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Are you in a cult?
Words like extremist, cult and sect are
difficult to define. Many businesses, militaries,
government agencies and professional associations can be described as
extremist by non-supporters. People supporting a human system such as a
political party, religion or commercial organization may describe competing
human systems as deviant, regressive, cults or sects.
(Cults
promote a new religion or a new interpretation of an established religion,
while sects are groups that have broken away from an established religion,
often in protest against what they see as corruption or impure doctrine ...
Encyclopedia Encarta 2003.)
Cult leaders hate competition
Abrupt and sometimes frightening personality changes may
indicate involvement with radical, extremist or fundamental groups that use
psychological techniques (often called brainwashing or mind control), to
recruit and keep members. This article is for people who want to leave extremist
political, religious, military or commercial organizations (e.g. multi-level
marketing), or dysfunctional
families - but their leaving is resisted by other members - often by emotional
bonding, harassment, blackmail and threats. (Some organizations call their
actions patriotism and try to criminalize other points of view.)
Exit coaching is for people whose friends or family are involved
in groups that use psychological coercion, programming or hypnosis to increase and maintain membership. Exit coaching is also available for people leaving
academic and military organizations, who must reorient to a less regulated
and more competitive life. Many students with advanced degrees and career
military personnel have problems orienting to the real world of civilian
life.
The people most likely to prefer extremist organizations are
those who grew up in
families typified by codependent behavior (e.g. addictions,
obsessions, victims, criminal behavior, suicide, etc). Systemic exit
coaching is for people who want to leave cult-like organizations ... but
somehow cannot.
[ Abusive Trainers ]
[ Abusive Relationships ] [
Spiritual Abuse ]
Toxic beliefs & Relationship Bonds
Most conditioning involves installing elitist beliefs. Examples are:
"Only we know the truth", "Anyone who harasses us is
insane" and "Criticism is proof of regression".
Many cult-like organizations attempt to place cult leaders (living
or dead) as substitute high-authority "parents" (or Big Brother)
in the minds of the members. Other cult members are often
called brothers and sisters. Close connections to family and
former friends may be discouraged. Members may feel
tremendous guilt if they consider leaving their sacred new family.
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Psychological
Operations ] [
Soul Cult? ]
Escape from Invisible Prisons
Brainwashing is a propaganda word. Cult brainwashing is better
described as a combination of persuasion, propaganda, coercion, conditioning and
restricted access to information. Many advertisers, governments, schools and
parents use similar, if more subtle, techniques.
Cult conditioning was once fought with deconditioning and
deprogramming, which are now associated with illegal, coercive
techniques once used to counter brainwashing. These often-brutal methods included
abduction, sleep deprivation, sensory overload, shouted condemnation, isolation
and sometimes physical confinement. Although some ex-cult-members have said
that these methods released them from invisible prisons, others
sued the deprogrammers. Coercive
deprogramming involves legal and psychological risks, and we do not provide,
support nor recommend those methods.
A deeper understanding of human relationships provides safe alternatives.
Exit Counseling and Coaching helps distressed family members
build healthy relationships.
[ Dependent Relationships ]
[ Space for Love ] [
Soulwork Review ]
Exit Coaching
"Conditioning" by extremist groups is likely to be both emotional
and anti-intellectual.
Their activities often involve relationships, slogans and rituals, and avoid
intellectual analysis. Exit Coaching evaluates and changes emotionally
charged relationships, while assisting people to evaluate factual
information about the group they wish to leave.
Exit Coaching is for people who want to change. It is gentle, direct, intensive
and time-limited. It emphasizes respectfully sharing information, and it should
not be rushed. Freedom of thought and action can be regained.
Exit Coaching is available during office visits, or during intensive multi-day sessions. The
total time depends mostly on a person's motivation to be part of the culture in which he or she
lives. Often a person changes their lifestyle (their mini-culture) to suit their own goals.
Some cults control their members finances and possessions, and
legal expertise may be required. As many extremist groups control members' sexual activity,
Exit Coaching supports healthy relationships.
(If the group was pro-active about promiscuous sex, then
sexually transmitted diseases and/or unwanted pregnancies and/or abortions
may complicate the issues.)
[ Coaching Sexual Issues ]
[ Solutions for Sexual Issues ]
[ Abortion ]
Exit coaching is for motivated, responsible people who want to end
entanglement with specific group leaders, with a group's
beliefs and with a group's activities - they want to enjoy emotional freedom.
Effective Exit Coaching is for motivated people who are rested, alert,
responsible and thinking clearly. Exit coaching can be accelerated by family members and
former friends who contribute respectful, honest communication.
Exit Coaching helps people resolve traumatic and ritual abuse,
substance addictions, crisis, etc.
Helping professionals who wish to learn more about Soulwork Systemic
Coaching may be interested in experiential workshops, which are also
appropriate for people who wish to redefine their lives.
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