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Are you entangled in difficult
relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from old trauma?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands, your
boss's moods? Soulwork Systemic Solutions can help you untangle
your life ... and you can help other people reclaim their freedom.
Are you Growing Up - or just Growing Old?
- Can you stay in integrity, despite temptations,
compromises and conflicts?
- Are you adaptable and capable of change?
- Are you responsible for your finances?
- Do you enjoy relationships, without depending
on people?
- Do you concern yourself with social problems and solutions?
- Do you live realistically, conscious of your own
mortality?
- Do you accept your age and continue your
development?
- Can you deal with losses and regrets?
- Can you use your thoughts and feelings to control your
behavior?
- Can you feel good about yourself and enjoy your
relationships?
- Can you solve your problems promptly?
- Can you accept reality as it is?
Some people pursue maturity, while others create it. Mature people can cope with marriage,
illness, divorce, parenthood,
careers and unemployment. When mature people want help - they find the help
that they need. See
Emotional Intelligence and
Emotional Maturity 2.
Immature adults seek substitutes for parents.
When immature people want help (usually) they may act like children and cling to people. The help they need is not the help they want. They
need to grow up but they want parenting. See
Codependence.
Do you want to mature?
You can retain or regain many of the strengths of childhood.
You can retain or regain your capacity for wonder, pleasure and
playfulness, your capacity for affiliation and curiosity, and your idealism
and passion. Soulwork coaching has a unique program that can help you integrate these qualities with adult stability,
wisdom, knowledge, sensitivity, responsibility, strength and vision.
Keys to emotional maturity are relationship clarity, a stable
sense of integrity and self-acceptance. Then, dissolve mentor damage and find
inspirational mentors to live the life you want to live. If you want clear
relationships, heal toxic emotional bonds and accept yourself, Soulwork coaching can help you.
Key qualities of maturity are:
- Self-control: accept and control passions, emotions,
desires, wishes, curiosity, freedom from being impulsive; choose to do what is right
- Wisdom: understanding; insight; learn from experience; make
appropriate decisions; handle stressful problems
- Responsibility: accepting personal accountability for one's own actions;
finances; conscientious work habits; integrity; reliability
- Independence: make decisions and observe
consequences - to make better decisions
Biological maturity, psychological maturity and
social maturity may correspond to Erikson's stages of adult development.
(The stages are - intimacy versus isolation (young adulthood), generativity versus
stagnation (middle age), and integrity versus despair age 45 on).
Emotional Maturity helps people
- improve personal responsibility
- increase self-control
- settle conflicts peacefully
- delay gratification of long-term goals
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- persevere, complete projects
- resolve problems without complaints
- make decisions and keep them
- be dependable and resourceful
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Who is and who is not emotionally retarded? You can compare a person's
emotional control, decision-making and relationship skills
with the requirements of the systems to which a person belongs. Most folks are
as mature as they decide to be. See
Emotional Maturity 2
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Maturity |
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Physical Maturity |
Cognitive Maturity |
- the age of your body
- your muscle mass and body shape
- you can become a parent
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- can select information from available data
- can apply information by making decisions
- can understand and tolerate different views
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Emotional Maturity |
Relationship Maturity |
- can maintain self-control in adversity
- responsible for your own decisions
- wisdom
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- can be friendly and share resources
- cooperate with peers and teams
- communicate information and decisions
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How can you mature?
"Don't go around saying the world owes you a living. The
world owes you nothing. It was here first." - Mark Twain
Children and childish adults often act as if they
should have what they want when they want it, and should not have to endure
anything they do not like. They know little of personal
responsibility and often rely on other people for care and protection.
Mature adults can delay
their own gratification and desires to maintain self control. If your parents
did not fully coach you to
emotional maturity, Soulwork can provide your missing mentorship. You can gain emotional maturity
and self-control, and facilitate
wisdom and responsibility.
Emotional maturity doesn't just happen.
Soulwork coaching helps people mature.
Soulwork & Emotional Maturity
Change
your relationships: We help you evaluate past and current relationships, and
enjoy inspiring relationships in which you can develop and express the
qualities that you want in your life.
Accept yourself: We can
give you candid feedback about your behavior and help you see
yourself as others see you. We help you dissolve
relationship bonds become the person you want to be.
Pull yourself together: We can help you
recover, develop and integrate qualities that you "lost" by helping
you dissolve the trauma in which you "lost" them.
Create your Future: We can help you
develop and mature qualities that you have never enjoyed before.
Win-win: We help you discover or create solutions to conflicts. We help you find solutions that are appropriate for your family, team or organization.
Sense of
life: We help you rebuild your sense of life and define goals that
are worth striving for; and a character that has strength and meaning. Then you
can mentor and enrich the lives of other
people.
Systemic Coaching helps you enjoy a sense of
life that is only available to the emotionally mature.
[ Emotional
Maturity 2 . Soul Mentorship
. Emotional Intelligence ]
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