Your relationships can only be as
fulfilling as your maturity allows.
Are you trying to extend
your youth ... or your childhood?
Immature adults often create
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Your life reflects your maturity. If you want to improve
your success, your health or your happiness, consider if you
have grown up - or if you have just grown older.
- Your physical age indicates how many years
your body has been alive.
- Your social maturity compares your social
development to your physical age.
- Your intellectual quotient (IQ) compares
your intelligence to your physical age.
- Your emotional maturity compares your
emotional skills to your physical age.
You can improve your physical health and your IQ, your
social awareness and your maturity. Maturity is a challenge
for people who habitually complain, make excuses, justify
mistakes and blame others.
Emotional Coaching for Maturity
Compare your behavior with that of people whom you consider
to be immature and mature. If you find yourself more on the
immature side, we can help you evolve. If you find yourself
on the mature side, consider becoming a systemic coach!
Immature people often demand immediate gratification and
have trouble waiting. They may seem thoughtless, moody and impulsive, with
endless relationship problems.
||Love is need. Demands affection but avoids
showing weakness except as a ploy. Has difficulty sharing and accepting love.
||Love is sharing. Fosters
a sense of security which allows vulnerability, honesty and strength. Can
express and accept love.
||Cannot handle frustration or criticism;
jealous and moody. May have temper tantrums and fear any change.
||Use emotions as motivation.
When frustrated, they set goals and seek solutions.
||Avoids and denies money and
relationship problems which require integrity. Seeks people to accuse and blame.
||Confronts and analyzes problems
promptly. Seeks many solutions and chooses the best. Accepts responsibility.
|Give & Take
||May be willing to give, but not take; or
willing to take, but not give.
||Increases the quality of
life of loved people. Accepts appropriate help with pleasure.
||Does not learn from experience. Pleasant
or unpleasant experiences are called luck or fate. Little personal
||Life is learning.
Accepts responsibility and learns from feedback.
Looks for opportunities to grow, to love and to share. Moves on.
||Avoids reality. Pessimistic & angry.
Attacks when frustrated. Often anxious.
||Relaxed and confident
in their ability to solve problems, plan and achieve their goals.
||Dependent, easily influenced and
impulsive. Avoids responsibility for actions or deficiencies. Sensitive
to criticism, but often insensitive to others' feelings.
or manager as required. Cooperative. Experiences empathy, and compassion.
A good friend, colleague, partner and parent.
Immature people are often self-centered, egotistic and selfish adults. They may
have little regard for others and be preoccupied with their own
thoughts and feelings. They may demand constant attention, sympathy or compliments. They may avoid participation if they can't be
special. They may obsess about impressing you.
Teenagers & Maturity
Teenagers are no longer children but not yet adults. If unprepared,
they may feel overwhelmed by their emotional and physical
changes. They may be hormones with legs - under pressure from friends,
teachers and relatives. They may want to comply, they may want
to impress and they may want to rebel ... simultaneously.
Teens need a safe
space to explore this transition. Many teens struggle with their
dependence while desperately wanting independence. They may experiment
with clothing, behaviors, ideas and values as they try to define their
identities and goals. They may swing between selflessly
idealistic and selfishly irresponsible.
We coach parents to help their teenage children
accelerate the formation of their adult identities, adult
emotional reality and adult goals.
How can you help Teenagers?
Communicate your values, expectations and limits. Teens decide how they feel
about themselves in large part by how their parents react to them. Perhaps
insist on honesty, self-control and respect, while allowing teenagers their own
space. The most important parental behaviors are often acceptance, enthusiasm
Avoid focusing only on problems. Avoid complaining and
criticism. Praise appropriate behavior. Give teens positive, caring
feedback. Consider asking for our coaching for yourself and your
teen - simultaneously. We can coach you both to look forward towards
achieving your goals, we can help you turn your dreams into reality.
Teenagers, especially teens in unstable families,
risk harmful behavior and lasting damage. Some warning signs
of teenage problems are:
- Quickly bored
- Weight gain or loss
- Trouble concentrating
- Drop in marks or grades
- Low sense of self-worth
- Trouble sleeping or waking up
- Not caring about people or things
- Fatigue, low energy, little motivation
Don't just hope that teen problems will just go away. Talk to teens and
listen carefully. It is easier to manage problems when the problems are small.
You and your teens can learn to work through problems together. Strive to be a
role model for mature behavior. Contact us to manage your own negative emotions
and relationship problems.
Your emotional maturity can rapidly develop,
although some researchers claim that it is fixed and unchangeable. It seems to depend on
the beliefs of the researchers and on how motivation and maturity
Search for a sense of life that helps you develop your maturity and
define worthwhile goals. If you enrich your life and the
lives of others, you can find a satisfaction that
seems to be reserved for the emotionally mature.
Do you want to ...
- Understand and accept yourself. We can offer candid feedback about your
so that you can see yourself as others see you.
We can help you accept reality and deal with it.
- Practice being unselfish, notice how
people respond to you differently and compare the responses with how people react to
your selfishness. Which reactions do you prefer?
- Find win-win solutions to conflicts and avoid dominating or manipulating other people. If a solution to a problem isn't good for both
of you, it probably won't be good for either of you.
- Evaluate the reactions of your friends and social contacts
and notice which situations which bring out your best ... and your worst.
We can coach you to manage negative emotions and solve
Contact us to solve
a sense of life that is only available to the emotionally mature.
Coaching & Counseling for Maturity
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