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Finding a Healthy Partner
Putting it all together © Martyn & Kosjenka

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

We help people solve dating, partnership and relationship problems.
Do you want to fall in love and build a strong, loving relationship?

From Singles to Partners

Do you want a good dating/social coach? We can help you find a partner.
Get prepared before your night on the town. Get the coaching you need.

Do you want to enjoy dating more? Do you want better social and relationship skills?
Our online and telephone coaching can help you stop wasting precious time:

  • Do you have space for a partner?
  • Are you attracted to healthy people?
  • How is your confidence and self-esteem?
  • Understand yourself and your relationships
  • Meet people who share your life goals and values
  • Know and ask for what you need in a dating relationships

You’re not alone. Nearly everyone gets frustrated with dating sometimes. Learn how to stop sitting at home alone, stop settling for unhealthy relationships and start loving yourself and your partner.

After my divorce, I wanted a partner but most single people I met seemed so immature. I had to learn not to be too eager, emotional or dependent. You helped me to quickly evaluate people without feeling distant or cold - when to invite intimacy and when to kick them out of my life.

Our Relationship Coaching

  1. Friendliness - how to make new friends
  2. Posture - how to carry yourself
  3. How to develop a new social circle
  4. How to build and maintain a stylish look
  5. How to handle social interactions
  6. Effectively manage your social life
  1. How to flirt
  2. How to approach people
  3. How to check if someone is interested
  4. How to qualify a potential date
  5. How to read body language.
  6. How to be more attractive.

Common Concerns when Dating

  • Are you too optimistic or too cynical?
  • Are you being too picky or not picky enough?
  • Is there something you should be doing differently?
  • How do you stay motivated despite potential rejection?
  • Are you thinking too much about the future or not enough?
  • How long should you email or talk on the phone before meeting?
  • What do people think of you when they read your profile or your emails?

Does the idea of a dating give you butterflies in the stomach? Our coaching could be just what you need to help you improve your dating skills! Our one-on-one telephone coaching can help you enjoy more effective dating. If you are looking for a partner, our coaching is for you.

After Dating: The Next Step

  • Can you recognize unhealthy people?
  • Do you often get stuck as a 'Good Friend?'
  • Have you put something ahead of partnership?
  • Are you tired of dating unhealthy or unhappy people?
  • Are you ready to build a healthy, lasting partnership?
  • Can you leave no-win relationships (many people cannot)?

Stop haphazard dating. Discover how we can help you find emotional freedom and improve your relationships.

Bonus: Little Known Coaching Laws

  • There's no such thing as family secrets.
  • The solution is always the last thing you try.
  • Many personal problems begin as positive thinking.
  • For every suggestion, there is an equal and opposite objection.
  • The essential resources are where you'd least expect to find them.
  • Most people are more interesting if  you ask them interesting questions.
  • When you fully understand a person, your coaching is probably finished.

If you heal your own blocks - you can see other people more clearly.

Online Help, Relationship Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers & Kosjenka Muk, 2010 All rights reserved

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email