You are unlikely to cure an eating disorder with willpower alone.
Compulsive eating seems not so much about food as about control. Who
controls you when you lose control? The answer is usually a "younger
self" or a person to whom you feel bonded. Do you know how to mature a "younger self"? (Perhaps
one that you dislike - e.g. one that makes you eat chocolate?). Do you
know how to be yourself?
Who has Eating Disorders?
People who attempt to cope with unpleasant feelings
by eating, or by avoiding eating, may be told that they have
eating disorders. Eating disorders can be deadly - some eating
disorders are associated with a 10-15% mortality rate and a 20-25%
suicide rate. Sometimes, anorexia and bulimia may
be perceived as slow suicide.
Your eating habits often reflect your current environment,
family history, relationships and lifestyle. We help motivated adults
change feelings and emotions that motivate unhealthy eating
habits. We help people find solutions for emotional and relationship issues
that so often underlie eating disorders.
People who react to stress by overeating, purging or dieting
may have underlying guilt, depression,
loss or limiting beliefs etc. Many people try to fill
an existential emptiness with food. Others try to satisfy some unloved
We find that eating disorders often seem to express what
people cannot express in other ways. People who are abnormally overweight
or underweight may be said to have serious eating disorders, for example:
anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa and compulsive overeating. They may:
- avoid eating even if hungry
- are afraid of becoming fat or thin
- vomit or use laxatives after binge-eating
- cannot stop eating - even when not hungry
It is too easy and trivial to say that people with eating
disorders merely want attention. We find that interesting
factors become conscious if we explore, "Whose attention
is wanted in what way?"
Medical solutions for eating disorders seem to miss these
underlying needs - although medical solutions may be essential
in an emergency, including:
- Diets and fasts
- Hospital, if physical condition
- Nutritional counseling to help design
- Psychiatric medication to help manage
Contact us to solve relationship problems and emotional
Manage Relationships & Emotions
Are food addictions about food or about behavior? If you are
sensitive to yourself and you HAVE to eat something (especially "junk" food) -
check the AGE of the compulsive side of you and consider what was happening in
your life at that age.
Compulsions often make sense in the context of some part of your younger life.
Many compulsions "bond" people to other people, to other times or to other
places. And consider the billions invested to magnify your compulsions - to
deliberately mess up your mind for their benefit.
We help motivated adults explore their values, set priorities, choose
their goals and take steps towards their goals. The steps
of this journey include:
- clarify life goals
- end inner conflict
- change limiting beliefs
- improve their relationships
- manage negative emotions
- solve relationship problems
- repair toxic mentorship (therapy
Anorexia Nervosa & Starvation
Some people take extreme measures to be thin. They may use
starvation and excessive methods of weight loss. Medical symptoms associated
with anorexia include emaciation, slow pulse, kidney problems and
digestive problems. Here are some ways to recognize anorexia nervosa:
1. Avoid eating
- You deny or suppress feeling hungry
- You eat insufficient food for your health
- You avoid social meetings that involve food
2. Body has a very low weight
- You feel fat although people tell you that
you are thin
- You deny the serious consequences of low
- You cannot maintain a healthy weight for
your age and height
3. Obsess about dieting and weight loss
- You obsess with exercise
- You fear gaining weight or being fat
- You weigh yourself several times a day
Relationship issues associated with anorexia and self-starvation
often seem to include a despair or guilt about the death of
a close relative, a vanishing twin
or about the end of a partnership.
my sister was murdered I couldn't eat. I missed her so much
I felt like part of me died with her ... I held her in my heart.
helped me set her - and me - both free. Czech Republic
Bulimia Nervosa & Binge Eating
Some people trying to cope with negative emotions may binge eat
and then vomit in an addictive cycle. The food binges may be with
sweet and/or high fat foods. They may eat impulsively, but not with
other people. Their obsessions may be triggered by distress, relationship
problems, boredom, prolonged dieting, or dissatisfaction.
Binge eating may temporarily numb unpleasant feelings,
but people may then feel a sense of failure or shame about their loss of
control. Some people vomit or take laxatives after a binge.
Some potential medical complications of bulimia include cardiac
arrhythmia, esophageal tears, electrolyte imbalance and
gastrointestinal problems. In simple words - bad news for the body.
Are you caught in a cycle of binge eating
Do you use food to cope with uncomfortable feelings?
Do you eat in an attempt to control depression or anxiety? Do you
eat to try to fill a feeling of emptiness? Perhaps you eat to forget
relationship problems or to alleviate boredom? There may be better
solutions ... once the real causes are recognized.
Compulsive eating may temporarily relieve unpleasant
feelings, but any relief may be followed by guilt, shame and
depression. Many people constantly struggle with diets and yet be unhappy
with their weight. They may try each new diet hoping that it can cure
their emotional compulsion. They may lose some weight temporarily,
but they will probably regain their lost weight - and maybe more.
They may eat normally with other people and overeat in private later.
They may overeat late at night or in fast food restaurants. They may
have secret supplies of junk food hidden in their homes or offices.
I was always hungry. I just couldn't
stop eating. I failed every diet. Eating was the only way
I could stop
feeling empty ... I was very overweight. You helped me find
... now I am full of me and I'm looking good ... now I eat to
Medical complications from compulsive eating include diabetes,
hypertension and heart problems. Some people try extreme remedies
for this conflict by having their jaws wired to prevent eating, or parts of
their digestive tract by-passed to prevent digestion. Contact us for simpler solutions.
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