We offer coaching and counseling on exit coaching, cults,
dissolving fixations, obsessions and emotional bonds.
This also applies to relationship addictions.
Are you Involved with a Cult?
Words like extremist, cult and sect can
be difficult to define. Many businesses, militaries, government agencies
and professional associations can be described as extremist by
non-supporters. Members of human systems such as political parties,
religions, philosophies or even marketing organizations may
describe competing organizations as deviant cults or regressive sects.
Cults promote a new religion or a new
interpretation of an established religion,
while sects are groups that have broken
away from an established religion, often
in protest against what they
see as corruption or impure doctrine ...
Cults hate Competition
Abrupt and sometimes frightening personality changes may
indicate involvement with radical, extremist or fundamental groups that use
psychological techniques (often called brainwashing or mind control), to recruit
and keep members. This article is for people who want to leave extremist
political, religious, military or commercial organizations (e.g.
multi-level marketing), or dysfunctional families - but their leaving is
resisted by other members - often by emotional bonds, harassment, blackmail
and threats. (Some organizations call their obsessions patriotism and
try to criminalize alternate points of view.)
Our exit coaching is for people who are involved - or whose
friends or family are involved - in groups that use psychological
coercion, programming or hypnosis to increase and maintain their
membership. Exit coaching is also available for people leaving
academic and military organizations, who must reorient to a less regulated
and more competitive life. Many students with advanced degrees and many career
military personnel often have problems orienting to the world of civilian
We support people who are rescuing themselves from cults and to people who
are mentally and emotionally readjusting to a healthy life - or at least to
The people most likely to prefer extremist organizations and
cults seem to be those who grew up in families typified by codependent
behavior (e.g. addictions, obsessions, victimization, suicide, etc).
Our exit counseling is for people who want to leave cult-like
organizations ... but somehow cannot ...
. Abusive Relationships
. Spiritual Abuse
Toxic Beliefs & Relationship Bonds
Most conditioning involves installing elitist beliefs, for example:
"We are special", "Anyone who harasses us is
insane" and "Criticism is evidence of regression".
Many cult-like organizations attempt to place cult leaders (living or dead)
as high-authority parents in the minds of their members.
Many people explore the philosophies and religions
of the world, searching for genuine experiences of
belonging or being parented, or both.
People from dysfunctional families might find such offers irresistible.
Cult members often call each other Brother or Sister,
and may refer to the leaders as Mother or Father. Cult
leaders often discourage close connections to family and former friends,
to avoid dealing with other points of view. Members may be encouraged
to feel guilt if they even consider leaving their new family.
Soul Cult? .
Escape from Invisible Prisons
Brainwashing is a propaganda word. Cult brainwashing
can be more accurately described as a combination of persuasion, propaganda,
marketing, conditioning and restricted access to information. Many marketers,
governments, schools and even parents use similar, if more subtle, techniques.
Cult conditioning was once fought with deconditioning and
deprogramming, which are now associated with illegal, coercive
techniques used to counter brainwashing. These often-criminal methods
included abduction, sleep deprivation, sensory overload, condemnation,
isolation and physical confinement.
Although some ex-cult-members have said that these methods released them
from invisible prisons, others sued the deprogrammers. Coercive
deprogramming involves legal and psychological risks, and we do not
support nor recommend those methods.
Our research into relationship bonds has generated safer
alternatives. Our exit counseling and coaching helps distressed and isolated
adults end sick relationships and rebuild healthy relationships.
I asked you for help to leave <organization> and I am pleased with your approach. You did not try to make me do or think anything,
you helped me explore my choices and my consequences. You showed me that I had accepted the leaders as substitutes for
my parents and that I often acted like a young, obedient child. Singapore
Cult-conditioning is likely to be both emotional and
anti-intellectual. Activities often involve slogans (mantras)
and rituals, and avoid rational analysis. Our exit coaching helps
people evaluate and change emotionally charged relationships, while
assisting them to evaluate factual information about the
group they wish to leave.
Our exit coaching is for adults who want to change. It is gentle,
direct, intensive and time-limited. It emphasizes respectfully sharing
information, and it should not be rushed. We help people regain their
freedom of thought and action.
We help people during office visits, by telephone and
The time often depends on a person's motivation to live in the
community and culture which they prefer. If people dislike
their previous communities and cultures, we may help them research which
healthy communities they may enjoy joining.
When we help people heal relationships,
we respect each person's values, and
honor each person's wisdom.
We find that people make intelligent choices
when they know
is possible and potential consequences
and they are not entangled in
If a cult controls the members' finances and possessions, then
legal expertise may be required. If a group is pro-active about polygamy or unprotected sex,
then the consequences of sexually transmitted diseases and/or unwanted
pregnancies and/or abortions and/or children may complicate all these issues.
We do not attempt to persuade people
to leave cult-like associations.
We do not try to rescue people who do not want to be rescued!
We help motivated adults change toxic relationships.
Our exit counseling is for people who want to end
entanglement with a group, their leaders, their beliefs or their activities.
We help people who want to enjoy
emotional freedom. Contact us if you
want to choose your own life.
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