Healthy, loving partnerships are some of the greatest benefits of being human.
Most people seek them but few seem to find them. It's not luck.
Do you know know how to enjoy a loving relationship?
Do you want to replace anger, sadness
and fear with good feelings?
Do you want to end self-sabotage?
Premarital Coaching: Dating, Affairs & Committed Partnership
People who prefer short-term affairs may be poor long-term partners.
Seduction skills are not partnership skills. People who seduce many
sex-partners may become unable to enjoy a long term
partnership. Their ability to attract others may harm a marriage - a
long-term partnership requires many other skills than flirting and
seduction. (See Mother-Bonded Men
and Father-Bonded Women).
Changing how you meet people can also help you avoid
unpleasant relationships. Often, how you meet impacts a subsequent
relationship. You may have different expectations if you meet someone
at a bar, at a seminar or at a wedding. Changing how you meet can
lead to better relationships.
Do you know what type of relationship you both want? Are you going to
be just friends? Or does your relationship have the chemistry and shared values
suitable for a lasting partnership?
Premarital Coaching & Emotions
A component of our premarital coaching is verbalizing withheld emotions such
as anger, guilt and fear. Many couples can move on quickly after they have
verbalized their emotions. We often coach people to explore and express their unspoken
emotions, and their partnerís emotions.
A next step is to uncover the causes of negative emotions.
For us, emotions reflect relationships ... so we identify the
relationship problems that resulted in the emotions.
The most shocking part of our sessions
was to understand that our actions were driven by hidden emotions, and that our
emotions were driven by past relationships.
His relationship with his mother, and mine with my older brother were
both childish confusions that we never cleaned up ... until now.
We now see each other as more human. London
Premarital Counseling: Your First Partner
Did you know that your partnership choices probably
originated in your childhood? Like a baby duck, as a child you imprinted
your parents' characteristics. Your emotional imprints will attract
you to similar people later in life. Perhaps its time to complete your
unfinished business in old relationships.
Do you want to change some of your habits? Even if you decide,
"Iíll NEVER have a marriage like my parents!" - that may not prevent
you repeating your parents' drama. Perhaps they said the same thing when they
Couple Coaching: Second and Subsequent Partners
Are you consistent when choosing partners? Do your second or
subsequent partners remind you of your parents or previous partners?
This can be so strong that abused people may unconsciously seek abusers in subsequent relationships.
How can you break this cycle? One way is to develop mature relationship skills.
Commitment & When to Commit
If couples took time to really know each other, some
would not make a commitment. Later, when conflicts and incompatibilities surface,
partners may blame each other for a lack of communication.
There is no such a thing as lack of communication.
Every gesture, every withdrawal, delay, or retreat is communication, although
it may be communication that a partner does not enjoy or want to acknowledge.
Do you or your partner have difficulty communicating? Many couples wait until
after marriage to talk about values and roles. Our Couple Coaching
helps couples improve their partnership.
Sexual Compatibility & Couple Coaching
Have you assessed your sexual compatibility with your partner?
Can you imagine solving sexual difficulties during relationship coaching? Do
you want to explore your path to sexual happiness?
Masters and Johnson, (experts in sexuality)
Half of all American marriages
are troubled by some form of sexual distress ranging from disinterest and
boredom to outright sexual dysfunction.
Many couples, and even relationship coaches, avoid discussing
sex. Immature counselors or insecure therapists and may be reluctant to talk about
a coupleís sexual happiness and avoid discussing sexual issues!
Counselors and therapists who are only trained to work with individuals
may be unable to help couples explore and improve relationship
issues. During our partnership coaching, many people experience a breakthrough in healing emotional
and relationship issues.
. Sexual Dysfunction
. Sexual Solutions
Please discuss the medical causes of sexual dysfunction or
infertility with a medical doctor before exploring
Couple Coaching & Affairs
We can encourage you to make decisions
- but we do not make decisions for you.
We can encourage you to see other points of view - but
we do not take sides.
We can support your choices but we will not pressure you to change.
Infidelity is a common issue
during our couple counseling. We help couples rebuild their communication, which
becomes less blocked and more candid as they learn to understand each other. If
ignored, common consequences of affairs are that
one or both partners become emotionally burdened:
- They learn to live with guilt and anxiety
- They may sabotage or depress the rest of their lives
- They feel an underlying anger and are constantly ready to fight
- They live together with little intimacy, sharing a building, not a home
Betrayal is a common
cause of conflict and
Contact us to heal emotional conflicts and
. Enjoy Partnership
. Evaluate Partnership
Do you want to solve emotional and relationship issues?
Online Coaching, Relationship Counseling & Systemic Therapy
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