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Emotional & Psychological Health © Martyn Carruthers

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

Benefit today from online helping professionals.

Online Counseling & Internet Therapy

Online counseling is not so different from office visits. Much of our online help can be as effective as if you visited our offices, and you probably have other uses for your time, energy and traveling expenses. You can benefit from our internet coaching to solve many emotional problems, build healthy relationship and improve your mental health.

Since 1988 we have trained many coaches, therapists and alternative therapists, medical doctors and consultants in our systems coaching. Over this time we have amassed huge experience about mental health solutions for emotional problems and how to build all kinds of healthy relationships - at home and at work.

We never stop improving our counseling tools!

Do you want to stop wasting time and energy? Do you want to recognize relationship problems early and solve them before they become crisis? We help people move on in life with a helping hand, and occasionally with a helping foot.

We only promise what we believe we can deliver.
We let our experience speak to us as well as to you.
We can discuss every solution before applying it.

We have distilled years of experience of teaching and coaching in a wide variety of human relationships: using therapeutic coaching, organizational consulting, expert modeling and business trouble-shooting. Much of this information applies equally to relationship coaching, management consulting and corporate coaching.

Coaching or Therapy?

You choose. Basically, life coaching is more for people who are goal directed and action based; relationship counseling is more for couples who want to improve their partnership, and systems coaching is more for families and teams.

This table is adapted from Therapist as Life Coach: Transforming Your Practice by Dr. Patrick Williams.

Life Coaching Psychotherapy
For healthy people who desire better situations For patients with identifiable dysfunctions
Deals mostly with a personís goals and blocks
and seeks to help people create better futures
Deals mostly with a patient's past trauma,
and seeks to heal people
Helps people learn new skills and tools
to build more satisfying successful futures
Helps patients manage old pain and suffering
Co-creative equal partnership (coaches help people explore their blocks and solve their problems) Doctor-patient relationship (a therapist
provides the diagnosis and the solutions)
Assumes emotions are natural and normal Assumes emotions are unnatural and abnormal
Growth and progress are often rapid and enjoyable Growth and progress are often slow and painful
A coach helps people identify their goals and blocks, then walks with them to success, holding people accountable for reaching their own goals. A therapist provides professional expertise
and guidelines to diagnose problems
and provide a path to healing.

Help for Helping Professionals

We help a lot of helping professionals work through some more or less predictable challenges. But helping professionals ask us for help - after things go wrong, instead of sharpening their tools before things go wrong. Every skill they master makes other skills easier. Some of the problems that helping professionals can get into are:

  1. Intimacy with a client
  2. Inappropriate training
  3. Inappropriate solutions
  4. Autobiographic diagnosis
  5. Inadequate goal coaching
  6. Poor relationship clarification
  7. Inadequate crisis management
  8. Inadequate practice of their skills
  9. Insufficient experience or supervision
  10. Choosing or accepting inappropriate clients

Psychological Health

Although you can choose to change your life in many ways, not so many strategies are  effective. An efficient strategy for personal development includes solving psychological health problems. One useful approach is:

  1. consider a "big picture" of what you want in life
  2. list your deficiencies, blocks or weaknesses
  3. for each weakness, note your emotions
  4. for each deficiency, set a positive goal
  5. choose a sequence - which goal first and which next, etc
  6. outline strategies for each of your goals
  7. consider which relationships support  or hinder you
  8. find solutions for relationship problems
  9. take action to create recognizable success
  10. enjoy your success ... and set new goals

We offer solutions for most relationship problems and communication challenges. We coach people to improve their relationships as an integral part of defining and attaining important goals. Our coaching includes solutions for identity loss and self-sabotage.

The consequences of relationship problems often worsen over time, causing relationships to descend towards codependence. Your willingness to solve your emotional problems reflects your maturity!

Happy people seem to make the most of everything. Happiness may be reserved for people who can love appropriately and in full measure ... for people who can appreciate, accept and encourage other people who touch their lives.

Do you want to solve psychological blocks to your happiness?
Do you want healthy relationships?

Online Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 2001-2018
All rights reserved.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email