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Sexual Solutions: Impotence & Frigidity

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Partnership Problems

Male impotence and female frigidity are common partnership problems, describing an inability to enjoy normal sexual activity, or experience the pleasure of orgasm. These sexual dysfunctions may have relationship or emotional causes. Many sexual dysfunctions represent relationship issues.

Some sex dysfunctions can be resolved for the long term with Soulwork systemic coaching. If ignored, sexual problems can increase the likelihood of a partner's sexual affairs or divorce.

Common causes include emotional incest, promiscuous behavior, unresolved past partners, affairs and abortions. The emotional causes of sexual dysfunction include:

• emotional incest (son with mother - guilt)
• emotional incest (daughter with father - guilt)
• consequences of abortions (guilt)
• promiscuous behavior (sexual affairs - guilt)
• betrayal of past partner (guilt)
• dominance battle between partners (anger / fear)
• sexual abuse between close family members (anger / guilt)
• allergies, physical or psychosomatic symptoms

(Note: the only people that we have met with Freud's "classic" Oedipus, Electra and penis envy complexes had attended psychoanalysis or been trained in psychodynamic therapy).

Sexual Dysfunction

As sexual dysfunction often reflects emotional conflicts, Soulwork coaching has helped many people. Specific physical conditions predisposing sexual dysfunction can be treated medically. Sexual dysfunctions that respond to systemic coaching include:

• Hypersexuality (sexual addiction) - constant sexual arousal;
• Hyposexuality (inhibited sexual excitement) - sexual arousal only with difficulty;
• Anorgasmia - inability to achieve orgasm despite normal sexual stimulation;
• Vaginismus - a woman's vaginal muscles contract during intercourse;
• Dyspareunia - a woman experiences significant pain during intercourse;
• Premature ejaculation - a man ejaculates before or shortly after entering a vagina;
• Ejaculatory impotence (inhibited male orgasm) - a man cannot achieve orgasm in a vagina (although he can sustain an erection and may reach orgasm by other methods);
• Erectile dysfunction - a man cannot sustain an erect penis.

Male Impotence

Approximately 10 percent of all men will one day be unable to achieve or maintain an erection. A man who cannot maintain an erect penis is unable to participate fully in sexual intercourse.

• The most common risk factors for impotence are anxiety, stress or relationship conflicts.
• Some drugs have side effects that can contribute to impotence. These include diuretics, tricyclic antidepressants, beta-blockers, and hormones.
• Physical causes of impotence include trauma and disease such as: diabetes; pelvic surgery; spinal injury; glandular problems and multiple sclerosis.

Erectile dysfunction may be expressed in early adolescence as an inability to achieve erection; but more  commonly consists of adult onset after years of normal function.

Ejaculatory impotence is a male inability to ejaculate within a sexual partner's vagina. An erection may be maintained for long periods, even after the partner has achieved orgasm. Ejaculatory impotence usually has an emotional systemic (relationship) cause.

Female Frigidity

A woman who is not aroused during sexual intercourse may be called frigid. Frigidity has three distinct symptoms:

• does not enjoy sexual response (with a specific partner, or generally)
• can achieve sexual arousal only with difficulty (hyposexuality)
• cannot achieve orgasm (anorgasmia)

Female frigidity may be caused by emotional incest, trauma, vaginal spasms (vaginismus) or pain (dyspareunia) during attempted intercourse. As with men, female sexual response may be impaired by relationship and emotional causes, triggered by emotional conflicts, anxiety or other stresses.

Relationship Coaching

Left unresolved, sexual dysfunction increases the likelihood of symptoms associated with Depression. Soulwork coaching can help alleviate mental discomfort or sexual dysfunction, especially if the dysfunction involves strong emotions or difficult relationships.

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Systemic Couple Coaching helps couples who suffer from  relationship and sexual problems that affect their partnership. Relationship Coaching helps partners overcome anxieties, conflicts and trauma.

Individual coaching can be provided for individuals without partners, or for people whose partners will not co-operate. This often focuses on resolving emotional conflicts and relationship trauma to improve all interactions, including sexual intimacy.

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