Relationships expose Maturity
In every relationship, you expose your maturity, your communication skills, your commitment and your integrity. You cannot conceal your maturity - or your lack of it. Your maturity and immaturity are products of physical age, training and trauma.
Your maturity reflects your ability to manage your emotions, to assess the emotional state of others and to influence their behavior. Your emotional intelligence and maturity seem to be profoundly influenced by your relationship history and your trauma history.
What are Emotions?
Psychology has given rise to many misconceptions about emotions, the most popular perhaps being that some emotions can be negative. Also, psychological definitions of emotions seem devoid of the humanity of those people who value their emotions.
Other definitions focus on the experience of being human.
Some people dissociate their emotions. They may be perfectionist or compulsively preoccupied with details. These are characteristics of people in professions which require individual performance more than teamwork, such as economics, law, medicine and science. Their emotional and relationship habits may only allow long-term relationships with people like themselves.
Are you Emotionally Mature?
A checklist for your emotional intelligence:
Any "No" may indicate part of your life where you may be emotionally immature. If stress becomes high enough to cause you to age-regress (whatever the cause), you may feel and act childishly for a time, before recovering balance and sobriety. During this time, your behavior is likely to be immature. We help people manage strong or unpleasant emotions (without drugs).
Emotional Intelligence & Relationships
You display your maturity in every relationship. Do you:
We help people develop their maturity by clarifying complex or difficult relationships and resolving the causes of conflicts and emotional problems.
Youth Fades ... Immaturity Lingers
need help with their childish emotions,
1. Are you Self-Centered?
2. Can you control yourself?
3. Do you seek immediate gratification?
4. Are you dependent?
Contact us to change such behaviors
Emotional Intelligence & Communication
Does your intelligence change when you feel strong emotions? Do you, for example, find yourself behaving like a young child if you feel abandoned, or like a teenager if you feel betrayed? Left unresolved, the consequences of suppressing or dissociating emotions may include unpleasant symptoms such as hypertension, colitis, ulcers and chronic fatigue.
Trustworthiness is an essential part of maturity. If people do not trust you, you may find yourself justifying every detail of every decision. Be cautious about who you trust with important, confidential or personal information.
How old do you act when you feel strong anger, sadness or fear? How far do you age-regress? What do you do after you express strong emotions? Do you:
Contact us to manage unpleasant emotions and solve relationship problems
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