Internet websites entice many people into shameful behaviors.
We help people
to end internet addictions and make healthy changes.
We help people overcome online obsessions and internet compulsions.
Do you use the internet recreationally
for more than ten hours each week?
A study found that 50% of internet users
said that they spend about half of their online time avoiding productive
activities. The emotional,
psychological and social implications of internet addiction indicate loneliness
Procrastination, low productivity,
social withdrawal and relationship difficulties are
common among those spending an unhealthy amount of time on the Web
Richard Davis, York University, Toronto, Canada.
Some people find the internet to be more
addictive than drugs! We help people who spend
so much time online, especially in sexual chat rooms, viewing pornography,
gambling or playing games, that they have problems in their families and at work.
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open the door to the world of happiness and prosperity!
People who use internet contacts as a substitute for
meaningful relationships can damage their mental health. We find that your
health, wealth and happiness generally reflect your relationships!
Symptoms of Internet Addiction
- Internet use relieves or avoids withdrawal symptoms
- Significant time spent in activities related to
- Time using the Internet interferes
with daily responsibilities
- Internet is often accessed more often, or
for longer periods of time
- Important social, occupational, or recreational
activities are reduced
- Important relationship, job, education or career
opportunities are at risk
- Withdrawal impairs functioning, e.g.
anxiety, boredom, obsessions, fantasies
Addicted to Internet Pornography?
Internet pornography is a billion dollar industry.
Online pornography is an equal opportunity destroyer. Perhaps youíve read
about the consequences - but reading rarely produces transformation. We can help
you manage your emotions and solve relationship problems. We can help you restore your sanity and your life.
My boyfriend is addicted to internet porn. He said he would stop but
He says he has stopped but I don't believe him. He wants
to get married
I don't trust him enough. I feel unloved
and hurt. Bath, UK
Many internet addicts are victims of
emotional incest and
parental alienation. Perhaps we can be the
catalyst you need to change unwanted habits.
We find that people involved with cybersex may not
have sexual addictions,
but use pornography to explore and
experiment with sexual fantasies.
But such experiments can damage partnerships and lead to obsessions.
Online Sex - Internet Porn Addiction
Internet pornography addiction progresses faster
than other types of porn addiction, and can leave you feeling
unclean, dirty and guilty. If you are addicted to
internet porn, will you end your internet connection or block your browser?. We offer
online coaching for all parts of
life, including the expression of sexuality:
My teenage son is addicted to
internet games. He plays evenings and nights and skips
play. I tried everything I can think of to make him stop ... Essex
Comment from her son:
I like gaming
because I feel accepted ...
I can be good at
something and feel like I'm an important part of a team. Essex
We see compulsive gaming as a relationship issue rather than a psychological
problem; and if gamers are over 18 - their parents have no legal
right to intervene. We coach gamers to develop social activities and
communications skills, and to avoid symptoms associated with
video game addiction.
I donít play games to be myself - I try on other
I can be a dark wizard, a spaceship captain or an army general!
Internet Chat Rooms
People who spend many hours online each week
recreationally have told us that chat rooms are compulsive and that
obsessive online chatting can damage their lives.
My husband of seven years is addicted to sexual chat rooms.
He's been doing it for two years. I hate this! I'm crying
all day and not eating.
All I can see in front of me is divorce! Orlando
- Do you secretly chat at work?
- Does chatting interfere with your life?
- Do you feel agitated if you cannot chat?
- Do you spend longer chatting than you want?
- Do you miss important activities because you are
Solutions for Internet Addiction
I have tried to get my wife offline for
over a year. She gets up at 5:30am and is online until
7:30am then goes to work. She comes home at 5:30pm then stays on line till 10:00pm.
We hardly ever talk. When I threaten to leave, she laughs at me.
We help people set realistic goals for Internet
use. We an help you set realistic goals for Internet usage (computer
programs can provide accurate reports of surfing behavior).
ask for regular progress reports, or set up healthy rewards that you
can earn by meeting your goals. We can help you identify triggers, set realistic
goals and then stick to and monitor your progress to your goals.
Prevention & Solutions
- Be nice to yourself.
- Gradually decline online time.
- Know what you want tin (real) life.
- Reward yourself for good behavior.
- Do something different to meet people.
- Ask friends for ideas for alternative activities.
- Go offline - take whole days off from the internet.
- Identify underlying problems. From what do you to
want to escape?
Do you neglect your health, relationships, work or responsibilities?
Online Life Coaching & Counseling for Internet Issues
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Internet Addiction - Possible Diagnostic
A pattern of
Internet use, leading to impairment or distress as manifested by three (or more)
of the following,
occurring at any time in the same 12-month period:
(I) tolerance, as defined by either:
(A) A need for markedly increased amounts of time on Internet to
achieve satisfaction, or (B) markedly diminished effect with continued use of the
same amount of time on Internet (II) withdrawal, as manifested by either
(A) the characteristic withdrawal syndrome
(1) Cessation of (or reduction) in Internet use that has been heavy and
(2) Two (or more) of the following, developing
within several days to a month after Criterion 1: (a) psychomotor agitation (b)
anxiety (c) obsessive thinking about what is happening on Internet (d) fantasies
or dreams about Internet (e) voluntary or involuntary typing movements of the
(3) The symptoms cause distress or
impairment in social, occupational or other important area of functioning
(B) Use of Internet or a similar on-line service is engaged in to relieve or
avoid withdrawal symptoms (III) Internet is often accessed more often or for
longer periods of time (IV) There is a persistent desire or
unsuccessful efforts to control Internet use (V) Much
time is spent in activities related to Internet use (e.g., buying Internet
books, trying new browsers, researching Internet vendors, organizing files of
downloaded materials (VI) Important social, occupational, or recreational
activities are given up or reduced because of Internet use. (VII) Internet use
is continued despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent physical,
social, occupational, or psychological problem that is likely to been caused or
exacerbated by Internet use (sleep deprivation, marital difficulties, lateness
for early morning appointments, neglect of occupational duties, or feelings of
abandonment in significant others)