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Emotional Issues
Addictions
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Anxiety
Dependence
Depression

Dissociation
Eating Problems
Emotional Maturity
Grief & Loss
Immaturity
Inner Child

Pain Control
Sadness
Stress Relief

Toxic Beliefs
Trauma & Stress
Weight Loss

 

Relationship Problems
Abuse
Affairs

Codependence
Dissolve Conflicts
Divorce
Emotional Blackmail

Enjoy Partnership
Evaluate Partners
Long-Distance Love
Love & Hate

Partnership
Past Partners
Premarital
Rejection
Sexual Issues
Soul Mates

 

Family Challenges
Abuse

Abortion
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Ancestors
Brothers & Sisters
Divorce & Children
Emotional Incest
Family Meetings
Family Secrets

Fathers & Daughters
Fathers & Sons
Learning Disorders
Mothers & Daughters
Mothers & Sons

Parental Alienation

 

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Authority
Bad Habits
Being Alone
Children's Challenges
Communication
Observing Feelings

Patterns in Love
Personal Growth
Quantum Leap
Self Esteem
Self Improvement
Self Intimacy
Stress & Relaxing
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Chaos Coaching

Inner Conflict
Consciousness
Expert Modeling
Leadership
Learning Disorders
Mentorship

Psychobiology
Sexual Abuse
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Systemic Family Counseling
Changing Family Habits (Family Karma) Martyn Carruthers

Online Relationship Counseling & Soulwork Training


We offer coaching, counseling and training on improving family relationships,
family constellations and resolving family problems.

We help people create healthier and happier homes. We do this by helping people improve communication, solve emotional problems and cope with inevitable family situations such as births, illnesses, marriages and deaths.

As we perceive families as living systems of people rather than as groups of individuals, we use systemic psychology to evaluate family relationships in terms of responsibilities. We prefer to help a family solve problems by changing how the family works rather than trying to fix a specific member.

Families who do not resolve their problematic traditions or habits can expect these behaviors and consequences to be duplicated by their children and grandchildren. We sometimes call this family karma ...

Systemic Family Counseling

Your family will face predictable problems. Premature deaths, illnesses, missing family members, accidents or other injustices will happen. These events do not only impact the daily life of family members, and if handled poorly they can upset family harmony for generations.

Families are not only people - families include feelings, beliefs, values and goals and their environments and communities. Family behavior and cooperation are strongly affected by their perceptions of behaviors, beliefs, values and justice.

The exclusion of family members may not only hurt and humiliate those being rejected - other family members, perhaps in a subsequent generation, may try to bring back a missing family member, by adoption, by marriage or by identification - by trying to replace the alienated person.

We help people explore how unjust events affect their health, susceptibility to disease, and patterns of deaths, accidents or loss may be repeated in each generation. We offer opportunities for people to understand themselves and their relationships.

You can help prevent the unpleasant events and tragedies of your ancestors being repeated by your children - and your grandchildren. We can help you prevent and end cross-generational family enmeshment and intergenerational fixations.

Medical Doctor's Perspective . Identifications . Relationship Bonds
 

Common Interests and Differences

Most human behavior is influenced and maintained by emotions and relationships - by the way people interact.

We help individual people or whole families to explore and find ways to change how they behave in families and how families can behave in communities. We can help people cope with a changing world.

  • Individual Coaching - skills for success, health and happiness.
  • Couple Counseling: learn skills and dissolve emotional blocks for happy partnership.
  • Systemic Family Therapy: skills for parents - child-raising, family habits, learning disabilities, etc
  • Corporate Coaching skills for managers and negotiations; Team Leadership coaching.
  • Community Coaching and Trainer Training are also available.

Partnership . Predictable Partnership . Evaluating Partnership

Most remedial approaches deal only with symptoms, and not with systemic roots. Following such interventions, the system renews the symptom or creates another, continuing to express the dysfunction. People can be ill from the same illness repetitively, or from successive similar diseases. Systemic coaching resolves the fundamental imbalance; until the symptom spontaneously disappears. Rooted in relationships are: physical illnesses, compulsive-addictive behavior, mental blocks and repetitive life crises. Ana Pejcinova, PhD

We cannot help everybody. Systemic psychology may be too difficult for people taking psychoactive drugs, or who cling to their parents' habits. Families that are generally unsuitable for our systemic family work include:

  1. families with members who cannot or will not participate
  2. families with members who risk an emotional or psychological crisis
  3. families whose cultural or religious values are opposed to outside counseling

We can help family members to:

  • end abusive behavior
  • stop fighting and have more peaceful discussions
  • improve their empathy, understanding and sensitivity
  • express what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior
  • improve relationships with members who are perceived as "victims"
  • respect other members with personal space, contact; promises; boundaries
  • be fair to members, irrespective of their gender, age, birth order, role, abilities, race, etc

Some of our Family Resources

Learning Disabilities Emotional Incest

Family Spirit

Children of Divorce Post-Abortion Coaching

Dependencies

Parental Alienation

Ending Addictions

Stress Disorders

Mother-Son Fixations

Father-Daughter Enmeshment

Fixed Toxic Beliefs

 Enjoying Partnership

Evaluating Partnership

Predictable Partnership



Systemic Family Therapy

Questions we often ask about families:

  1. How close are the family members now?
  2. What would empower all family members?
  3. What could stop you being happy together?
  4. What do you want your family to do together?
  5. How do you want to improve family happiness?

Exploring and answering these questions allows you and your family to re-evaluate the situation. These questions may seem simple ... yet your full answers to these questions will likely be profound.

If one partner wants to change the other partner's perspectives, habits, beliefs or values - our coaching can help the partners integrate both of their goals, while learning how to exist independent of external manipulation or coercion. Partners can reach their goals - together.

We help people resolve emotions and family chaos by finding solutions for emotional blocks and relationship problems.

Systemic Training . Home-Study

'The family system is an idea that may have taken us all off track. It is far better to do away with the concept of the family system to which the treating professional is as active a contributor as anyone else. We would then not say the system creates the problem, but that the problem creates the system. In other words, a problem does not exist independently of the "observing systems" that are reciprocally and collectively defining the problem.'

Boscolo et al,1987


Changing Families

The interpretation of Soulwork family maps and constellations requires a wealth of knowledge about relationship dynamics and considerable experience, especially with partial personalities and transferences. Training tales a few weeks and proficiency can be gained within a few months.
Expertise demands massive experience.

We help families change unwanted habits. We create opportunities for shared responsibility. We help members develop self-esteem and responsibility, and healthy relationship skills.

  • Manage unpleasant emotions
  • Dissolve toxic relationship bonds
  • Provide or find healthy role models
  • Listen, respect and clarify communications
  • Build acceptance, trust, empathy and compassion
  • Respond appropriately to perceptions and feedback
  • Dissolve conflicts and find family integrity (family spirit)

Members of families, teams, organizations and communities are connected with each other, both with those present and those who have left. The healing effects of our systemic psychology continue to unfold as you honor and respect the fates and burdens of those who have belonged to your family or team.

We help people dissolve emotional blocks and improve relationships.
We offer online help, evaluation and feedback to motivated adults.
The effects are immediate - and unfold over generations.

Online Relationship Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 2003-2017 All rights reserved


If you like our work, please link to us. If you know someone who might benefit,
please mention www.SystemicPsychology.com or www.EmotionsRelationships.com

For online help, email us at: europecoach@gmail.com

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2017 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email europecoach@gmail.com