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Cultural Stress & Systemic Diagnosis
The rabies virus causes infected animals to bite other
animals - even their own young. This spreads the virus before the virus kills
the hosts. Although a rabid dog is dangerous - rabies is not the dog's fault.
Rabies is a symptom - not a cause.
After prolonged cultural stress, people show predictable
symptoms: depression, anger, fear, suppressed sexuality and denial of
reality. Stressed people may sacrifice
themselves and their children. The Maya, faced with this challenge, tore out
the hearts of their young men, to honor the great Sun. The Phoenicians, faced
with this challenge, burned their eldest children alive, to honor the great Moon.
The German Nazis killed populations to honor their great god Destiny. Today many
people sacrifice themselves and their children to honor the great god Mediocrity.
Symptoms of cultural stress include:
- Men abuse women and children
- People enslave or kill other people
- People damage their own environment
- Authorities proscribe and limit sexuality
- Authorities use dogma and propaganda for indoctrination
- Authorities pronounce what is evil and who must be punished
These symptoms ensured the deaths of millions of people, and
the misery, suffering and poverty of billions more. These symptoms
motivate religious and moral wars, and the genocide of native peoples.
These symptoms continue in today's world
following unquestioned faith, unquestioned morality
and unquestioned compliance. Such denial of reality
can justify any behavior, from child abuse to a Holocaust. If
"morality channeled from a god accepted on faith"
replaces human intelligence and understanding then irrational
obsessions and compulsions lead to political and religious control.
How you perceive your external, objective reality reflects
the state of your internal, subjective reality. Much of our systemic coaching
helps people explore and renovate their inner emotional reality as a
basis changing their reactions and other behaviors.
In a similar way that a loss of identity can produce a state
where, "life does not make sense", a loss of reality
can produce a state in which, "the world does not make sense".
This can result in depression or an existential
crisis. This may occur whenever people search for
answers that make sense.
It seems that a lost sense of reality can be
accelerated by retreating into fantasy and distractions - TV,
cinema and music can be vectors of cultural disease.
Other indicators of cultural stress include:
- anger and a desire to hurt people
- fear and a desire to scare people
- guilt and a desire to blame people
- depression and a desire to sadden people
- denial and cannot challenge dogma or propaganda
- limited contact with reality and a desire to
- suppressed sexuality and a desire to control
One indicator of cultural stress is child abuse.
Many children suffer physical or emotional abuse from angry parents,
depressed teachers and other stressed adults. If parents are insensitive, angry,
impatient and blaming, children may sacrifice their happiness, playfulness
and sense-of-life to avoid losing their parent's love.
We help parents avoid or alleviate toxic situations, for example:
- If a parent acts weak, children may try to
grow up too quickly
- If a parent acts like a failure, children may
respond with chronic fear
- If a parent acts like a victim, children may
respond with chronic anger
- If a parent is dead or absent, children may
respond with chronic sadness
- If parents force children to take sides,
children may respond with chronic conflict
Children are born with fight/flight/freeze instincts for reacting to predators,
but these instincts do not protect them
against human predators. Cultural diseases are infectious and may lead
people to harm themselves, their children and other people. Victims of
cultural stress often victimize others.
Other consequences of cultural stress are that people:
- cheat people for pleasure and economic gain
- abuse employees and people perceived as weak
- hurt people of different color, sex, religion or
- support murderous governments, military aggression and
Symptoms of cultural stress arise in families and
teams as well as in cultures. The irrational symptoms are often
invisible within in the relationship system although they can be
perceived from outside the system. Cultural diseases are unlikely
to be ended by further dogma or indoctrination. Instead we can
recognize their causes, redirect their focus and change their consequences.
Our coaching can touch everyone, from a child who has experienced
domestic abuse; a teenager addicted
to drugs; a working mother caring for a disabled parent; parents coping with
an ADHD child; a college student who
struggles with anorexia; a young adult
who suffers from mental illness; an adult who mourns the death
of a partner; a family that seeks freedom from conflict; and couples that
want a better partnerships.
Contact us to manage your emotions and change limiting beliefs
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