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Help for People with HIV and AIDS
© Martyn Carruthers

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Coach Training

We provide coaching and workshops on family constellations,
on resolving emotional chaos and on healthy relationships.

What are HIV & AIDS?

Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome (AIDS) is caused by the Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV), a retrovirus. Within a few months to many years, the HIV virus destroys enough white blood cells that the immune system cannot function properly. This life-threatening stage of HIV is usually called AIDS. AIDS was once thought to be inevitably fatal. Although there is no known cure, HIV can become a manageable condition.

2009: The Washington health department, the American capital city, has an epidemic of HIV/AIDS worse than many African nations, with 3% of people over the age of 12 infected. A report stated, "nearly every population group and age is experiencing a substantial epidemic with the greatest rates of infection among black men (6.5%), Hispanic men (3.0%), and white men (2.6%)".

What does HIV & AIDS do to you?

People infected with HIV develop life-threatening illnesses (AIDS) that rarely infect people with healthy immune systems. Yet some people infected with HIV delay developing the illnesses that cause AIDS for ten years or more.

What causes HIV & AIDS?

HIV can be transmitted by body fluids infected with the HIV virus, such as blood, semen, vaginal secretions and breast milk. The primary ways that HIV is transmitted are:

  1. sexual activity with a person infected with HIV
  2. pricking by a needle contaminated with infected blood
  3. transfer from an infected mother to her baby during birth or breast-feeding

You can prevent HIV and AIDS by safe sex practices, avoiding used needles and transfusions of untested blood.

What happens next?

If you are diagnosed with HIV, you must select and pay for treatment, perhaps while providing for a family. You must also cope with the shock and social stigma that may surround a diagnosis of AIDS. You may experience loneliness and strong emotions of anger, anxiety, depression, fear, guilt and sadness, that may require as much attention as your HIV infection.

Most people with HIV who survived for over five years have made drastic changes to their previously unhealthy lifestyles.

How are HIV & AIDS treated?

Health-care professionals focus on three areas of therapy:

  1. Drugs that suppress HIV replication
  2. Treatments that fight the infections and cancers that accompany HIV
  3. Support for relationships, emotions and practical issues

HIV and Physical Health

by Peter H. McCusker, author of From Dweeb to Adonis

If you are living with HIV, it is extremely important to take care of your health. Your body burns calories fighting HIV and you risk weight loss due to opportunistic infections. Sleeping, eating and exercising properly is vital if you are HIV+.

Three ingredients are necessary to get fit and to keep your body in shape: rest, digestion, and training. You probably need eight good hours of sleep. For more efficient nutrition, eat five or six small meals daily, instead of three larger meals. Protein, combined with complex carbohydrates, like whole grain breads, vegetables, and rice, makes for nutritious, muscle-building meals.

Training refers to exercises that build a healthy physique. While aerobic training is good for cardiovascular fitness, weight training is more effective for getting in shape. If you want to lose fat, lifting weights burns more calories than aerobics; and also builds lean muscle mass, which helps you defeat opportunistic illnesses.

Learning proper weight training and setting up an effective program will take a few weeks. Your goal is to work out all of your major muscles once a week, by training different parts of your body on each of three or four days a week. Intense one-hour workouts result in bigger, stronger muscles.

Concentrate on each muscle during your exercises to develop a mind-body connection that makes you more aware of yourself and your feelings. You can use symbolic imagery to control your fate - visualize muscle growth and strength that resists HIV.

What else can you do?

We help people sort out emotions and relationships, and extend and enjoy life.

Our coaching can change the patterns of toxic relationship behavior, for partners, families and teams. Perhaps you have been besieged by conflicting, contradictory and useless relationship advice and influences since your early childhood. How much of your understanding of relationships is from television, music, media personalities and cinema? Mentor damage can harm loving relationships.

We can help you find solutions for:

  • Damage by therapists
  • Relationship disappointments
  • Unwanted family and societal influences
  • Emotional reactions following abuse and trauma
  • Relationship trauma; simple and complex conflicts
  • Family entanglements, transferences and guilt issues

We use interactive metaphors (Dreamwork) to help people improve their mind/body communication and to discover and improve your relationship to your body. Explore your role in your recovery, and use your resources effectively. Discover and change your personal metaphors about illness and healing, and learn to use your emotional mind to support your own healing.

Psychoneuroimmunology approaches can help people influence their body's ability to heal. These approaches may not magic HIV away, but they can be used to make living with this condition easier, and perhaps reduce AIDS-related emotional suffering.

Identity loss and dead person identification are family disturbances. A family member, usually a young child, may unconsciously identify with the dead person. This risk is much higher if the dead person was perceived to have died a shameful death, as may sometimes happen with AIDS deaths.

Some alternative remedies such as auto-suggestion, homeopathy, flower essences, hypnosis, progressive muscle relaxation, laughter therapy, color therapy, biofeedback, music therapy, oxygen/ozone therapy and thymus therapy - may also help relieve HIV/AIDS symptoms.

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NOTE: Consult a physician about HIV, AIDS or other medical conditions.

We help individuals, partners and teams to manage a
wide range of emotional, educational and relationship challenges.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email