Women more often talk about
intuition - men more often talk about gut feelings.
What is the difference between intuitions, gut feelings and
Intuition - Truth and Consequences
Many times I followed my feelings into
avoidable suffering. And many times I did not attend to
my own feelings, and missed opportunities. I write this page to organize
my thoughts, feelings and experiences about intuition.
While most people can recall feelings about situations involving risk, some
people claim special
or infallible insights about the truth or future of situations or opportunities - without access to facts
or concrete information. These special people may make claims and
predictions (often retroactively, e.g. I knew that would
Claims to intuit the far future, the
distant past, or life on the Pleiades, appears to be harmless delusions. Someone who can accurately intuit tomorrow's stock market
prices could quickly become a billionaire ... but these self-proclaimed
intuitives prefer to teach
others how to duplicate their behavior.
Apart from the accuracy of
intuitive advice, I am interested in the responsibilities
and consequences of giving and accepting irrational advice.
How responsible are the advisors? How mature are the people who
pay for this? How does giving and accepting irrational advice
affect people's lives - their relationships with friends, families and
children, and their life path?
What is Intuition?
The word intuition comes from the Latin
intueri, which translates as looking inside or contemplating.
Intuition could be defined as an apparent ability to acquire knowledge
without inference or logic.
As I look around today's advertisements on the internet,
intuition often describes: a) guesses, or b) an unconscious
synesthesia of received information, c) some sort of unrealistic
idealism or d) scams.
Intuition is a comprehensive grip of the
principles of universality. A person who develops intuition can know anything,
without the barriers of time, space or other obstructions
As intuition is often used to proclaim or support irrational
beliefs, intuition has been a subject of study in psychology, and a topic of
perennial interest for members of New Age groups. The internet offers
many pages about intuition training (over two million hits on Google just now).
I note that the goals of these trainings are rather abstract,
without evidence or checks to test whether or not intuitions
are accurate, relevant or even safe. So much is assumed
to be true.
After I teach you how to listen to your intuition ... you'll possess
an unfailing source of wisdom that will guide you, moving you through
crises and towards your hopes and dreams.
No responsibility seems to accompany intuited advice. If
their advice isn't effective - too bad - you're on your own.
As for consequences, intuitive people seem most comfortable around
other intuitive people (if they avoid discussing details), and do
not seem overly tolerant of people with other perspectives.
I Feel Therefore I Am
Two mental facilities are thinking
(inner dialogue) and feeling (self perception). Our thoughts
reflect what we consciously know or at least suspect, while our
feelings seem to reflect our less conscious impressions.
I avoid circular arguments that what
feels right must be right because it feels right!
But rather than trying to make the irrational rational, let's consider
A parents' predictions can enormously affect their children's'
lives. If parents pronounce their guesses as infallible truth,
the children must either deal with this at some age, or carry a
burden throughout life, not wanting to prove a parent to be wrong.
A person who offers intuitive advice to friends may
lose those friends. But, if they are skilled orators, they may
replace those friends with followers or even devotees.
Truth or Consequences?
Much depends on the definitions that we use. Some
people's descriptions of intuition sound very much
like thinking, some sound like guessing and others
like random association. I have talked with many people
who make important decisions on the basis of intuitions or card games
that were purchased from other people.
If the intuited advice was beneficial, people
give praise. If the advice was not beneficial - some intuitive people may
blame the enquirer for thinking bad thoughts, having doubts
or lacking faith.
This leads to a dark side of intuitive advice ...
mentor damage. Dysfunctional mentors may seek
compliant adults and use their authority to treat those adults as if they were
children, or use them to test ideas. Some people need to
influence others - especially disillusioned
people or people in a mid-life crisis who
want to create meaning in their otherwise meaningless lives. And some
people use other people as guinea pigs or research rabbits to test their
You can probably recall unpleasant experiences
that damaged your relationships - even relationships with friends or family.
Following mentor damage, I find that many people become unable to discern who
is good for them - and who not. Some abused people avoid any form of
mentorship - and some seek out many forms of advice - often simultaneously!
Both reactions can increase the inner chaos.
Were you raised in a family and a community that
preferred myths to reality? In my coaching, I often explore
personal myths - some can be called:
- Lost Identity - lost or diminished
contact with sense of self
- Identity Conflict - identify with two
or more people simultaneously
- Identification - identify with another
person, usually while under stress
- Identity Bonds - behavior is bonded to
others, often by a need to survive
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Intuition and Identity Loss
Many people complain of chronic sadness, anxiety, anger or
inner criticism. We often coach such people to recover parts of
themselves which were split-off during trauma or disappointment (see
Inner Child). Probably you can
recognize people with these symptoms ...
- People who cannot define their own goals or outcomes
- People who were once idealistic and are now depressed
- People who describe empty spaces
in or close to their bodies
- People who express few or no emotions and appear dissociated
- People with little internal motivation - they must be
asked or pushed
You constantly expose your maturity.
Use your feelings (intuition) and your thoughts (reason)
when you choose and implement plans, without relying too much on either.
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