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Emotions, Relationships and Disease Symptoms
Practical Solutions © Martyn Carruthers

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

We help people sort out their emotions and solve relationship problems.

The wonders of modern medicine pace a decline in contact between
medical staff and their patients. Patients are more often referred to by
their diagnoses - "Nurse - check the liver cancer in room 6".

Relationships & Disease

Emotional difficulties may affect metabolic control and affect disease symptoms. We perceive that emotions reflect relationships and we help people manage their emotions and solve relationship problems. We

  • manage emotions, beliefs and stress
  • help patients and family members manage their emotions
  • improve relationships with family, friends and professionals
  • support healthy behaviors, such as diet and physical activity

Relationships with Families, Friends & Professionals

As relationships imply both harmony and differences, relationship conflicts can indicate healthy relationships. People who hide or avoid conflicts are often insecure or dependent. Discussions and conflict management are part of all relationships, whether with babies or a management committee.

Sick people may suffer severe mood swings, but be unaware of them; in each moment acting as if their current emotion is a basis for long-term decisions. During these times, their relationships may be under severe stress. Ill people may seem quite normal, yet say horrible things. Strange ideas may be announced as facts or a person may respond to a loving partner as if to a stranger.

Soulwork: Managing Emotions, Beliefs & Stress

We can assist and support people to deal with emotions associated with drugs and medications; and to improve the quality of relationships during difficult and troubling times. Some difficult topics are:

  1. Depression
  2. Survivor guilt
  3. Death and dying
  4. Stress and trauma
  5. Events (triggers) that cause anger, anxiety or sadness
  6. Beliefs about disease cause, seriousness, treatments

1. Events causing anger, anxiety or sadness

Anger, anxiety and sadness appear to be the primary emotions that many people want to "get rid of", "cut out" or "throw away". Yet in our coaching, these emotions are perceived as excellent and accessible doors to explore relationships and bonds.

We can help people manage their relationships and change negative emotions.

2. Beliefs about Cause, Seriousness and Treatment

While your beliefs may not be accepted by other people, they are real to you, and you will likely strive to prove or confirm your beliefs. If you believe that your disease is a just reward for your past action, you may not be motivated to heal. If you believe that your disease is temporary, you may ignore treatment. And if you believe that your treatment is ineffectual or counter-productive, you may resist it.

We can help people identify, manage and change their limiting beliefs.

3. Depression

People with chronic disease seem more likely to suffer from depression, and people with depression are at greater risk of chronic disease. Depression may reduce the desire to follow the prescribed treatment.

Depression may increase blood pressure and blood clotting and can also lead to elevated cholesterol. These risk factors, with obesity, form a group of signs and symptoms that often serve as both a predictor of and a response to heart disease.

Often, an underlying issue is guilt. If a person feels guilty, life may not make sense, which leads to depression. We can help people manage guilt from:

  • Betrayal or abandonment (e.g. betraying a partner or abandoning a child)
  • Relationship transferences (e.g. perceiving a partner as a parent or child)

4. Stress & Trauma

Stress influences disease. Emotional stress leads to the secretion of hormones that can disrupt metabolic control. Psychological trauma can accompany or follow treatment, for example after major surgery or mastectomy.

The resulting emotions can disrupt a personís relationships, eating habits, exercise and daily routines, and disturb heart disease treatment. A patientís emotional needs and problems are important components of disease treatment and integral to disease management.

5. Death, Dying & Grief

Some people with diseases will die. The family, helping professionals and friends may help prepare a person for this possibility - or they may avoid informing that person. A difficult decision is how much psychoactive drugs (usually pain-killing opiates) to administer during a person's final hours.

We can help people prepare for the death of a relative or friend, and express appropriate grief.

6. Survivor Guilt

People with life-threatening diseases often form close communities; bonded by suffering. The community members live under the threat and expectation of death - and those who survive while others die may experience an existential crisis, asking "Why should I live and not them?" Such a crisis may expose guilt and self-esteem issues. If ignored, survivor guilt may lead to depression.

Please consult a medical doctor about medical conditions.

Contact us to resolve success, emotional and relationship issues.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email