach redundant. After you complete your work, you can
arrange monthly or quarterly feedback sessions.
Putting it Together
We begin our coaching with your goals. Useful goals are
specific and positively stated without unconscious objections.
Such goals help you specify your dreams and plan for success.
A coach can help you fine tune negative goals, abstract goals
and conflicting goals.
- Your coach can help you decide "what to
- Your coach helps you explore your blocks and
- Your coach will carefully listen to your words
- and to your body language.
- Your coach helps you change self-imposed limits
and challenge your limits.
- Your coach can help you heal wounds, realize
dreams and have a better life.
After a session I felt
that I had all the answers and that I did the work. You asked
me good questions and you provoked me to find my own answers.
I learned to define what I
want and then to get it. I learned to change my beliefs and take
action. You did not change me, you showed me how I could change
myself. You encouraged me to trust myself, and you expected me
to reach my goals. New York
Advanced Soulwork (Identity
Blocks, Relationship Bonds, Trauma and Mentorship) is the best
coach training I have ever attended ... your earlier courses
(Family Matrix, Goalwork and Integrity) provided a good basis
for the advanced skills. Poland
Our Coach Training
We offer coaching, coach training and certification.
We can help you gain essential skills to assess and change
the behavior of people in families, marriages, businesses
and other relationship systems. Contact us for fast results.
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